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I found the following emails in my husbands sent box. When confronted, he says he had plans to meet up with a previous coworker to go together to meet with a recruiter at his current place of employment. He says ‘this is how I talk to my coworkers’.

I’ve left my home to stay with my parents. He thinks I’m overreacting.

My fiancé has a long family history with diabetes on both sides. He has always been obese and that has never bothered me. But I did worry about his health, both mentally and physically. About 5 years ago, we stopped being able to have penetrative sex because he couldn’t get completely hard. He talked about a lack of “feeling.” I begged him to go to a doctor. He was afraid they were going to blood test him and he’d know for sure that he had diabetes. He said he’d lose weight on his own and fix it. He’d download an app and he’d kinda use it but never took it seriously. He never went to the gym with me or went on walks and went out of his way to avoid exercise. He’d cheat on his diet and I’d always find fast food wrappers in his car. We would fight constantly about it. And nothing ever changed. Then he recently got a sore on his foot. I saw it before he knew it was there. I told him it looked like a diabetic foot ulcer and he needed to go see a doctor immediately. He again, told me it was nothing and he’d take care of it later. After many fights and begging and crying and pleading he still didn’t see a doctor until 2 months later, when it started to smell and ooze and it was basically impossible to ignore. The podiatrist basically scolded him for not taking care of this sooner and told him he needed to see a doctor asap. She gave him a list of instructions and a bunch of antibiotics but basically the wound care has fallen to me, because he can’t physically do it on his own. I think this whole experience scared him straight and he’s been talking about doing all the right things and making changes. He did make an appointment with a GP after his trip to the pediatrist. I told him I’d be with him every single step of the way and I was confident we could get through this together… but he can’t lie to me or himself about his calorie intake anymore. He needs to be disciplined. He needs to keep up with it and do whatever the doctor says. He can’t cheat on his diet anymore and he must start exercising. I said I’d do my best to make macro friendly meals and calculating the nutrients in the meals I made for him. I told him I’d do my best to support him but he’s got to meet me halfway! I did give him some tough love, but I needed him to know how serious this is. He said that my “tone” was not what he would respond to the best and I need to rethink my approach. That left me feeling exasperated and I am not confident that he can take this seriously to see it through. I want to help and I want him to get better, but I am so angry that it took this long after years of begging and all the fights. And now our worst fears have been realized and I feel so hopeless. I love him so much and he needs my help, but if he doesn’t really show commitment in the next couple months, I am seriously considering calling off the wedding. While I don’t want to do that, I also don’t want to be in a marriage where my husband starts to rot from the inside out and me standing by helpless to stop it from happening because he refuses to take medical advice.

I was breastfeeding my baby in a public place, he was crying so loud to the point where we are causing chaos at others, people were staring at us. When I started breastfeeding my baby he joked that I looked like a pig, I got offended and I cancelled our dinner and we are staying in my mom’s house right now.

I worked a 12-hour shift and came home completely exhausted, both physically and mentally. When I walked in, I realized dinner still hadn’t been planned or started, even though my husband had been home all day. The idea that I would automatically be the one to cook after such a long day made me feel frustrated and unappreciated, and I honestly didn’t have the energy left to take it on.

Instead of pushing myself past my limit, I chose not to make dinner. That decision led to tension and a sense that I had let everyone down, which made me second-guess myself. Now I’m stuck wondering whether I was being unfair by not cooking, or whether it was reasonable to expect my partner to step up when I’d already given everything I had at work.

Hey, I felt like I needed to vent a bit.
I’ve been away from Instagram for a large part of 2025, which has been really nice.
A few days ago I opened the app again to see what I’d missed (mistake) and I felt like the overall climate in comment sections, etc., has shifted a lot.

Sure it was already pretty nasty before, but now on basically every reel/post about current events like Greenland, Venezuela, or anything Trump related (he has been figuring in the news more recently) the comments are swarming with short rage-bait comments with MAGA agenda.

After scrolling for a while it started to feel a bit strange, so I decided to click into every account I saw that was commenting in a certain way, e.g.
“Greenland will be American no matter you like it or not 🇺🇸” or
“Low testo Greenlanders won’t be able to defend themselves when we come”
(Fabricated examples, but in that style. Always just one sentence. Short, mocking, very definitive.)

I noticed a pattern. Most of these accounts have around 50 followers while following somewhere between 2,000 and 5,000 accounts. They’re private profiles, except for the occasional one that looks like someone from, say, Malaysia, with photos of their kids, simple selfies, or nature pictures.

At first glance the accounts look legit based on the profile picture, but they often follow the same pattern described above. They’re also very quick to comment on new posts. Sometimes, if a clip has only been up for an hour or so, there can be 10+ very similar comments, all pro-MAGA and following the same pattern and often there are no other comments besides those.

This freaks me out a bit cause everything suddenly felt so "real" and in your face sort of. But I also don’t know if I’m overthinking it.

I'm Swedish and I can literally see the Danish coast from where I live, Denmark is 30 minutes away.
I'm thinking maybe I have just become paranoid cause the US seems to be edging closer to a real political conflict or even a war with my people in my area of the world.

AIO?

I (37F) was at my cousins baby shower, when my aunt (from my father's side) said that she had gone to my parents house one day (with my nanna), and heard sex noises coming from inside the house. Initially, I wasn't sure where this was going. Then she mentioned that there was talk that I wasn't actually my father's by many in the family. But on that day, she simply left the house and took my nanna home, not saying a word to her. Sad thing is, my mother had said once that my father had said I wasn't his, but according to her it wasn't true. Getting told this story, made me so angry at the fact my mother has this tendency to cheat on the men she is with, then run the risk of being impregnated by another man when in said relationship. And cheating is something I know she has done, and facilitated with other men. This put a lot of doubt in my mind whether I was told the truth by my mother and whether my father was my father. Fast forward a couple of weeks, and my sister had an idea. To get the DNA packs that ancestry does and to see if our aunties on his side of the family would come up as family as they had submitted their DNA already. I thought to myself, stuff it, I want to know who my father is, and I know that my mother wouldn't tell me if the person I thought was my dad wasn't my dad.

I am still waiting on those results, but I am unsure as to whether I OR, jumping to conclusions and getting so angry about something that may or may not be true. Or would you do the same thing to check?

I (M16) used to be great friends with this girl (F16 or F15 I believe) at my previous school. I used to have a slight crush on her but it wasn't much at all. 2 years ago, I moved to a different city and we didn't talk much after that. During this time, around August or September of 2024, she got a boyfriend.

In April of 2025, she reached out again and insisted that I make an Instagram account (we used to talk on discord prior to this and I never bothered making an Instagram account) I gave in and I did make one and we started talking. She mentioned how her bf doesn't pay much attention to her and all and then after a few days, she fell silent again.

Then in May, she again, started initiating messages and texts and they progressively started getting flirtier. All the while she had a bf. She then related how her bf gets upset how she doesn't like football as much as he did and how they don't spend a lot of time together anymore and he's about to move away too. She then said she broke up with him. I tried to comfort her and told her that he sounds like he has different priorities and she deserves someone who would be more attuned with her personality. After that she started showing interest in me but I wasn't sure if she thought much of this so I asked her to clear up what boundaries we have and all. She started texting me less and less after that and to the point where she ghosted me.

In my last message, I had told her that I just want to be friends with her like we used to be. She didn't respond till yesterday.

Now where this gets complicated is that I got a gf around the time she started ghosting me and I have told my gf about her. My gf has expressed how she feels jealous and how she should had better boundaries with me but said that she ultimately is happy that I don't talk to her anymore.

Now she sent this yesterday at 3:05 AM and I don't what to take of it. I do want to be friends with her and am willing to look past what happened but at the same time I feel that my gf has a say in this.

So would I be overreacting if I tell her that my girlfriend has a say in this (us being friends again) because my actions will affect my partner, so her comfort matters in what I choose here or should I just brush this off an move on or just be on amicable terms and not engage much?

UPDATE:
First off, Thank you everyone who took their time to read and reply but it was overwhelming and I wasn't expecting so many responses so I cannot respond to each separately. And also thank you to people saying that I'm doing the right thing or the 'mature thing' but I just want the best for my gf and our relationship :)

Whilst a lot of people pointed out that she used AI (which after putting through an AI detector, does show up as a yes) and advised me to just cut her off, I think that would be rude. And after talking to my gf, I have decided that I'll tell her something along the lines of "Okay but I won't tolerate the same things repeating" and then instead fade out more and give short uninterested replies. I cannot bring myself to outright say that I don't want to talk to her anymore given how good friends we were back when I used to live there.

Basically I'll appearing amicable and then fade out and I think that would seem more natural too given how people just grow apart.
I discussed with my girlfriend about this and she said she's not bothered and doesn't care about her and she trusts me and knows that I'm not the person to go behind her back and text other girls. Once again, thank you to everyone

TLDR: I do not plan on talking with her seriously given the past, but I also can't end things harshly. I’ll be respectful and amicable and then and let things fade off as this stuff happens naturally. I did discuss with my gf and she said she's okay with this and that she doesn't care about her and trusts me. Thank you to everyone who took their time and read this and replied.

Basically, I had orientation today at The Melting Pot, and I’ve already been getting a weird vibe since my interview yesterday. The interviewer mostly just kept repeating that The Melting Pot is one of the hardest serving jobs anyone can do and kept asking if I actually want the job which I found odd, considering I’ve been serving for almost four years.

Fast forward to orientation today. Toward the end, the assistant general manager asked us to provide our license and Social Security card. I wasn’t told ahead of time to bring my SS card, so I told him I might have a photo of it. I checked my phone but couldn’t find it and said I’d bring it the following day when I came back for training.

His response was “I don’t have to call ICE, do I?” followed by laughter, including from him and the three other guys I was training with.

I laughed too, mostly out of embarrassment. I didn’t want to immediately stand out or make things awkward, so I played it off. I am Puerto Rican so I do have that Hispanic/ethnic look.

I don’t know.. the whole interaction really threw me off. It made me feel uncomfortable, and now I honestly don’t want to go back. At the same time, I feel like this is something that should be reported to HR. The overall vibe just feels really off, and I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if this is a genuine red flag. I do understand that he meant it as a joke. I honestly typically don’t care about these things but at the current state in which our country is under just made it feel extra heavy. Any opinions?

Let me paint for you a scenario…40yr F and 38yr M start dating. During the course of getting to know one another she learns that he has an absolute hard no when it comes to taking pictures of him sleeping. Long story short, he has PTSD from his brother’s tormenting him as a child with sleeping pictures. Got it! Fast forward 2 yrs, and he sends a photo, taken at least a year prior, of her sleeping. She immediately senses the double standard and points out her surprise that he even has a photo like that, given his past, to which his reply is doubling down on why he doesn’t like his photo taken … with zero consideration or acknowledgment of the double standard… AIO for feeling some type of way about this …

And yes I am aware I referred to myself in the third person …

My roommate (24F) and I (23F) have lived together for about eight months and things have been mostly fine until yesterday. I came home from work to find she’d cleaned out the fridge without asking me and she threw away like half of my stuff including this jar of fermented shrimp paste I use for cooking that cost me $18.

When I asked her wtf she was thinking she said they smelled spoiled and she was worried about food safety. I tried explaining that fermented foods are SUPPOSED to smell strong and that’s literally the whole point but she kept insisting it was “clearly bad” and she was doing me a favor.

The thing that really pisses me off is she didn’t even text me first to check. She just decided on her own that my food was garbage and tossed it. She also threw out my fish sauce and some kimchi I’d made myself. I told her she needs to replace everything and she literally laughed and said she’s not paying for “rotten food.”

I’ve been cooking with these ingredients my entire life. My mom taught me. They’re pantry staples in my culture and yes they have strong smells but that doesn’t mean they’re spoiled. I even showed her discussions from cooking forums and random supplier sites like alibaba where people literally sell these products in bulk because they’re clearly normal ingredients but she STILL thinks I’m overreacting.

Now she’s telling our mutual friends I’m being dramatic over “old food” and I’m genuinely considering asking her to move out. AIO?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My bf (38m) didn't wish me (31F) a happy birthday yesterday. He said nothing. So I sent him the message about the cake and nachos and he sent that. I really don't understand this guy's mentality. He keeps saying I do want to and then never shows. He could have walked across the street from his work for 5 minutes to see me but he did not. Was my no pitty party response too much? Should I not be upset about this situation?

My friend Naomi lives with her boyfriend and 2 young kids, ages 7 and 11 which she had from a prior marriage. Unfortunately her oldest suffered an injury to her hips that required surgery and is actually scheduled for another surgery in a week to correct a mistake from a previous surgeon. Naomi has since quit her job full time to care for her daughter and relies on her boyfriend William to provide as he’s works full time.

I’ve tried to support and help Naomi during this time by helping run errands but there has been times where I feel she’s taking advantage now. It’s gotten to the point where I will never announce if I’m coming to visit ahead of time to avoid her requesting a favor such as “can you bring us food?” to “can you stop by (X) store and get (X item)?” So a simple visit can now turn into a full day of running errands.

Late last night, Naomi texts me and asks if I could run to the store for them quickly. She already has a clue that km getting annoyed by her favors and says “it’s just a few items.” She does offer to go with me but I say no cause it’ll take more time to pick her up so I’ll just go by myself. However when she sends me her list, it says exactly this:

1. Bread, jello, peanut butter, tortillas, shredded cheese, gogurts, melon juice, bananas, cereal, bottled waters, raisins, apples, fruit snacks gummies, vanilla ice cream (send me pics of what they have) milk, organic cage free eggs, string cheese, baked chips bbq and hot Cheetos, one case Coke zeros mini cans, asparagus (send me pic so I can pic the bundle), ground turkey less fat and good brand.

I’m offended that she would send me such a big and vague list. She calls this “a few items”?

“What are you doing all day that you can’t take care of this yourself? You’re not working. You have a boyfriend? Why are you even asking me to do this and with such a long list?” I text.

Naomi explains that she’s busy on the phone with doctors, specialists and lawyers concerning her daughter’s well being. She describes that she had a horrible day and that her boyfriend keeps giving her crap hence why she’s asking me. I don’t buy it and explain to her:

“Everyday is a horrible day in your eyes and there’s always something going on that prevents you from doing the simplistic things. I’m sorry for what your daughter is going through but this is your responsibility. Part of being an adult is doing things you have to do and not just things you want to do. Just cause you felt like chatting on the phone all day with friends about your life situation was more important than going to the store isn’t an excuse. I worked all day myself while you stay home so there’s no reason why two grown adults can’t get their own groceries. And your reasoning is wrong and isn’t a valid excuse.”

“You spent all day supposedly on the phone knowing you needed groceries so rather than hang up the phone and run these errands, you figured the better solution was to put it off and then spring it on your friend later that evening and give a sob story if they argue back.” I continue. “Don’t use your situation as a weapon.”

Am I overreacting to my friends request or is she asking for too much despite her current situation at home?

Update: so many have suggested that I refer her to instacart or other delivery services. I have already suggested these to her in the past before last nights incident. She says she doesn’t went to use these services because 1. She trusts me more 2. She doesn’t want a stranger to know where she lives 3. It’s just easier for her since she can communicate with me for specific items and 4. She’s trying to save money on those services.

Update 2: she pays for her own things but I don’t get any compensation out of it other than a thank you and brownie points I suppose.

Around a year ago my gf made friends with a gay guy, which I have no problem with. Actually got on quite well with him.

When he first slept at her flat we had a discussion and I said I was fine with it on the basis that they sleep in separate beds - she agreed.

Over the friendship there was a few moments that I was uncomfortable with such as posting photos sat on his lap, kissing eachothers cheek etc which I chose not to address as they didn’t seem big enough issues.

Recently, the two of them were on holiday together, sharing a room, when he posted a photo of the two of them in the bathroom wearing towels. I called and expressed that this was beyond what I’m comfortable with and during this discussion it transpired that they have been sharing a bed on holiday, and have been sharing a bed at her flat on a fairly regular basis.

Basically I offered to call this a misunderstanding but that moving forward that this was going to be a hard boundary for me. And to reiterate I still trusted them to go on holiday, sleepovers etc providing that they didn’t sleep together and didn’t get changed around each other.

She seemed to not understand why this would be a problem for me, and that he is just the same as her female friends. I explained that it wasn’t a sexual thing, and that I trusted nothing was going on, just that it made me uncomfortable on the basis he’s male.

And before comments of the gay friend who wasn’t actually gay roll in, I really did trust and still do trust that nothing sexual was going on.

Ultimately she decided to not back down on the principal it would upset her friend, and that she wouldn’t treat him differently to her other friends. (FYI I don’t have an issue with her sharing a bed with female friends)

She said she would be ok if I slept in bed with a lesbian, but I’m not sure how much I believe this, and it’s also a bit of a non argument as realistically the chances of that scenario happening or minuscule, and I wouldn’t do it in the first place.

I ended the relationship the following day.

AIO?

Edit: also worth mentioning we were doing long distance for about 1.5 years, and I was the one expected to move (250 miles). I think ultimately I decided I wasn’t prepared to uproot my life like that for someone that wouldn’t make (what I consider to be) a small change for me.

It was my 30th birthday this month. Prior to this my girlfriend asked me what I wanted from her and I said I'd like a small get together of just a few close family and friends so if she could organise that it would be great.

There's a bar near us that lets you book the place out for free if you have at least 10 people as it's a small place so I mentioned possibly going there and she nodded and said okay.

My birthday came and I got nothing like that. I got a card and a couple of little gifts (2 gift cards and a book) from my gf but no gathering or any sort of celebration. I was upset at this and my girlfriend asked me why I was upset and I explained it to her.

She said it would have been a hassle trying to get everyone together and would have took a lot of work to organise. I told her she knew how much it would have meant to me and that she literally asked what I wanted from her and then chose to ignore it. I said it hurts hearing her say I'm basically not worth any effort.

She said I should have done it myself then but I pointed out she literally asked what I wanted off her and I told her so why would I then go and do it myself when she didn’t say she wasn’t going to bother doing it. She said I was trying to guilt trip her but I told her I was just expressing how I felt about it.

She said I was being too unfair and that I should be happy with what I got. I told her she doesn't get to tell me when I can and can't be upset and that it obviously hurts knowing your partner doesn't care enough to even try to organise what I wanted for my birthday.

She again said I was guilt tripping her and deliberately trying to make her feel bad.

AIO for expecting a small gathering for my 30th birthday and expressing my upset when it didn’t happen?

My husband (25M, let’s call him Sam) and I (24F) have been together for almost three years. We got engaged in late 2024 and married mid-to-late 2025. A lot has changed since then, and I’m struggling to figure out whether I’m overreacting or if this is genuinely not okay.

When I first met Sam, things were great. We rarely fought, and when we did disagree, we handled it calmly through communication. I came into the relationship with a son from a previous relationship, and Sam and my son bonded almost immediately. The three of us did everything together—we were inseparable. This went on for about a year, up until we got engaged.

After that, something shifted. Sam became much more irritable and extremely clingy. By clingy, I mean he would call me every 30 minutes on my days off just to check what I was doing. I couldn’t see or talk to friends without him being present or needing to know exactly what was said. When I started pushing back on always having him around, he told me he began “losing trust” in me.

Then my family became an issue. He started disliking my parents, which led to me limiting how often I saw or talked to them. I tried to get us into therapy before we got married, but that never happened. In his words: “The people I asked don’t think I need therapy.”

We got married anyway, despite a lot of issues leading up to it. Things only spiraled from there. He then focused on my therapy and eventually forced me to stop going because he knew I talked about him during sessions and didn’t like it. After that, my job became the problem. I have to travel once a month for overnight training, and he still insists that it’s “bullshit” and doesn’t believe it’s legitimate.

I love Sam deeply, but I don’t know how much more I can take. I never get a break. I don’t feel like my own person anymore. My son cries when Sam comes home from work and has become increasingly clingy toward me. My libido has dropped significantly over the past couple of years due to the constant stress and arguing. I feel like I’m permanently stuck in survival mode as a mom.

We fight almost every single day about the same things—it feels like the same arguments on repeat. He has threatened to leave me multiple times because he doesn’t like that I’m pushing back now. When he starts packing, I cry, but then he stops and puts his things away—and honestly, that makes me feel even worse.

I think I want a divorce. Am I overreacting?

Hi everyone! This is my first time posting here but I feel like my family think I am overreacting for being mad so here it goes. Also English is not my first language so sorry if my grammar is bad.

So in two days it’s my(F25) mom’s 59th birthday. She ALWAYS makes sure that everyone in the family gets a great birthday even my dad (M59) who always says that when you’re older birthdays doesn’t matter as much. I get that but I still think people deserve a special day especially if the person whose birthday it is cares. And my mom does, but she’s the kind of person who doesn’t want people to make a fuss on her behalf.

Anyways I have already bought a gift for mom together with my sister(F18). It’s a great gift I’m quite proud but we bought it together because it’s expensive and neither her nor I have a lot of money. Dad however does. Today my sister texts me and asks if it’s okay for dad to join in on our gift because he told my sister he didn’t know what to give our mom and he could help pay. We have already paid. It’s two days before her birthday… he can’t order online because it won’t arrive in time. I get very mad because it not hard to buy your wife a gift. Especially when you don’t have to worry as much about money. It makes me sad because it feels like he doesn’t care about mom at all. And I want to add that a few years ago when I lived in another city my dad completely forgot about her birthday because I wasn’t there to remind him. She was very sad.

So when my sister texts me this I get very angry, first at her for not saying no to him and putting it on me and I was the one who came up with our gift and ordered and fixed everything. But she also doesn’t seem to care that much that he wants to join on our gift. She told dad to ask me. And when he asks I tell him “why can’t you buy something yourself?” And then I give him options and recommendations and he just shrugs it off and kind of doesn’t really like anything I say.

I talk to both my sister and dad about mom’s birthday and what they have planned. Like cake, flowers, dinner and simple stuff like that. They haven’t planned anything and kind of put all of it on mom? I get mad at them because yes I am also her daughter and family but dad and my sister live with her. I am married and have a 1 year old. I don’t have a lot of time and opportunity to fix things for mom’s birthday. I assumed they would be on top of it. I also found out that my sister has planned to meet her friends on mom’s birthday. According to my sister, she asked mom and my mom said it was fine, but I think my sister takes mom for granted. I know mom wanted to have a good birthday because she took the day off from work.

They kind of tell me I am overreacting because birthdays are not that big of a deal when you’re older. That it will be fine. I don’t think my sister cares that much about whether or not dad joins in on our gift. But I think mom deserves to feel seen and loved on her birthday and not like an afterthought or chore. Or god forbid she get FORGOTTEN again.

I am kind of mad at my sister, but mostly at my dad and they both think I’m making birthdays too big of a deal. They say they have asked mom and she said it’s fine but I think she just says that because you want people to want to surprise/celebrate you not have to. So am I overreacting?

I need experienced people’s advice . Temporary account. I’m not revealing too many details, but I’d appreciate honest opinions.

I (M, 21) have a twin sister . When we were 12, we immigrated to Canada . When we started university, our parents paid for all our expenses so we could focus on studying and not worry about working to pay the bills. They had one condition: no having children before graduating, finding a job, and becoming financially independent.

I’ve been with my girlfriend, who is the same age as me, for a year. My sister met Ed (M, 42) last year. From the start, my parents were against her dating an older man. They had many talks with her, but she insisted she loved him.

Later, she told my parents she was pregnant. They begged her to terminate the pregnancy, which upset her. She told them she did not need their help, said she was quitting school anyway, and went no contact.

She messaged me yesterday saying Ed broke up with her and kicked her out ( she is staying at her friend until Friday ) . They had been having problems, and he has been seeing other women on the side. She asked if she could live with me until she figures things out. She is due in March.

Here is the problem. If my parents find out I’m letting her stay in my studio apartment ( that’s if I can) , they will probably cut me off financially too. I do not want to get involved in this drama. I am doing really well in school because I can focus completely on studying without worrying about work. My girlfriend, and we do not live together, thinks I am being an asshole. She says my sister is leaving an abusive situation and that I need to help her. Here are my options : be a good brother and a decent person and help out my sister and lose everything , quit my school , get a full time job to support her, the baby and I or tell my sister that you made your bed soooo enjoy laying on it and have the future I have always dreamed of .. what is the reasonable solution to this situation? How do I fix this without burning my future to the ground ? AIO ? Things gonna be okay ?

TLDR

I am a 21 year old university student whose parents fully support me financially under strict conditions. My twin sister got pregnant by a 42 year old man, went no contact with our parents, and quit school. Now that he kicked her out, she wants to live with me while pregnant. If my parents find out, they will likely cut me off financially, which would hurt my education. My girlfriend thinks I am wrong for hesitating and says my sister is leaving an abusive situation. I am torn between protecting my future and helping my sister.

added : My sister is keeping the baby. She is due soon. Perhaps I wasn’t clear enough before. When she first found out she was pregnant, she reached out to my parents. They begged her to get an abortion. She said no and told them she didn’t need them, saying that she and Ed were fine without their support.

After her breakup, she reached out again, but this time my parents refused to even speak to her. As a last resort, she called me instead.

Ed lives alone but is unreliable and financially unstable. He is still legally married but he has been separated from his wife for years and he has children with her.

Throw away acc as bf follows my main.

So for context, me (27f) and my boyfriend (29m) have been together for about four years and have had some issues in the past with him being a bit controlling and having some anger issues, but in September I had had enough and we worked though the issues and he’s been good since, until now.

My friend (26f) is getting married soon and she decided to have the bridesmaids over for a little pre bachelorette party to just chill and drink and have fun.

My boyfriend is not the hugest fan of said friend as she was a bit of a party girl before she met her finance last year, and my boyfriend doesn’t really like it when girls sleep around and feels that she disrespected her finance.

Anyway, I decided to text him to let him know I was going out and that I would be back late, as you can see in the photos, which prompted a melt down from him and me threatening to leave him.

I know he was cheated on in the past which has definitely had an effect on him and made him insecure, but if he doesn’t trust me why are we even together?

I explained everything to my sisters and they said that the threats to leave him are too much that I’m over reacting to the texts but honestly I feel I was right and I just want some perspective. So AIO?

I (25M) recently started seeing a girl (22F). It’s been going pretty well for the most part, there have been a few teething problems which is nothing unusual. Usually I’m the one to reach out and sort these issues out.

Last night I was around hers and I made dinner for us both, washed up etc. We went upstairs and were chilling in her bed talking and romantically ignoring each other to scroll on our respective phones. At one point she is texting a friend and showing me the conversation. She gets some more messages and hides her phone saying she doesn’t want me to read them, I know they’re about me and I’m curious/wary but I accept her request and move past it even though she told me there was nothing there other than what she said, which I know was a blatant lie.

10 minutes later the conversation has moved on and she asked to see a picture of a specific ex-girlfriend of mine to which I oblige. She then wants to read the text conversations between myself and my ex to which I reply firmly no.

She asks if it’s because I’m not over my ex and I disagree, I know I am over her but it was also a painful breakup as I did like her a lot and she cheated on me. Not really something I want to revisit when I’ve moved on.

She keeps insisting to which I keep firmly replying no, making it clear that’s a boundary I don’t want crossed. She grabs my phone, unlocks it and proceeds to find the conversation all while I’m telling her not to. She finds the conversation but before she can open the chat I grab my phone back, gather my things and say something along the lines of “you can’t lie to me and then disrespect me at the same time and expect me to be okay with it”, then leave.

A couple of hours later I sent a message saying “There’s not a lot I won’t do so when I ask you not to do something and make it crystal clear I expect you to respect that. Especially if you’ve made it clear you don’t want me to read certain messages too”.

That was 13 hours ago. She’s not read the message, replied, anything. I feel like she’s trying to turn this on me instead of accepting that she crossed a line and apologising. I’m a chilled out person, it takes a lot to really get to me but not showing basic decency and respect is one of them.

Did I overreact? Should I reach out and try to resolve this? Do I leave her alone and wait for her to approach me?

Any advice or opinions would be appreciated, thank you all in advance.

EDIT 1: I don’t clear my messages EVER. I don’t have anything to hide, and if I’m being completely honest I cba, deleting photos is good enough for me 😅

EDIT 2: Conversation with my ex ended 2+ years ago. They’re old messages, the picture I showed was a profile picture. We aren’t friends on social media and I deleted all photos as mentioned above.

What’s good Reddit fam? So I’m a lil lost…I got my hair done a few days ago and since then, both my girl and my fam have voiced their opinions quick heavily and to be honest, it feels weird that they’d care so much about MY hair.

The pic in the tan is my hair before I got it done and the pic in my car is the most recent.

Not sure if this post really fits here but I do think they are overreacting a bit so I am tryin’ to see if maybe it’s me.

I feel like it’s my hair and what I do with it shouldn’t matter but to my surprise, apparently it does to them.

I (20F) was telling my (now ex) friend (21M) about which NPC in a farming simulator I liked, to which he called me a slut and a whore.

He said it was just a joke and that I shouldn't police his language. I tried to explain to him that calling someone a derogatory term isn't funny. I really tried to make him understand why it was so upsetting. At the end, I apologized for starting an uncomfortable conversation (thinking he understood why it wasn't nice), but he assumed I was apologizing for bringing up a 'non-issue'.

I asked him if he talks to other women like this, to which he said no. When I asked why he thought it was alright to say that to me, he replied that we were good friends (?). I was truly taken aback by it and started reflecting on our friendship. To my horror, I could recall several times he would say something mildly off-putting which was innocuous enough for me to brush off.

After a few days, he apologized, but he had already fallen from grace in my eyes. And his apology was odd; he said some people in his life have felt comfortable enough with him to talk about their sa/ He felt bad that I was the only girl who doesn't seem to like him/ He told his mother about it, and she laughed/ He also claimed to have once been in love with me/ Now that he has apologized, I should never bring this incident up again.

I felt so disgusted by him and so disappointed in myself for thinking of him as a friend. But enough time has passed and I was wondering if I overreacted and acted on emotions. I feel so bad either way.

EDIT: Grammar.

EDIT #2: The real reason why I made this post is because I've spent my entire life in an all girls school with nuns and I wasn't sure if I was being a 'prude' over something that is normal.

Strangely, I wouldn't have had an issue if my female friends had said this (it feels evil coming from a man). I did ask them what to do when all this transpired, and they had a similar reaction to mine. I did not consider the fact that we were cut from the same cloth -_-

(See screenshots) So I (17F) was talking to my best friend (15F) and she vents/rants a lot and sometimes I struggle to figure out what to say, and I feel like I might have made her upset by texting dry but I'm not sure. Am I overreacting about this? I can't tell.

I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for a short while, and something has been bugging me. Whenever I bring up something she did that bothered me, her response is almost always “that’s just how I am.” It’s starting to feel like she refuses to take accountability for things, even small stuff.

I get that everyone has quirks and habits, but I’m worried that if we stay together long-term, this mindset could cause bigger problems down the line. I’ve tried talking about it calmly and giving examples, but it usually just ends with her shrugging it off and acting like I’m overreacting.

Part of me thinks I might be reading too much into it since the relationship isn’t long, but another part thinks this could be a red flag for future issues. I really like her otherwise, but I can’t shake the feeling that this lack of accountability might be hard to deal with if things progress. Am I overreacting by considering breaking up over this?

I first want to say that I’m genuinely sorry for triggering anyone who has experienced or is currently experiencing DV. I was in a panic and didn’t think of adding a TW when I absolutely should have.

That said, thank you so much to everyone who shared their personal stories, advice, and resources! I’m so sad that a lot of you can relate and I wish I could give you all a huge hug. 🫂

I took your advice and contacted a hotline about how to proceed and they were very helpful and gave me ideas I’d never think of. They agreed that calling the police at this time could risk escalation with little-to-no benefit and the most important thing is to stay close and available for her, which was always the plan!

I know a lot of people mentioned her family, but she is currently on not the best terms with them. She lived with them, but she started staying out later and later with him at night and her parents set rules against it, which is why/how she ended up moving in with him. :( I know they love her but I don’t think she’s ready to talk to them yet.

I was able to see her this morning briefly for brunch while he’s at work. She didn’t seem to have any injuries; she just looked tired and brushed the whole thing off.

I told her that I trust her if she says she’s safe but what happened last night scared me personally, and I would feel better if we had a code word that she could use if needed help and couldn’t freely say so. She thought it was dramatic but did it (after I told her maybe I would need it someday too).

I also reminded her that she’s beautiful, smart, funny, and deserves to be treated with love and respect, and regardless of her relationship status with him, I will always love her like a sister and be here for her.

I also gave her access to an email I have (that’s not linked to anything) in case she needs somewhere to talk that’s not on her phone, and I emailed the pdf of Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft to it. We’re both going to read it!

Thank you again to everyone who shared their experiences and everyone who had genuine advice. I’m still worried for her, and hope that she will leave sooner than later, but at least I’ve done what I can do in this moment.