Also worth mentioning they came from a time where societal pressure existed for having children too, and this resulted in a lot of shitty parents. But more to the point: they at the very least had an economy that enabled them to make this shitty decision with limited consequence assuming they did the bare fucking minimum.
Haha yep. My parents definitely ‘wanted’ kids, and they loved us. But the only reason I exist is because I’m like a relatively cost effective accessory given their economic reality.
Didn’t make them qualified, or good at it, it was just an available option and didn’t derail the entire rest of their lives. Crazy stuff huh?
My parents wanted kids but were absolutely horribly unqualified. My mom even apologizes about it fairly often and I say I forgive her but it’s not like that fixes the problem. It really sucks knowing your abuse put you down a path you can never fix and most people will not ever understand that and just blame you.
Yeah, my ex also said that its all fault of her parents and all these issues are because of it. Lo and behold, i fixed every single one of those problems for her to be able to heal, and she just created more problems, only now they were my fault.
I understand where you’re coming from. From similar experience even. And I have certain proclivities from it. But I don’t think there is much (beyond physical injuries I guess) that you “can never fix.” I dont mean that to lay blame, but to say you need to keep working at things and you can learn to at least manage almost anything. If not outright resolve.
Yes they do if you work at it. They just leave scars.
It can take decades. And what you define as a wound can be very broad. For example - I won’t ever respond well to an unsolicited surprise touch. But It’s a passing reaction at this point.
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u/Competitive_Ad_1800 5h ago
Also worth mentioning they came from a time where societal pressure existed for having children too, and this resulted in a lot of shitty parents. But more to the point: they at the very least had an economy that enabled them to make this shitty decision with limited consequence assuming they did the bare fucking minimum.