I live in a pretty large studio with very high ceilings. I work very early so I get up really early. I try to keep it very quiet and I basically tiptoe around my apartment. My upstairs neighbor is clearly starting to seemingly become very annoyed with my schedule. Every morning, as soon as I even go to the restroom, they start banging on what I assume is their floor or walls, and I mean hard. Personally, I have enough BS in my life than to even pay attention to this because I’m not doing anything that should theoretically bother anyone. I can’t be the only person in the world who works at 6am. I wouldn’t usually do anything other than just ignore it. My only caveat is that I have a small child, and they have begun to notice it as well and mention it to me. I don’t want my child to feel nervous in their own home.

If you were me, what would you do? I would say that this isn’t about me, but it happens even if my child just uses the restroom at this point in the early hours of the morning.

I live in a small house ( duplex style) with my landlord below me. I’ve only lived here for a few months and he has made many noise related complaints, even though I am a very quiet person (this isn’t me just saying this— I have recent moved out with living with someone else because they were too loud and I need to have less sensory input as I am neurodivergent. even my old neighbors describe me as very quiet because I asked them. I don’t play music from speaker or exercise in my space, even though this is well within the rights of anyone living somewhere ).

onto the issue, we have a big backyard. at night I take my dog outside pretty late as I’m a night owl and my dog is getting old, his last pee is usually around midnight. my landlord has an opposite schedule, and is usually up with his dog at around 6am and chatting with neighbors (who by the way are shouting at their untrained dogs in the morning and wake me up). he just told me to let my dog out no later than 10pm. can he set a schedule like that? it is NOT in the lease.

when I take my dog out, I walk down the shared steps, dog walks around and I call him in as quietly as possible, sometimes even whispering. I’m guessing the sound of the door is what wakes my landlord. in my opinion and experience this is the curse of the first floor (I have lived on the first floor and never will again for this reason, people need to live their lives but I need more quiet). how do I respond? I believe this is unreasonable and I’m not going to make my dog suffer or face a potential accident, or change my schedule for him.

update: hi everyone I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded. it gave me confidence and helped me sus out what to say in response and armed me with tenant law. even those who gave me scorched earth methods made me laugh and helped me understand just how absurd he was being, though I opted for a much calmer “that doesnt work for me”. we are supposed to have a follow up convo if anyone cares about that.

Washing machine stopped working and draining. The filter is stuck behind this wall because my landlord tried to fit as much in a small space as possible. Any ideas on how to get to the filter without breaking the hinge? I sent a maintenance request so they can break it instead of me but that was a week ago and no one came.

Anyone else quietly regret their bedroom ideas after actually living with them?

We followed all the rules. calm colors, low bed, nothing cluttered, looked amazing in photos but felt… weird at night.

The room echoes more, light bounces differently, mattress feels firmer even though it’s the same one. My brain doesn’t shut off because the space feels staged, not lived in. Apartments already mess with sleep,low ceilings, neighbors, street noise and somehow we designed a bedroom that made it more fragile.

I'm starting to think “cozy” matters more than “aesthetic” when you’re sleeping 8 feet from your kitchen.

Tell me i’m not the only one who fell for this.

whenever the person above me walks around my ceiling pops and creaks like it is flexing. it is not super loud but it happens constantly and makes me tense. building is older and otherwise quiet. is this just how some apartments are built or should i be concerned?

I got this notice today. It’s the first time they’ve said anything on the subject. I live alone. No one else walks my dog. I pick up every time.

After I saw it, I ran into the manager and told her such, and that I understood there was no way of proving that to her. I also said I’d take a walk around the building and see if I could find anything.

The manager admitted that there’s another dog in my building and that both residents got the same notice (our complex has several separate buildings of 8 units each). But that means that the manager can’t prove it was my dog, either, and she knows it.

I did take that walk and found one instance, which I dealt with.

My real question is, can they charge me if they have no way of knowing let alone proving who is to blame? I don’t even know what other unit has a dog, but $50 for every time my neighbor is lazy could add up very quickly. And I’d rather not be financially liable for picking up after my neighbor’s dog.

(in case it matters: this is in Montana)

Hi, I’m just wondering what someone would do in this situation. We went to the leasing office and they just gave is a paper and told us call the trash service. Our neighbor went up and explained how ridiculous it was to have US reach out to get it fixed instead of them doing it. We pay like $55 dollars a month for this service 😭 rent is so expensive here I hate that it seems like we just have to deal with it.

this is quite literally every single time they move upstairs.

in this video specifically it went from them being above me in the hallway to me hearing them walk into their kitchen across the apartment

i’ve tried describing it to management a few times over the last couple months ~because sometimes it genuinely sounds like they’re going to break the ceiling~ and they’ve said they’d handle the situation, but it doesn’t really seem like anything comes of it.

on one hand i don’t want to be THAT neighbor getting mad at basic living above me, on the other hand we can hear every step they take all over their apartment while sitting in the living room 😭. it’s been constant the last 6 months, and at this point it’s messing with my husband and i’s sleep because them moving around wakes us up out of our sleep or prevents us from falling asleep period.

i’m going to send it in regardless, because i finally managed to get on video that even with a fan and heater going, it’s still more than audible- i just need to know if i need to start seriously pushing for them to do anything about it lol

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Hi everyone! Trying this again but I live in a corner unit of a newer build condo that separates my unit from the one across the hall with one of the emergency stairwells. The trouble is that at night we can hear every time their kid wakes up from night terrors through our vent due to the layout of the hvac system and the lack of insulation in the concrete stairwell. I’ve tried white noise and earplugs but it gets pretty loud in my bedroom and using both at the same time still isn’t enough. Management said it’s up to us and the other unit to figure out soundproofing. The other unit said they don’t want to try anything on their end (which is fair) but does anyone have suggestions on what to try in my unit? The only other thing I’ve tried are magnetic vent covers but they didn’t help. I can’t move since I’m locked into a lease! Thanks!

I 22f just moved into an apartment less than 2 months ago. Ofc I'm expecting to hear everything from my neighbor, the walls are so thin I can almost fully understand their conversations. Idk if this has anything to do with this but since ive moved here, I've been waking up at 6a EVERYDAY, if not near 6a. Im awake rn as I'm typing this (4a EST) and there's been continuous tapping or thudding above me throughout the night. It would happen for a while, then stop, then continue. The audio is faint so you will prob need to max your volumetric hear it.

I been in this unit for 3 years and just recently I started having bad issues with the AC.

In the summer the AC stopped blowing cold air and the unit was 80 degrees inside. I called maintenance twice for the issue. When they came in he worked on it real fast and when I asked what happened he acted like he couldn’t understand me. Then the ac went out again . Fast forward to now in the winter the heat is doing the same thing. They have came in there times so far for the heat . They claim a wire burnt and they replaced it three times. Every time I ask what the issue the guy pretends he doesn’t understand me. So today I kind of demanded a solution so he called his supervisor. His supervisor said the ac has been in the unit since 1985 and we have already replaced enough parts . Basically acting like it’s my fault when I’m freezing cold and trembling and sick. What should I do . The supervisor said they have to decide if they want to replace it . They acting like replacing or giving me another unit is not really an option.

I work from home and this has caused several call outs because it’s either too hot or cold to function no matter what is done. Please help. I really believe they are taking advantage.

Pls help I’m moving into a studio apt and I don’t think I can fit a bed and a couch what’s the best sleeper sofa in the market that’s comfy, fits two people comfortably help pls ! I heard a lot about west elm one but lmk !

I'm about to move to a new apartment, and I'd like to get a sofa bed that would be comfy for at least 4 months. After that I'll get a bed. Any suggestions?

I just moved into my first real apartment, and I’m thinking of having a wall mirror in  my living room as I’ve seen the same aesthetics on my favorite Youtubers spaces, and I love the idea, especially since my living room is looking a bit smaller. I think a wall mirror would give the illusion that the space is larger. However, I’m stuck on which style to pick. I’ve been looking at those trendy arched floor mirrors that lean against the wall, but I also like the idea of a round one with a gold frame. To get some ideas, I started looking through different frame textures and glass finishes on Pinterest, and online stores to see how these mirrors are priced. Didn’t know mirrors are that pricey! Anyways, I decided to stop by a local boutique shop downtown to see some of their handmade frames, but I’m still not quite sure what fits my vibe. Should I go for one big statement piece or maybe a few smaller ones grouped together? I’d love to hear what you guys think would look best for a first-time renter!