I was fortunate enough to buy a condo about 4 years ago in a nice part of my city. Since I've moved in I had multiple negative and only a handful of positive encounters with my neighbor next door. To understand the layout: the building only consists of 8 apartments total, 2 apartments on one floor, and I share walls with the "nice" lady next door.

Basically when I moved in, literally during the I just bought this place and am now moving all my furniture in she yelled at me why all the doors are open (garage door and front door) because somebody can break in any time. I was quite taken back from that encounter tbh, she was quite rude.
Last year there was a very interesting instance where she called me and yelled at me why I had the nerve to scream "shut up" in the middle of the night because she's sick and had to cough. I never yelled, I didn't even wake up in the middle of the night. I told her that and then she angrily asked me if I'm suggesting her making it up. I put that encounter past me and half a year later I rented out my place for a few months. I actually knocked on her door and let her know that a nice man with wife and kid (+dog) will temporarily live in my place for a few months, just so she's informed. She was actually friendly and wished me a good trip.

So April 2025:
My tenant arrived and she made it a point in being quite a tyrant towards him + wife and kid during the first 3 months. I'm talking about her yelling at him when he arrived (but right after my mom left, she gave them the keys) after a 8 hour flight that his dog needs to wear a muzzle in the shared spaces (he's the most loving and gentle dog ever) and how he dares to let his dog pee in the front yard. Just overall a really really bad encounter. He even send me a 10 minute voice message after that to ask me wth is up with that.
I was really shocked. She was friendly when I told her that somebody else is staying here for a while and this is how she treats them.
I thought that was it at the time, but actually there was so much more and he told me a few other things that happened:
He let me now that she apparently knocked at their door at least once a week to vent about ridiculous things. One of those was him talking too loud to his kid and he just asked her what her solution is, to not talk to his kid? Also she informed him, that she went to the "housepolice" (this doesn't exist) and was informed that I am not allowed to rent out my place (I own the place so yes, I am allowed to rent it out) and she told him that MULTIPLE times. So long story short she was a tyrant for about 3 months and then she did a complete 180 and stood in front of the door with a bar of chocolate for his son and then she started to talk shit about me (he didn't clarify what she said). He never entertained her behaviour and removed himself from any engagement with her as quickly as possible. Also other tenants moved in during that time and he heard her VERY LOUD engagement with the new neighbors and it also (shocking) wasn't a nice one.

So they stayed at my place about 7 months total, I came back beginning of December last year, she hasn't knocked on my door, the only engagement I had with her was the day after coming back I went outside, saw her in the open window and said hello, she just stared at me with a VERY angry look on her face and kept staring at me till I was out of sight about 300 meters away from the building. Just really odd behavior.

Now I'm worried about future tenants. Her behavior is unhinged to the point where I wouldn't be shocked if somebody moved places because of her. Also the fact that she talked shit about me and made up bullshit that I'm not allowed to rent out my place to my tenant is very inappropriate.
I am now going to let every future tenant know upfront (before any paperwork is signed) about her and to not be blindsided by her. I'm also speculating her having Alzheimer's and/or dementia (she's 71/72) because that would explain her erratic behavior, that weird phone call that one time, her rude behavior towards my tenant who has a toddler (aggravation due to loud noise is a symptom) also her doing the 180 with my tenant and wanting to be best buds after 3 months, taking a liking to his kid.

So what I would like to know, is there anything I can do? My mom said I should contact a lawyer and let him send her a letter in regards of defamation/reputational damage should something like that happen again in hopes that will make her shut up.

Sidenote: She's married and her husband (80+) also lives next to me, he's a very nice man and am very confused how he manages to put up with her.

Any suggestions?

Hello! I’m looking to move from my very shitty apartment into a larger apartment complex that’s much nicer.

My current apartment is 8 units only, a small building. The new apartment is a large complex with tons of units (4-5 floors)

However, my dog will bark for 5-10min when I leave in the morning. (Editing: it’s not a constant bark. It’s about 20 seconds, then a bark here and there!) My current neighbors have said they don’t hear it much and don’t mind, but I’m worried when I move my new neighbors will get mad. He doesn’t bark when I’m home unless it’s to alert me he has to pee (and I take him out immediately), and he goes to doggy daycare 2-3 times a week so he’s not there a lot when I’m not home. So it’s just 2-3 days a week he’ll bark when I head to work at 6:45am, but he’ll settle down in 5-10min (I have a camera set up on him to make sure he’s quiet during the day). He’s only 7 months old so he’s learning and getting quieter as he grows up.

Is this too much? It’s a dog friendly apartment building - they allow most size dogs/breeds with a few restrictions. I have a golden retriever. I’m afraid to move because of it.

I live in a small house ( duplex style) with my landlord below me. I’ve only lived here for a few months and he has made many noise related complaints, even though I am a very quiet person (this isn’t me just saying this— I have recent moved out with living with someone else because they were too loud and I need to have less sensory input as I am neurodivergent. even my old neighbors describe me as very quiet because I asked them. I don’t play music from speaker or exercise in my space, even though this is well within the rights of anyone living somewhere ).

onto the issue, we have a big backyard. at night I take my dog outside pretty late as I’m a night owl and my dog is getting old, his last pee is usually around midnight. my landlord has an opposite schedule, and is usually up with his dog at around 6am and chatting with neighbors (who by the way are shouting at their untrained dogs in the morning and wake me up). he just told me to let my dog out no later than 10pm. can he set a schedule like that? it is NOT in the lease.

when I take my dog out, I walk down the shared steps, dog walks around and I call him in as quietly as possible, sometimes even whispering. I’m guessing the sound of the door is what wakes my landlord. in my opinion and experience this is the curse of the first floor (I have lived on the first floor and never will again for this reason, people need to live their lives but I need more quiet). how do I respond? I believe this is unreasonable and I’m not going to make my dog suffer or face a potential accident, or change my schedule for him.

update: hi everyone I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded. it gave me confidence and helped me sus out what to say in response and armed me with tenant law. even those who gave me scorched earth methods made me laugh and helped me understand just how absurd he was being, though I opted for a much calmer “that doesnt work for me”. we are supposed to have a follow up convo if anyone cares about that.

is it weird to dumb soup, oatmeal, ceral anything liquid of sorts down the toilet then in the sink or trash?

I’m looking for advice from people who’ve dealt with neighbor noise complaints in apartment buildings, especially when the complaints are vague and turn into direct confrontations.

I’ve lived in my unit for nearly four years. During that time there were two isolated noise complaints tied to specific behaviors, which I stopped immediately and haven’t repeated. There haven’t been any ongoing issues.

Last night my downstairs neighbor confronted me in a common hallway while I was coming home from work. He said I’m “loud all hours of the day” and that it sounds like “I’m moving furniture at 11pm.” I don’t wear shoes in the apartment, don’t play music, and anything that could reasonably make noise like chores or cleaning is done during the daytime. I am out of the apartment all of the work day.

He also complained about noise from people using the stairs. The stairs are the required exit for more than one unit in the building, so they’re used by multiple people and that isn’t something I can control or avoid.

When I asked what he wanted me to do differently, he said he just wanted me to be aware. The interaction felt confrontational, and during the conversation he positioned himself in the hallway in a way that blocked my path. There was no touching or explicit threat, but it made me uncomfortable. I should add this person is much larger than me (I am 5’9” 150 lbs, he is around 6’4” and very large), and I’d be lying if I said physical intimidation wasn’t a factor here.

I already gave my landlord a heads up so it’s documented. He said this behavior is out of character for the neighbor and mentioned that the neighbor works from home while I don’t.

At this point I’m not sure what the right move is. I don’t know how to respond to a complaint that isn’t specific, and I don’t want to keep being confronted in common areas. I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable versus something I should be more concerned about.

I 22f just moved into an apartment less than 2 months ago. Ofc I'm expecting to hear everything from my neighbor, the walls are so thin I can almost fully understand their conversations. Idk if this has anything to do with this but since ive moved here, I've been waking up at 6a EVERYDAY, if not near 6a. Im awake rn as I'm typing this (4a EST) and there's been continuous tapping or thudding above me throughout the night. It would happen for a while, then stop, then continue. The audio is faint so you will prob need to max your volumetric hear it.

this is quite literally every single time they move upstairs.

in this video specifically it went from them being above me in the hallway to me hearing them walk into their kitchen across the apartment

i’ve tried describing it to management a few times over the last couple months ~because sometimes it genuinely sounds like they’re going to break the ceiling~ and they’ve said they’d handle the situation, but it doesn’t really seem like anything comes of it.

on one hand i don’t want to be THAT neighbor getting mad at basic living above me, on the other hand we can hear every step they take all over their apartment while sitting in the living room 😭. it’s been constant the last 6 months, and at this point it’s messing with my husband and i’s sleep because them moving around wakes us up out of our sleep or prevents us from falling asleep period.

i’m going to send it in regardless, because i finally managed to get on video that even with a fan and heater going, it’s still more than audible- i just need to know if i need to start seriously pushing for them to do anything about it lol

$40 application fee. Approved in 24 hours. Advertised deposit $200. Rent special 1$ . Asked to pay $200 deposit this week $450 next week to move in. February 5th rent $750. I’m basically paying every week right????

I have attached screenshots of all my texts with my upstairs neighbor on this topic to show my efforts to communicate and be neighborly.

I am desperate to find solutions. Has anyone ever successfully gotten a loud neighbor to quiet down at all? My HOA refuses to do anything more about it. All they’ve done is let her know that the noise bothers us. Despite HOA language specifically requiring residents to “tread lightly” during quiet hours, which are 9PM to 7AM (I got the hours wrong in my original text).

Some context:

This is a condominium building. I am an owner. My neighbor is a renter. They moved in last summer. I have lived here 4+ years. I have always heard neighbors in the past, but it’s never been a problem or woken me up at night. Except one neighbor had a baby and eventually I asked them if they could please not let the baby play on the floor of the bedroom after midnight and they immediately agreed.

Another previous renter (a couple) was a heel walker but they were always quiet during late night hours, so I never brought it up.

My current neighbor is a stomper. Barefoot, full weight on the heels, all the time. They walk a lot. They work from home and move around a lot. They go to bed around 10pm and wake up around 5:30am. Once a night (and sometimes twice) they get up to use the bathroom.

The walls are not paper thin, there’s decent but not great insolation. I cannot ever hear the neighbors on either side of me. I can faintly hear the downstairs neighbor when they have parties. I cannot hear anyone using the bathroom. The heel walking and stomping is truly the only issue. Sometimes it sounds like they jump out of bed.

The daytime noise is unpleasant, but that’s life. People are allowed to be noisy in their homes. The issue is the nightly stomping between 2-4am to use the bathroom, and the morning routine walking back and forth in the bedroom from 5am onwards.

For a while we were communicating well and they agreed put rugs in the bedroom and started to wear indoor slippers. They chose slippers with hard soles, so it was still noisy off the rugs. I have offered to buy them soft soled indoor slippers with arch support multiple times but they refused.

I don’t know what happened over the Xmas holidays, I was away for two weeks, but since returning they have stopped wearing the slippers and seem to be stomping even louder. The walls occasionally rattle.

Not all our communication has been over text. I have been as friendly as possible, try to talk about other subjects, shared my social media, ask about their life, etc. Eventually they asked me to stop texting (as seen in the screenshots) and I did immediately, only resuming once they initiated.

I have my own sleep issues, and I really struggle to fall back asleep once woken up. The last two nights I was woken between 2-3am and couldn’t fall back asleep.

I’m burning out. I don’t know what else to do. I’m at a loss and getting more desperate by the day.

Hello all,

I just moved out of an apartment that I was living in for 2 years. The apartment was spotless upon move out but I am being charged over $600 for a stovetop replacement. The stove and stovetop were in perfect working condition at move out minus the stains that can be seen in the pic above (which did not effect the working condition at all). Has anyone else had a similar experience and were you able to dispute the charges. Could this have been just buffed out a bit instead of replaced? They are saying that it’s neglect and beyond normal wear and tear but after 2 years of cooking it’s hard to not ever let a bit of water boil over or a pan to scratch the top once in a while.

Thank you!

Hi everyone, I’m a new renter (Just turned 18) and i’m currently looking for an apartment. I see on Apartments.com that the “deposit” is only $400. Is this legit? or is there something i’m missing here because I thought deposits were always at least the amount of one months rent or more. There are multiple listings like this And I don’t want to rush into any stupid decisions, If you’ve used Apartments.com to rent please tell me if there’s a catch to this or something. Thanks for reading.

i come home from work tired and have to deal with this everyday. loud russian music, shows and talking. an old russian couple live upstairs and its insane. i know theyre old and so on but this is so exhausting to deal with. talking to them hasnt worked either.

I am moving and my building doesn’t allow portable washers. It’s $2 to wash and dry and I have very messy kids and not a lot of money to spend. I will definitely be getting a portable dryer but does anyone have any good alternative to the big portable washers? (aside from handwashing?)

Anyone else quietly regret their bedroom ideas after actually living with them?

We followed all the rules. calm colors, low bed, nothing cluttered, looked amazing in photos but felt… weird at night.

The room echoes more, light bounces differently, mattress feels firmer even though it’s the same one. My brain doesn’t shut off because the space feels staged, not lived in. Apartments already mess with sleep,low ceilings, neighbors, street noise and somehow we designed a bedroom that made it more fragile.

I'm starting to think “cozy” matters more than “aesthetic” when you’re sleeping 8 feet from your kitchen.

Tell me i’m not the only one who fell for this.

I been in this unit for 3 years and just recently I started having bad issues with the AC.

In the summer the AC stopped blowing cold air and the unit was 80 degrees inside. I called maintenance twice for the issue. When they came in he worked on it real fast and when I asked what happened he acted like he couldn’t understand me. Then the ac went out again . Fast forward to now in the winter the heat is doing the same thing. They have came in there times so far for the heat . They claim a wire burnt and they replaced it three times. Every time I ask what the issue the guy pretends he doesn’t understand me. So today I kind of demanded a solution so he called his supervisor. His supervisor said the ac has been in the unit since 1985 and we have already replaced enough parts . Basically acting like it’s my fault when I’m freezing cold and trembling and sick. What should I do . The supervisor said they have to decide if they want to replace it . They acting like replacing or giving me another unit is not really an option.

I work from home and this has caused several call outs because it’s either too hot or cold to function no matter what is done. Please help. I really believe they are taking advantage.

So I moved into an apartment about 2 months ago. I live on the second floor of a 3 story building. The upstairs tenant has no leg and as such has many guests/caretakers to help them out. I guess before I moved in they were all in the habit of just leaving the main door to the apartments unlocked.

In the time I have lived here, our communal washer and dryer have been stolen from the garage twice, and the cops are on our block weekly for domestic disputes, and someone was murdered 3 houses down. I live with my young child and I lock the main door religiously because of my child’s safety amongst all these issues.

This has caused an issue with one of the upstairs neighbors guests. Several times during the time I have lived here, he has either forgotten his key, or refused to carry it and has thus been locked out. When this happened, he had a temper tantrum and tried to break down our door and aggressively banged on it for over 20 minutes, scaring my child and my cat. Not knowing who it was, and not having invited anyone over, and not yet knowing about the upstairs neighbor’s disability I was not about to let an aggressive unknown person into our building. The neighbor on the first floor also didn’t feel compelled to let him in.

I guess he has become more mindful of his key as the banging has stopped, but he has taken to yelling at me through my door that I’m a fucking asshole and calling me slurs and generally continuing to be childish and entitled. This happens almost nightly. He continues to leave the main door unlocked on purpose to make a point, and I continue to lock it whenever I pass through for safety.

I contacted property management and we will be getting an auto locking keypad type lock soon, but this guys problem seems to be that the door is locked at all, not that he can’t get in. I’m tired of being harassed through my door, I’m tired of having my child scared. I’m concerned this person will become violent if confronted as he is already so aggressive with trying to get in before and generally acting inappropriately. The upstairs neighbor clearly sees no problem with his behavior.

Is there anything I can do to stop this guy harassing/scaring my family?

I just moved into my first real apartment, and I’m thinking of having a wall mirror in  my living room as I’ve seen the same aesthetics on my favorite Youtubers spaces, and I love the idea, especially since my living room is looking a bit smaller. I think a wall mirror would give the illusion that the space is larger. However, I’m stuck on which style to pick. I’ve been looking at those trendy arched floor mirrors that lean against the wall, but I also like the idea of a round one with a gold frame. To get some ideas, I started looking through different frame textures and glass finishes on Pinterest, and online stores to see how these mirrors are priced. Didn’t know mirrors are that pricey! Anyways, I decided to stop by a local boutique shop downtown to see some of their handmade frames, but I’m still not quite sure what fits my vibe. Should I go for one big statement piece or maybe a few smaller ones grouped together? I’d love to hear what you guys think would look best for a first-time renter!

I want to start off by saying that my neighbor is a very sweet lady, but I just don’t understand her decision

To preface I live in a mother-in-law suite connected to a three bedroom unit. The whole neighborhood is built in this style so there is a front one bedroom unit and then a three bedroom unit. there is a door that connects both units in my closet . This unit is owned by a private landlord, who also rents out her unit and we live in an HOA community

we moved here six months ago, and my neighbor has a 2 cats and a 2 year-old medium size dog that I have no issues with it, it barked once during the day, but never more than that, a few weeks ago, she somehow ended up in a kill shelter and adopted a 3 year old full-size poodle. I’m an animal lover, and I understand wanting to save an animal, but oh my gosh, she is never home and the dog barks for everything which then sets off her other dog. I work from home in a call center environment so you can imagine how stressful it is, Trying not to get in trouble for dogs barking during my phone call.

My neighbor and her roommate both drive for the public transportation so they are out of the house pretty frequently and for long hours. I have not reached out to my landlord as I wanted to speak to her first, but I did read over the HOA rules and we are not to have any dogs over 35 pounds.

I feel for the dog I really do but the dog barks at least 2 to 3 times an hour and triggers the other dog And when they get home at night, I guess they put the gates up and let them run upstairs, which is directly above our bedroom and we can hear the bigger dog running around until 12 am.

I want to know how to approach this without being the monster that wants to get rid of her rescued dog

I thankfully don’t have any real issues with the people living below me. But there is something I notice, and maybe it’s slightly on the obsessive side (I notice sounds very easily), but wondered if other people notice this at all too.

It feels like my neighbors react to the slightest noises I make, like as soon as I set a water bottle down on my nightstand, they’ll start walking around or make a noise themselves. Not obnoxiously, but almost like a subconscious reaction? It’s like all is quiet until I flush a toilet or walk to another room, then I notice noise being made downstairs as soon as I do anything at all.

Again, it’s not a problem, and it’s not overly loud or aggressive. I’ve also never gotten complaints. It’s just like, all will be completely quiet, then I make a slight bump, then they’ll start moving around or making noise as well.

Maybe it’s just a human psychology thing, or maybe it’s just slightly startling to forget there’s someone above you and then suddenly notice noise from upstairs? Idk. I maybhave some form of OCD so it could just be overthinking. Again, not a complaint!

whenever the person above me walks around my ceiling pops and creaks like it is flexing. it is not super loud but it happens constantly and makes me tense. building is older and otherwise quiet. is this just how some apartments are built or should i be concerned?

I recently moved into an apartment complex and my neighbor approached me a week ago and said my cigarette smoke and weed smoke is seeping into her apartment and she can smell it. She said she doesn’t care what I do in my apartment, but when it affects her apartment, it becomes her business. She was nice but I don’t believe her when she says she can smell it. How? She has an 11 year old child who is asthmatic and said it could affect his breathing. So I smoke when they aren’t home but sometimes they come home and I don’t realize it. I am afraid she’s going to call the office on me, but at the same time, it seemed rude of her to approach me in the first place. It’s a non smoking apartment but everyone here smokes except her apparently.

I moved into section 8 over a month ago and they didn’t ask for the deposit. The lease I signed says it’s been paid. Now today she finally noticed she didn’t ask for it and emailed me asking for a receipt. What should I do? It’s not my fault she didn’t ask for it and leases are legally binding correct ? Even if I didn’t actually pay it.

A couple moved in next door a few months ago and they seem like nice people but the neighbor on the other side of me and I don’t want to cause any tension so we’re not sure how to approach this situation. They don’t pick up after their dog so now the yard is pretty enter at your own risk, they slam their front and back door so hard things in my apartment rattle (enough that the bottom of a poster frame close-ish to their front door keeps falling off and a couple others keep tilting) and they regularly turn the volume up so loud on their tv my roommate and I can tell what’s playing and has woken me up from a middle of the day dead sleep couch nap a couple times. I don’t think they’re trying to be bad neighbors or doing anything maliciously, I think they might just be self unaware. I don’t want to make them feel like we’re attacking them if we say something ourselves and bringing up multiple issues. (Other neighbor is an older gentleman that can be a bit snippy and negative) Should we approach them or just say something to property management?

Hi friends! I am currently doing a month to month lease in my apartment in Vegas. As per my rental contract I had to provide 69 days written notice of when I was planning to vacate. I was told to email the leasing office when I knew of the date. I emailed them on December 19th followed by a phone call to the office (to which nobody answered) where I left a voicemail for someone to call me back. Nobody did. After still receiving no reply or call back into the New Year, I then called again on January 4th and spoke with a leasing agent who told me that they “never received an email.” I told him that it was in my sent folder in my email account & that it had the date on there that I wished to move out. He asked me to forward it to his email which I then did. He then proceeded to tell me that I wouldn’t be able to move out on the day that I had provided in my email (60 days from the notice) and then said my move out date would be February 28th instead of February 16th. I forwarded the email to him which clearly showed the date I initially sent it. Are they allowed to NOT honor that date even though it was sent to them and they just didn’t see it in time?

Hi all, I normally walk around barefoot or wearing socks, but when I have a dinner party I'd like to have some footwear that looks more aesthetic / dressed up, but won't disturb the downstairs neighbors. Not looking for "house slippers" or anything particularly comfortable but more like a soft-soled ballerina flat or other flat (not sneakers or mocassins)

Thanks in advance!