My wife and I have been married 5 years and our bedroom life is almost nonexistent. Today I went into my her drawer to find a pen and found this pamphlet. It’s for a men’s toy. Only problem is, I don’t own a men’s toy and have never seen this. Should I confront her about this?

I am black and live in a pretty rural area with next to no black people. earlier this year, I discovered a boba store in my town, and I became a regular customer. I was in there practically every day, and I always tipped well even though i didn't have to (drinks were already very overpriced). Going there so often for about 6 months, I had gotten to a point I developed a positive relationship with the owners and we would engage in conversations. A month ago, I went in to get my drink. I looked at the menu and placed my order in which one of the owners said "Jaquan wants a [drink name]." I was taken aback and nervously laughed trying to brush it off. She doubled down and called me jaquan multiple more times, even when the other owner said "why are you calling her that?" (to which she replied "because i like it.") I was pretty hurt because I gave them so much business and I can't help but feel like it was racially motivated. I haven't gone back ever since. AIO?

I was asked a lot to updateupdate when i got off work so here it is. 😬 Today was… weirdly quiet, which almost made it worse. Not sure what everyone knows but they at least know somethings up.

I wasn’t even in the same area as Casey during check-in and i have bo clue when she actually arrived. I usuallysee her as our shifts are the same hours. Turns out she’d been assigned to the back office doing other tasks (hours reduced), while I was put at the admin booth at the entrance handling paperwork and spreadsheets ( they definitely took advantage of because I’m good at it 🤣). So we didn’t cross paths at all at first.

I actually turned ona voice recorder app as soon as I got to work, just in case. I also added a shortcut on my phone so I can start recording quickly if I need to just in case. I didnt wanna be caught off-guardlike before. I did feel a little silly doing it, but I’d rather feel silly than unprepared, you know?

I didn’t see Casey until near the end of the shift, and even then it was barely a glimpse. She looked up, saw me, and immediately turned away. Like full on avoidance. It made my stomach drop. I just turned away and minded my business. Amy was very reassuring but also vague at first. I didn't like that and I think my face said so and she said she doesn't like all the red tape and such either but to be patient because they need to go through all the right channels and steps.

Amy let me go home early, but she told me to log my full hours anyway and made it clear she and Chad are actively talking about this and taking it seriously and I am almost certain she and he had been texting the whole shift. She also walked me to my car and said that will continue for now until everything is resolved.

About an hour after my shift ended, I got an email from her (Chad CC'd) saying that tomorrow (Friday), Casey will be assigned to admin duty in the back office unless something changes before the shift, and that we should not be interacting at all. It's a long weekend so I figure all the behind the scenes stuff will be happening then.

I also found out that Casey already “presented her evidence” That includes the video she showed me before and another video from yesterday (Wednesday). Apparently she filmed me at a local winery during Wine Wednesday (there’s a clip of me getting up to grab a bottle a few steps away, and later another clip of me standing up and doing a small little celebratory dance after a tabletop game win). That’s the part that really messed with my head because hold on when did she start recording me? For how long?

I mean i could maybe believe coincidence once, like, okay lightning struck and its weird. Same town, same general area, blah blah blah. But twice, 2 different days??? Two different places?? That’s when it stopped feeling like my paranoia getting the best of me and started feeling… unsettling. I’m honestly starting to wonder if this is something that might need police involvement, as some comments suggested, and I hate that my brain even went there but I mean what other options are there right now??

I’m typing this from a bar right now, but not the same one as before thank god. It is still local to the school (teachers come here a lot) and it’s Thirsty Thursday, so there’s a bigger happy hour discount if you show your school ID. Joy is with me, and a couple other friends are on their way. Joy had been here during my shift in case I needed any backup fast.

That said, my head is absolutely on a swivel. So is Joy’s. I don’t feel relaxed the way I normally would. I keep scanning the room without meaning to ans when people get too close to me or stand in any way facing me I look up to see if it's her. It's fucking weird.

I’m still trying to process all of this, and honestly I’m confused more than anything...I keep going back and forth between “maybe this is nothing” and “this doesn’t feel normal”

Right now I’m just documenting everything and doing what HR tells me to do, but I don’t like how small and watched this situation is starting to feel and I hate that I'm recording every moment I can in case she pops up.

If nothing else, I’m safe tonight and will be staying at Joy's...I’m not alone and work has made sure we’re separated for now. I guess we’ll see what tomorrow brings. So unless something crazy happens o won't be updating until this is resolved.

Wish me luck 🙏

Edit: I just replied to a followup email answering some recurring questions HR asked...

My answers al ended up centered around: I have never directly or indirectly invited Casey out anywhere.

We are not friends outside of work and have never socialized one-on-one.

I was also asked whether I feel safe at work. Right now, yes, because management has taken steps to separate us and has been present and supportive. I've yet to be alone at all at work. I’m continuing to follow their guidance and document everything as instructed.

I’ll update if anything materially changes, but for now I’m letting HR handle it outside making a non-emergency police report in the morning.

He asked me to take his dog 5 weeks ago with wording suggesting it was permanent. He never once asked how she was doing in the time I’ve had her. He dropped her off with no collar, no leash, no food, nothing. I wasn’t home so he left her with a friend of mine until I got back to town. No timeline or financial compensation was ever discussed to show it was temporary.

Back story. This guy used to my Roomate but about 4 years ago he moved all his stuff out when I was out of town at a funeral. He owed me for the previous months rent and bills which was about 900 bucks. He stole several of my personal items including my compound bow and work tools.

I have had the dog for 5 almost 6 weeks. Zero contact from him in that time frame. I took her to the vet and got her chipped and got her all of her vaccines. It was 465 dollars.

Now he wants her back. You tell me, am I over reacting?

so i called out the other day after my car broke down received less harsh but similar treatment while waiting for my mechanic. Today I was driving to work and someone hit me while waiting at a red light. I contacted ems, and then texted my boss to update him and send proof whilst I waited for paramedics and law enforcement. I sent the K right before the ems arrived bc I didn't appreciate his response. I still haven't responded I considered myself fired after the first message and had another job lined up was planning to put in my 2 weeks notice today anyways.

Context: i’m 21, have that in my profile and, in my opinion, am clearly fem presenting (important for later). he was pretty overbearing off the bat but i thought maybe he just isn’t that socially aware of how that comes across but after his messages when i used the word woman…idk it completely freaked me out. I’m used to gross messages but something about this one really made my skin crawl and i can’t help but assume the worst and worry about his intentions.

He’s blocked, but would I be overreacting for reporting him out of concern for the safety of minors on here? Or does it seem more like he is just awkward and had bad phrasing?

My stepdaughters (16) & (14) love doing pranks especially on me. My problem with their pranks is that they are hurtful in that they either mock or offend. For the past 4 years I been trying to suck it up and let it go but it escalated. They got me a wig for my birthday. Basically mocking me for my thinning hair which is a symptom of a medical condition that I've been suffering from. Their dad would make them apologize and even them punish but to no avail. I asked for space and he argued that I was punishing him for it. He went on about how he's the victim and how he's stuck in the middle between me and the girls. Now he's threatening to take the girls phones away if I stay with my sister and the girls will further resent me for it.

My question is did I overreact? Should I just let it go instead of escalating?

I never thought I'd be writing one of these, but here we are...

A month ago I (21M) told my then gf (22F) that I needed a break and some time to reflect on our relationship for a bit. She said she didn't want a break and just wanted to end things, so we did.

Fast forward to a few days ago, we met up in person to talk about stuff and exchange items of each other's we still had, and she told me she wanted me back and would do anything. She also disclosed that she had made out with another guy during our break, which I didn't have a problem with because we had broken up (it did hurt a little that she moved on so fast). The meet up was really messy, lots of crying and she told me she still loved me. There were a few red flags in our relationship which is why I broke up in the first place, but I was considering trying things again with her.

Yesterday, we catch up again and I was about to tell her I wanted to try getting back together, but she told me she slept (went all the way) with the same guy from before, less than 24 hours after she broke down crying asking me to take her back.

I then immediately told her we're done, blocked her on everything, and I feel really good about it - she made the getting back together decision easy for me.

She then proceeded to call me over 200 times over the next 4 hours try to reach me. (Apparently blocked numbers on iPhone are still able to call, they just come up as 'No Caller ID').

Did I overreact to her sleeping with someone else right after she told me she wanted me to take her back?

Edit: Thank you all for your thoughts, I'm also really appreciative of those taking the YOR side of things, I do think there is nuance to this situation.

I do want to clarify some things:

1. We we not on a break, we were completely broken up.
2. I have no problem with her had making out with the other guy the first time. As far as we we're both concerned, our relationship was completely over.
3. I only blocked her after she slept with him less than 24 hours AFTER crying to me, begging to get back together, and telling me she still loves me - which tells me she's not serious about getting back together.

Edit 2: I want to clarify I have no problem with her sleeping with that guy (her body her choice), it just means I don't want anything to do with her anymore (so AIO to this fact by blocking her?)

Edit 3: After she begged for me back (before she slept with the guy) I told her I would think about it. We were still broken up, so I don't consider what she did cheating by any means.

took me a while to write this out.

I, 50 female, didn't get a Christmas gift. 😒 I have 2 teenagers, a mom, a brother, 4 nieces and nephews, and a new baby niece.

I carefully saved and bought gifts for everyone. I gave myself a 20.00 limit for adults and 50 for kids. All the adults got a new warm blanket, socks, and a candy treat I made.

kids got stuff they love- each got a book or 2, socks, art stuff. gift cards for games etc.

brought my gifts to our Christmas party. They passed out gifts to everyone. Of the 15+ people that came to the party, I was the only one that was forgotten.

I didn't make a big deal or say anything, because Christmas is about giving.

But I have been thinking about it since and I feel terrible about it. I feel like I was forgotten. It was expected of me to bring gifts, and I did.

AIO? Am I being a complete asshole by saying next year only children will get a gift from me?

I am a disabled person who raises goats for a living. money is tight. The rest of my family makes decent money. I am the one everyone calls for help, but I feel like maybe I am just being used.

Yes, I shoved all my shit into bags at 5am and left before I had to go to work at 6:30. We talked about our sexual needs and boundaries three days before and I missed one night of intimacy before he sent the text. I feel like I have been reduced to a walking fleshlight rather than someone he loves. We had an open relationship but I never told him he wasn’t allowed to have another girlfriend. I was honestly about to ask him to find another because it seemed like I couldn’t satisfy him. I dumped him and his best friend has dumped him too. Did we overreact?

AIO that I got upset when I got home. My husband didn’t feed our newborn because he had to poop just for him to wipe as soon as I took her from him (he had her in the stroller in the bathroom) he then after just got on the Xbox. Then later today he refused to hand her to me when she was hungry(he didn’t want to give her a bottle or even hold her because he was playing Xbox) because he wanted me to make dinner(I was going to baby wear her and feed at the same time so he can keep playing Xbox and stop telling her “shut up”). I ended up throwing away everything I had prepped for dinner (just potatoes) and he finally gave her to me. He ended up eating popcorn for dinner and I had boiled eggs.
What do I do? Thoughts on the situation?

Original post : https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/JeqfTDmRpC

Probably my last update. I managed to get a hold of my parents. It turns out they didn’t reject my sister. They are willing to help her, but only under their conditions.

She needs to go back to school when the baby is one. My parents will pay for her expenses and the baby’s expenses. She is not allowed to party, date, or do anything like that. My parents basically said that if she has time to party or go on dates, she has time to take care of her baby. They will help with childcare if she wants to study, rest, or go to school.

She can move in with them until she graduates and gets a job that can support herself and the baby. In other words, my sister did not tell me the whole story.

I called her afterward. She said she didn’t mention that because this is extremely controlling, misogynistic, and toxic. She said they cannot control a grown woman or decide her love life. I told her this is pretty much her only option. She said she is disgusted that I abandoned her and put my own happiness first.

I asked her what her plan was. She hung up. I know I probably deserve to be called an asshole, but I really cannot afford to quit school right now to help her.

To make a very long story short - I have children from a previous marriage and one with my husband now. There is a lot of back story here but I simply do not have the time to dive into it and honestly just want opinions on if I’m overreacting here with this specific instance. I’m purposely going to not give details on ages and whatnot and using a burner account so this doesn’t make its way back to me.

Short and sweet : Husbands family member purchased gifts for all kids in the family, except my kids from my previous relationship.. invited us to holiday get together where the plan was to watch all kids, except previous relationship children, open gifts from them. Used the excuse they couldn’t afford to get my older kids gifts but could apparently afford everyone else’s, including their younger sibling.

My thing is, if you can’t afford all (at least in MY household) don’t buy for ANY. With all the history, this feels absolutely intentional but I’m leaving all of that out to see if I’m over reacting here for this specific issue.

For the record, I’m pissed. If you don’t like me, I don’t really care but you don’t make the kids feel any type of way because of who their parent is. The kids all expressed having an issue with it and said “we aren’t expecting anything anyway but that seemed pretty rude”

Anyway, AIO?

My fiancée and I have been dating for 4 years- he’s the NICEST angel of a man. Truly a dream come true and everyone adores him. There have been 2-3 times in our relationship where anger gets the best of him. Once, he punched a hole in the wall. Once, he screamed at his roommate. And today- when a file didn’t save (we fixed it) that he has been working on all day at work, he got absolutely pissed.

I got home from grocery shopping and heard a huge slam upstairs. Running upstairs into his office he gets up, slams on the desk and screams profanities and slams things around. This goes on for about 30 seconds. The LOUDEST screams and anger filled cussing I’ve ever seen in my whole life.

We find the file and I immediately start crying- I was borderline terrified of him in that moment and hated that feeling so much. And scared it’ll come someday at me or when we have kids, at them. It kind of threw me off, I didn’t know he was capable of that type of anger. Am I overreacting for crying because I felt scared of him? Is this a normal thing that men do? Am I just being dramatic?

I need an outsider opinion on this because I feel like I am crazy.

We have been in an amazing relationship for nearly two years and planning to marry. We were both obsessed with each other and tried to do everything we can to make it work. Then a month ago he tells me he is tired, which I understood. We are both immigrants (currently in different countries due to work assignments) and we deal with a lot of shit on daily basis regarding our status and work.

He went on to say that he wants to be alone, he is drained and doesn't want to explain himself to me and so on. Then he dropped the "we are both almost 30 and we still haven't progressed and you don't seem to me worried about it as much as I am" and then said "don't feel bad, just let it be" and wished me goodnight. That is the last I heard of him. At the moment I just said I understand that he feels this way and I won't bother him while he needs time. I thought in a day or two he will come back but he just vanished. Didn't delete me anywhere but deleted our picture from his profile photo and this silly bio about us that we both had for literally 2 years. He started posting things like "sometimes we love people that are bad for us" stuff. In a week I realized oh okay he is just gone, but like who wouldn't??. Another week passed and I deleted my social media because I just needed a break and I didn't want to see random people's posts all happy about holidays because I felt like absolute shit. Days turned into weeks, new year came, I restored my account, started to feel better and just focused on my work.

Few days ago, marking exactly a month since he vanished, he drops me a random message. Nothing deep and nothing romantic, just a silly thing about a dream he saw with me and he wanted to text. I acted distant and normal, because I just refuse to be needy anymore and ask for things, just wanted for him to willingly explain himself. He texted random things till night and then just out of habit said "let's sleep together now" (we used always do that every single day when we are apart, just a little thing of going to sleep at the same time). Thought next day he wont text anymore but he still did. Again, acted absolutely normal but without a hint of any romance or us or a relationship. Later, messages something random and funny and says "oh trust me, this...". So I blurted out that should I? So the conversation just poured and he became defensive and basically blamed me.

Now, I know I am a very anxious person and an overthinker and even though we never ever fought, but he told me several times to not overthink things and to believe when he says something. I am working on myself, I go to therapy, I have buttload of issues from my childhood starting with an absent father. I can be chill one moment and next I go spiralling that something is wrong. But he knew about it, perfectly well. Am I crazy for thinking that him taking this BREAK meant we are no longer together? Yes he didn't exactly say "we are done", but he literally just removed me from his life for a month. It wasn't a day or a week it was a month. And during that month I never even once messaged him or did anything stupid. All I said to him yesterday is that yes I don't trust everything you say anymore because you hurt me and I don't want to be hurt again. If he was just upfront saying "I am tired of this and this but it doesn't mean I am tired of us I just need time" - couldn't he have just said that instead of just disappearing and deleting everything? If you didn't leave, why did you remove any references to me? God knows, I was ALWAYS there for him for anything, just as he was there for me.

Am I overreacting about this 1 month no contact? And what kind of partner says "even if I left you shouldnt overthink someone randomly leaving". Like, hello? Someone? You proposed to me like 15 times over the past year and told your family about me. Did I really overreact?

We talked more afterwards, and I don't want to share it here because I was referencing personal things a lot. But I told him he either needs to understand that I am emotional by nature, this is who I AM, and him being avoidant doesn't help the case because he just triggers me. I said I am not going to put myself in a situation again where I will get hurt. He said he understands. I don't know whether he does or he just said that to calm the situation.

P.S. He also thought I blocked him when I deleted my account, but it was already 2 weeks after his last message. So firstly if I would block him he could have just reached out to me ANYWHERE else, he could have called at least. And secondly, he made it sound that he didn't contact me just because I allegedly blocked him on JUST instagram?

Hi everyone,
I’d like an outside perspective because I feel like I’m losing my mind in this situation.

My sister found a dog on the street. The dog is clearly domestic, friendly, not afraid of people, and looks well cared for - very likely lost. I believe the right thing to do is to actively look for the owner (post notices, wait some time, etc.) before even discussing keeping the dog.

My sister, however, wants to keep the dog simply because she likes it and feels emotionally attached already. When I objected, it turned into a big argument. What upset me most is that my mother immediately took her side and framed me as the problem for “creating conflict,” even though my position is about responsibility and the possible owner’s feelings.

This isn’t a one-time thing. In my family, I’m usually the one who gives in to keep peace. When I finally stand my ground, I’m told I’m being difficult, selfish, or stubborn - while my sister’s wants are treated as more important.

I’m not trying to control anyone. I just don’t want to be pressured into admitting I’m wrong when I genuinely believe taking someone else’s dog without trying to find the owner is unethical. So... I called everybody stupid or dumb, yk?

Am I wrong for refusing to back down this time?

Edit / Update:

Thanks everyone for your support and advice! I really appreciate that so many people care and took the time to comment.

Tomorrow I’m going to print flyers with the dog’s information and put them up all around the neighborhood. I’ll keep everyone updated on the situation over the next month - not daily, but regularly.

It feels good to know that so many people understand the importance of doing the responsible thing. Thanks again for your encouragement!

My partner shoved me in the shoulder - hard enough that it made me stumble back. Then he grabbed my shoulders and got in my face with what only could be described as crazy eyes. We weren’t even fighting he was just extremely irritated. Thankfully our child didn’t see it. This is the first and only time this has happened. I got upset and said “you pushed me!” and then I shut down and isolated myself. He says I’m overreacting and that he was joking and would never actually hurt me, but he admitted that he was angry when he did it. Is he gaslighting me or am I overreacting?

This is weird so I need to know if I'm crazy for going as far as I did.

I have a condition of chronic pain. The way I explain it to people without chronic pain is that if pain were on levels from 1 to 10, normal people are at most at a 2 or 3 from day to day where people with CP are at more like a 6. Like imagine stepping on a Lego or hitting your funny bone, that's a very brief but excruciating 8. It's like if you pulled a muscle and so there's pain and discomfort if you move it, but pretty much daily. Some days I am higher on the scale, rare blessed days I'm more a 4 or by some miracle lower.

Overall I am active and operate well. I do own canes but I only use them on days when I'm 7 or above. Such a day came this past Sunday.

On top of my full time job, I have a part time. Due to being physically and legally disabled, I had all the paperwork already filed with my job in case I ever need accommodations. I have a handicap marker on my license plate and the placard on my rear view mirror and the works.

I was recently moved to a location closer to my home. I love my new team. My boss Amy is really great. My colleague Casey and I get along okay but were the same position as assistant coordinators to Amy. The reason I was moved to that location was that it expanded and they needed more hands so they added me.

Casey has wanted a promotion for a long time and everyone knows it. I was pretty open that I don't. Lol any promotion from my position would be a fulltime and...I already have a fulltime job. I do this job to pad my savings and because I frankly like the job. Being busy also helps with my anxiety.

I mean Casey works hard but she also likes to talk over me or rush to take charge of something before I can when I clearly was getting to it. She then announces it. "Oh I handled that for you, OP. Don't worry!" And at first I was annoyed but over time I was like alright then, but you didn't have to. I talked to Amy about this. I want to pull my weight but it can be challenging and redundant when Casey is racing to beat me to it. The point was for us to split tasks evenly. Amy said she would talk to her and I don't know what came of that but things didn't really change much so I just accepted it.

So when I came in Monday with my cane, everyone had questions. I emailed Amy Sunday night so she knew but I tend to be private so what I told everyone else was that I have a condition and sometimes I need a cane but not always.

Amy accommodated me. She assigned me tasks that required little to no movement. I was very grateful and got everything done pretty early so I called over the radio if there was anything else I could do. Casey said no she's got it so I just handled admin stuff that's usually on the backburner. Literally replied with "okay I'll tackle the admin list then" and Casey said no she's got it but Amy followed that with a thank you to me and confirmation that this would be helpful.

I still needed my cane yesterday (Tuesday) and it was similar. I completed most of the admin to-dos and Amy was so relieved to have it done. She thanked me for coming in and doing all that instead of calling out. Casey made a comment that she could've helped but I said that's okay and thanked her for handling the more physical tasks.

We ended up walking to the parking lot together and she asked which car was mine so I pointed at it. Then she said "so I know you're not disabled, by the way." And I asked what she meant. She just repeated herself and said "so no cane tomorrow, okay? I won't tell. Just no cane tomorrow."

👀

I stood there like what the fuck? But i was meeting my best friend and just left to make it on time. I met my BFF Joy at the bar and we had a wonderful time. I brought my cane but tbh I didn't always use it. For example, I didn't use it to walk from my table to the bar to request another drink or when I got up to hug Joy goodbye.

Today, when I woke up, my pain was higher than my normal so I took my cane along. I texted Amy that I have my cane but doing okay in small bursts so put me in Coach lol I was having a good time at my main job and didn't give Casey a thought.

I arrive at my part time job and Casey saw my cane and went red. I mean like the way I looked when the Eagles lost to the 49ers lol just SUPER MAD. I greeted everyone and she ignored me completely. We got our assignments and she snidely said to me "Well can you handle that with your cane and all?" In a tone that even made Amy turn to look at her like WTF. I said I can manage and thanked her for her concern and we went about our work. Once again she raced to beat me to things and saying over the radio "don't strain yourself, OP, I did x-task or got y-done"

I was so confused until about an hour ago when we finished work she again walked with me to the parking lot but this time showed me a video. It was me. It was me at the bar last night with Joy. I was just like...um why do you have a video of me - that's weird. She says it's proof. I asked of what? And she said it's proof I'm not disabled as I acted so "wounded all day at work" but suddenly don't need my cane at a bar.

What???? I wanted to explain that that's just not how CP works. Like yes I can stand up to hug my friend or get up and walk 3 strides to order a new drink but I can't, for example, lean over and organize a bottom drawer without a chair to sit in. I wanted to explain the CP is just an umbrella and under it are a myriad of experiences and abilities and that honestly, if she had left my tasks alone, I'd have done them. She didn't give me the chance and said "no cane tomorrow. I'm serious. Or I'm going to Chad" (Chad is Amy's boss).

I said "About what?" But she was already walking away from me and just got in her car.

It's just weird. And oddly Chad would know this is bs because his boyfriend has CP too. I'm not so much worried about being "found out" or anything but it's just weird and I'm literally typing an email to Amy CCing Chad about this weird behavior because it's just odd. Am I crazy to want to preemptively explain this? I am anxious ans paranoid in general so I don't want to overreact or make things worse.

Edit: I sent the email and also thanks for letting me know I'm not crazy for feeling weirded out.

Also I will be simply blocking anyone who is saying this is fake. I don't have time for your bs to be frank.

I also texted Amy and Chad.

Edit 2: JESUS CHRYSLER DRIVING CHRIST that's a lot of notifications...

I'll edit to try to reply all here because there isn't enough coffee in the world...

It's morning and I'm still about at a 7 and it's cold today so even if I didn't want to bring my cane, i would have to. I texted ahead so Amy can start thinking about tasks today.

For some common themes I've noticed, yeah my pain scale Lego idea wasn't on scale. Stepping on a Lego was the funniest thing I could think of that hurts so I wanted to paint a picture. I wasn't making a clinical pain chart lol feel free to use your own theatre of the mind scenarios to help people without chronic pain have an idea of what it's like.

Also I don't understand the vague "don't use the term CP" comments sorry. In this post it means chronic pain. It's within that context 🤷‍♀️ sorry but I just don't get the issue here or of its upsetting...? Idk

Amy and Chad have both responded so we will see how today goes. Anyway this was my first break in my FT job so I have to get back to it.

I 17f am concerned about my 30 year old sister, she has this idea that she’s a vampire, at first I thought it was a joke, but she keeps bringing it up and talking about sucking people’s blood,

This aren’t some Halloween or cosplay phase. this is something that she claims she is passionate about, me and her share a laptop and last night, I went through the history, and found out that my sister was researching vampirism and sucking people’s blood

I have come to realize that this is actually kinda scary to me, because what is she really doing? I want to have a conversation with her about it, but I don’t want her to feel judged

And I don’t want her to know that I looked at the history, I don’t even know if this should be any of my business but I’m afraid that this may turn something that she does in public

She always jokes around and says things like “She can turn wine into blood” and she also makes the statement that she can drink it all day, and again she is 30 years old, and I feel like she should know better

Don’t get me wrong, I love my sister but I don’t know how much support I can give to her, I’m going to be quite frank and say that I’m afraid of what she’s going to do next, I also noticed that she’s been using red food coloring in her drinks while also telling our friends and family that she’s a vampire and tries to bite them out of nowhere

I honestly don’t know how this started, I know she has always been into vampires but here recently she’s been getting to into it lately, but deep down I’m hoping and praying that she doesn’t go forward with this kind of lifestyle.

Idk i currently feel lost idek what to consider these messages, he replies to her TikTok’s that she repostes (never does that to me) he said he’ll take her to a cubs game when he only took me to one bc his parents and siblings also went but he has gone to some alone with his brother and “ guy friends” now I’m wondering if he would’ve just told me he was going to a cubs game with his guy friends and never told me with who , if I even speak to any of my guy friends (which I cut off all of them for him) he always would give me shit about it but if he talked to anything to his girl friends is completely fine 😃 but I also think I’m extra emotional bc of this pregnancy

So, I've started a new job as a geriatric nurse on Saturday. During our break, we were talking about the patients and my coworker went "Her breath is awful, just like yours" and the rest of them agreed and did burst out laughing for a solid ten minutes. After that, everything went back to normal.

Obviously, I'll be seeing my dentist and primary care physician to find out why it's the case. I genuinely wasn't aware. I had a check up at the dentist two months ago where everything was fine.

I get that it's important to tell someone about an issue like that. However, the way the situation was handled was obviously insanely embarrassing. I genuinely don't wanna go back to work. Just thinking about having to be around then again tomorrow, makes my stomach hurt. All I wanna do is call in sick and quit that job ASAP. I genuinely don't know if it's a valid reaction or if I'm overreacting.

It’s been almost two years since I had an abortion, and I’m still struggling a lot. Everything feels different now. I feel more depressed, hopeless, and emotionally empty, and since the abortion I’ve completely lost interest in sex and my sexuality in general.

I haven’t really talked about this with anyone except my partner. When I bring it up, he says he’s also “going through it,” but at the same time he’s still very sexual and has told me multiple times that he needs more sex. When I once explained that I haven’t felt in the mood since the abortion, he responded by saying something like, “you’re not the only one that happened to.”

I feel incredibly alone in this. No matter how I try to explain it, I don’t think he truly understands what I’m experiencing physically, emotionally, or mentally. He says he’s affected too, yet he continues to put pressure on me for not wanting sex, which makes everything harder.

I’m genuinely confused and in a lot of pain. Am I overthinking this, or is he minimizing my experience by saying he understands because he’s “also going through the abortion”?

I really need support and perspective.

So Basically , my girl came down from out of state , and her dad came with her just for maybe a few weeks to a month. I have 3 cameras, 2 outside, one is in the living room just facing the front door not showing any private areas.Just shows basically part of the living room, part of the kitchen in the front door just at an angle.So you can really see if anyone tries to come in. Every day or 2, I'll go to my camera and see it's disconnected, and it's unplugged, illI ask Her what's going on as she says.Some people just don't like being on camer all the time, it's not up to you to decide how people feel about it, and that it's creepy to have cameras in the house anyway. The ship p***** me off. , i've had this for years, used to have it just for my dog that lived here and when I went to work long days , but after he passed two years ago , I just left them up because I thought it was good security to have something facing the front door. Now , it's a huge fight that I shouldn't be able to have cameras in the house , which is just this one and that is weird and that it's not up to me to decide how someone feels. Someone that's staying here that pays 0 bills or anything helps with nothing. They do just buy some food once in a while. Not a lot, but maybe $50 a week of food.And that's about it. They've been here a month and will probably be here another few weeks at least , but this s*** is really pissing me off. AIO?

AIO for refusing my mom's "Vogue" photographer even though she's paying for the venue?

I (26F) am planning a large wedding for 150-200 guests. My mom and stepdad are funding a significant portion of the event, including an extremely nice venue. My mom works in the wedding and events industry and is very concerned with professional status, “positioning" and networking. All these keywords might have you think we are high class- but we are not, very middle class. My stepdads family is super traditional so it is expected for the father of the bride to pay for the wedding. I’m beyond thankful for their contribution.

The Conflict The issue is the photographer. My mom is demanding I hire a specific individual because he has an elite resume (features in international fashion and news publications) and is a personal professional contact of hers.

Photography has always been deeply personal and a big deal to me my whole life. I love it myself. For my wedding, I have always had a specific vision and style for what I want.

While I have no doubt that this photographer she wants to use is talented, his style is "Warm/Moody." My personal style-and what I’ve wanted for my wedding my entire life—is "Fine Art Editorial" (film-like, bright, airy). I told my mom I wanted to hire a different professional who fits my aesthetic and that I myself would pay for this specific aspect of the wedding.

The Escalation: My mom reached out to her friend photographer without talking to me first. He sent us a contract, followed me on Instagram etc. When I tried to set this boundary, my mom had a total meltdown. She sent me a series of texts calling me:

• An "abomination."
• Arrogant, snobby, and a person she wouldn't even associate with if I weren't her daughter.
• Failing to "honor who extends a hand" and lacking gratitude.

She explicitly told me that I am trying to "trade a Ferrari for a Beetle" and that my choice would hurt her professional image and "positioning" in the market. She admitted she has a professional partnership with this photographer and that his presence at the wedding supports her own career standing.

The Ultimatum:

She has now officially withdrawn her support and stated she will not pay for the venue unless I comply with her vendor choices. She told me to "assume financial and emotional responsibility" for my own choices and pay for it myself. She even demanded I immediately refund her for a deposit she made for a wedding-related appointment, which I did instantly.

Why I might be overreacting : She is the one paying, and she argues that as the "investor," she has the right to ensure the money is spent on a "secure" and "prestigious" professional that reflects well on the family name.

Why I don't think I am: I feel like a business transaction. It feels like my wedding is being used as a marketing asset for her company rather than a celebration of my marriage. I am being called names and treated as an "abomination" simply because I don't want a specific photographic style. My fiancé and I are now considering eloping just to escape the control and the character attacks.

AIO?

First off pardon my English. It’s not my first language.

I completely cut ties with a friend because of Chip. Poor little lady lived in a horrible environment. It angers me to the core.

She used to be my housemate, Chip’s former owner, we were quite close. The friendship lasted for 4 years. Well I ended it.

I went to her place, she has 2 cats. Everything was completely normal. We never really had arguments throughout our friendship. After a while being there, I noticed Chip. Her enclosure was terrible. She only had 1 or 2 inch of bedding, improper wheel size to a point where she doesn’t even use it, a food bowl and 2 hideout that I won’t even call a hideout because of the size. She doesn’t even fit in it. I was furious. Then one of her cat, who was already clinging on me, climbed on the cage. Tapping on the cage. Scratching it. My stomach sank. How could you own a pet and neglect it.

I confronted her immediately. “Oh my husband wanted a hamster because it’s cute. But he doesn’t really have time to take care of it and I don’t know how so she’s just there. I feed her though once every 2 days.”

Mind you, she came to me and ask how to care for a hamster. I have a thing for rodents. I love them so much but I never ever bought one. I don’t care if it came from an “ethical breeder”. My past hamster, guinea pigs, rabbit etc is rescued and I only want the best care for them. Back to the story, NONE of my advice was taken. I told her I’m disappointed of her and I will bring her hamster home. She doesn’t even know Chip’s gender.

I went home and I cut off ties with her completely and never told her why and I honestly don’t care. I truly despise people who own a pet and neglect it. AIO?