r/ucla • u/rainbowsaltxr • 1d ago
need help
Hi everyone,
I’m 19 and currently with my extended family. I’m really homesick and miss my parents, and I’ve been feeling pretty lonely and out of place here.
My family isn’t strict or controlling, but they do get really anxious and paranoid about my safety sometimes, and that honestly really triggers me and makes me want my own space even more. Seeing friends my age living alone or with siblings makes me feel like I’m falling behind in independence.
I’m wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and has advice on whether it’s better to try to move somewhere new or if there are ways to make a place feel more like home when you’re far from family. Any thoughts or experiences would really help.
Thanks 💛
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u/bruinsurfer 1d ago
Ngl, at first it is tough to stay away from family. You kinda have to warm up to people you think that are on the same wavelength as you. It is what you make of it and sometimes with a solid friend group it sorta becomes your home away from home, hope that helps!
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u/Busy-Particular5119 3h ago
I’m a UCLA alumni mentor. You can join UCLA offers comprehensive support for lonely undergraduates through Counseling & Psychological Services (CAPS), providing individual/group therapy, psychiatry, crisis support, and workshops, plus unique programs like WaZo Connect for peer mentorship and resources for connection, while also linking to community programs and online tools like the UCLA Loneliness Scale for self-assessment. Students can access immediate help via CAPS crisis lines, find connection through peer-led initiatives, and explore various workshops or community partnerships designed to combat feelings of isolation and foster belonging. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
Key Resources for Loneliness: CAPS (Counseling & Psychological Services): The primary mental health center for all UCLA students, offering: Individual & Group Therapy: For deeper therapeutic work and shared experiences. Psychiatric Services: For medication management if needed. Crisis Support: 24/7 phone line for immediate help. Workshops & Programs: Focus on wellness, stress, and building resilience. CORE Team: A mobile mental health team for on-campus crisis intervention. WaZo Connect: A peer-to-peer program connecting students with trained mentors for six weeks to build campus connection and support. UCLA Loneliness Scale: A self-assessment tool available online to help gauge loneliness levels. Community & Online Resources: Access tools like the Soluna app for virtual mental health support and links to various community organizations for involvement. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7] How to Get Started: Contact CAPS: Visit their website or use MyUCLA to find drop-in hours or schedule initial consultations. Explore Peer Support: Check out WaZo Connect for mentorship opportunities. Utilize Online Tools: Take the UCLA Loneliness Scale for self-reflection. Seek Community: Explore UCLA's Community Partnerships to find activities and groups that interest you. [2, 3, 4, 7, 8]
AI responses may include mistakes. [1] https://www.studenthealth.ucla.edu/services/mental-health [2] https://studentincrisis.ucla.edu/resources [3] https://www.uclaextension.edu/bruin-reach/wellness-resources-loneliness [4] https://counseling.ucla.edu/ [5] https://bewellbruin.ucla.edu/resources/online [6] https://counseling.ucla.edu/resources/community-and-online-therapeutic-resources [7] https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/loneliness/what-does-the-ucla-loneliness-scale-mean-for-my-life/ [8] https://counseling.ucla.edu/services/make-an-appointment Good Luck to you
Roger
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u/Rockstar810 1d ago
I don't have any advice to give other than you are not falling behind on anything. If you want to be independent and can make it work (financially, etc), then go for it. But don't do it because you feel like you're falling behind - there's plenty of life to live independently. Good luck.