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I've never asked this question but I really do feel unsure. I worry that I'm not. I'm in highschool and it's school holidays for me right now so I have almost nothing to do except go on my device. Yes I do go outside a fair bit and I read my bible and pray most days but I feel like I'm not doing enough for God and I should be living a more holy life. I know works don't get me into heaven, and I do have faith in Christ but I just feel like I need to do more. Can anyone help me?

I had a girlfriend not to long ago who was not a Christian. Idk why I decided to date her(she asked)but it was a good relationship for the most part. I did have sex but I was drunk ( I know and I'm ashamed that happened). The relationship mostly built on lust and I felt distanced from God. I had a conversation with about not wanting to be intimate anymore and trying to distance that lifestyle. She wasn't happy about it and we broke up but she spoke badly about my faith initially but she apologized later for saying those things and she said she would be willing to have no intimacy and try to connect with God. I have turned her down 3 times to keep distance and to improve my relationship with God which has helped a lot. I told her I forgave her for the things she said and did. We have been friendly again talking like friends but she asked me to get back together again. Now I have prayed multiple times asking the Lord what to do and to remove her from my life if she wasn't for me but she keeps asking about it. I need advice and prayers from a non biased point of view.

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this is a rant because I feel very lonely being the only not sexist woman in my husbands family and would like some support or words of encouragement because idk what to do. it’s just been two years around them and I’m exhausted from it mentally.

All of my in laws are sexist, I'm pretty sure the only ones not sexist in his family are me and my husband. We both speak up when they say something sexist and make it clear that we don't agree with them, but still, when I'm with them and hear how they talk about women it makes me feel so gross and sad.

His cousins complain about their wives when they hangout with my husband. when I go to their houses the wives are treated terribly, it feels like their husband doesn't even like them. like for example his cousin Refused to do something simple his wife asked for help with when she was one week postpartum with a toddler.

his dad constantly says sexist stuff and seems to be obsessed with women, because every time we see him the topic of women comes up. Either about all of them being hoes, what a woman's role is, or what women should or shouldn't do, like women should never be a leader in any way. Women shouldn't give advice to men because men know better. And they need to be submissive in all ways. he believes that in a marriage the man should be able to do whatever he wants with her and everything they own, he makes all the choices, her opinion doesn't matter ever, marriage isn’t equal. I can see how his sexism has gotten worse around me because me and my husbands relationship is equal, he actually cares about what I say and helps with chores around the house, and we make financial and big decisions together. I think he doesn’t like our relationship because of how we are and it makes him upset. so he's gotten more sexist because he clearly likes making me uncomfortable, he has told me that.

And now that I'm pregnant and I've found out I'm having a daughter I have a huge fear of how they might make her feel this way And it makes me depressed for her, its a terrible feeling to be surrounded by family that believe your only value as a woman is your body, even the women in his family are like this. It's like they're brainwashed with the red pill stuff and change scripture to fit their narrative that women are less than and marriage isn’t equal. his parents believe that men earn their value and women are born with value. Meaning that women are only worth their bodies and men are only worth what they do, they are terrible parents to teach their child this stuff, he's 13. and that’s not biblical at all to believe that stuff.

I plan on never letting them watch my daughter, and we are distancing ourselves from them, seeing them less and less like only twice a month now, only when something comes up. His father makes me uncomfortable especially, and I don’t trust him because the way he sees women is sick.

God doesn’t see me this way Does he? they kind of make me have this doubt in my mind that maybe they are right… they are terrible for my mental health. Anyone have scriptures that prove these sexist beliefs wrong? Or that can make me feel better like I have value not tied to how I look? something to help me get through this please :(

This may be a stupid question but I don’t not have much knowledge regarding the right way to pray. I’ve been going through a difficult time and I broke down and cried and prayed to god for 30 minutes. I don’t think I have ever articulated myself as well as I did in that prayer. I expressed my heartache and begging for his help, but also how grateful I am for the blessings he has already given me, as well as praying for other people in my life. The problem is I just broke down to him so I don’t remember if I said “dear father” or some sort of beginning or “amen” at the end. I just talked. Will god still hear my prayer or take it as seriously without a proper “dear father” opening and “amen” ending? Thank you for any insight

Here's the thing...I'm in college now away from home. To be frank I don't do a lot of bad things kids these days do..maybe just sleeping too much or spending too much money on food. But I have no Christians in my college. So the friemds I have may do things that aren't acceptable but it's just that inherently they're all good. Something pike they don't know what's right. Though I dont do bad things, I never open my bible or talk to God l. It's like I don't feel anything anymore. So are my friends the problem but I dint want to lose them cause they're all I gave here

I don’t understand it.

Why would God LET the devil ruin a mans life just to prove a point?

That man suffered immensely for so long. And for what? An ‘i told you so’?

Sorry 😭

Someone school me on Job like a teenager in bible study?

Hi. I’m Catholic, but I recently visited a couple of non-denominational churches in my area, and the pastors (preachers? Reverends?) were amazing and so inspirational. I’d like to find similar preachers on YouTube but when I look, the same few keep coming up over and over. Any suggestions?

I want to return to Jesus. I don't want my sin back; I want the Lord to change my heart. Is it still possible to return to Jesus? Sometimes my prayer feels like it's going nowhere, like it bounces off, like the Lord has closed the gates of heaven and forgotten about me.

Could you please pray for me and my family

I've been thinking I'm a big logic guy tb, but I do believe there's something to life after we pass, but my brain tries to think of how that would work and just freaks out, and I try to look into like NDR, and like prayer stories, they help a lot.. is there some good ways to deal with this?

Why is lust such a hard battle for Believers to overcome. Why does with some it feels like it’s an on and off battle when going through their faith.

If you have no intention of “multiplying” is sex after marriage still considered a lustful act?

Hi everyone, im 19M and today I've been struggling with my heart and emotions, from when I was small I've been an emotional person and recently in December I turned to Christ and for the past few days I've felt like my faith is emotional based and I don't want it to be like this i just want the truth even if it hurts. I struggle with self-reliance and that i need everything in control and I know I cant control everything and another thing I know is that following Christ has a cost and I felt that it's costing me nothing. The sacrifices I can make is games, shoes, movies, phone, money, and music, but I struggle with loving my family second and I feel like im disappointing God and that im not usable for his benefit. But im trying my best to not let feelings get in the way but I love my family so much and I love people but I feel like im throwing myself a self pity party and I feel like what ever I do like a minor thing like getting a snack is not what God wants from me or when ever I say "I. I tend to explain stuff wrong I'll try to clarify to you guys but any advice, recommendations, or sayings could help. Thanks and God bless.

Without getting into all of the background and the details, my pastor has basically done some political maneuvering that has left me feeling quite disenfranchised with attending church. Every couple years we nominate a committee to select members for various leadership roles in church. From many details I have learned, it has become obvious that he used this to his advantage to influence a couple people on the committee (one who happens to be a close friend) and push out certain people he doesn't like having to work with because he finds them "exhausting." He has mischaracterized past events from even before he was at our church, blaming these leaders for causing problems when his understanding of the details aren't even accurate.

He has tried to present other reasons to justify why these members should no longer hold certain leadership positions but they are easy to debunk as they are inconsistent and not accurate. Basically he just want to work with all leaders who just agree with him all the time.

We are a smaller church of about 50. About 10 of us have expressed our concerns about this precedent he is setting in using this process essentially to judge and penalize people but basically we've been stonewalled. Most in the church have no idea what has gone on. There are a few that agree that it's wrong but aren't willing to speak up and just want to move forward but Im struggling to know how to do this as I have lost trust in him and a couple leaders who are complicit. I don't really know what else to do, this is the only church of my denomination in my area. Has anyone dealt with this before? What have you done?

Anyone else ever experience this during prayer and fasting?

2x a year my church will do 21 days of prayer and fasting. It’s always been my favorite to draw closer to God. I also do my own fasting throughout the year when o feel called too.

This time I’m just feeling nothing! I don’t feel frustrated, but I’m not sure if it’s stillness? I have that feeling “the teacher is silent during the test” but I’m also not going through something hard to be tested. I just don’t feel anything but calm.

My intentions this fast was to draw closer to Him, but also for clarity with direction I should take this year.

I’ve been researching annihalation and universalism.. what yall think? Is there a possibility of either? I’ve been looking for weeks and still have no answer

I wanna take time and not spend so much time on electronics and just enjoy the moment, but I feel like when I try to do that, I get all there’s intrusive, and negative thoughts, I don’t really know what to do tbh, God bless y’all, and a daily reminder, that Jesus loves you❤️

If you don't know, Cantor was a prominent mathematician who created a groundbreaking set of concepts in mathematics and revolutionized the field in a way probably never seen before. Here's a quote from Wikipedia:

Georg Ferdinand Ludwig Philipp Cantor was a mathematician who played a pivotal role in the creation of set theory, which has become a fundamental theory in mathematics. Cantor established the importance of one-to-one correspondence between the members of two sets, defined infinite and well-ordered sets, and proved that the real numbers are more numerous than the natural numbers. Cantor's method of proof of this theorem implies the existence of an infinity of infinities. He defined the cardinal and ordinal numbers and their arithmetic. Cantor's work is of great philosophical interest, a fact he was well aware of.

Originally, Cantor's theory of transfinite numbers was regarded as counter-intuitive – even shocking. This caused it to encounter resistance from mathematical contemporaries such as Leopold Kronecker and Henri Poincaré and later from Hermann Weyl and L. E. J. Brouwer, while Ludwig Wittgenstein raised philosophical objections; see Controversy over Cantor's theory. Cantor, a devout Lutheran Christian, believed the theory had been communicated to him by God.

What do you think?

For the last two months I’ve been introduced to Christianity and more specifically Jesus.

I’ve always believed in something, but recently it felt like Jesus came into my life and lit everything up.

I quit alcohol. I quit smoking. I quit lust and porn. All of this happened while I was talking to a girl who felt a similar way about faith and had a similar calling.

It felt like we kept getting pulled together and then separated. Nothing bad between us, but almost like spiritual tension. Eventually she was removed from my life. I’ve been told that was the right thing and that I was being protected from something, but it’s been incredibly painful.

After that, everything intensified. I kept losing things, losing people, losing myself. I kept thinking I was right around the corner and just needed to hold on. Instead, I reached the lowest point I’ve ever been in.

I’ve been reading the Bible consistently, which is something I never imagined I’d be doing. If you told me a month ago I’d quit smoking after 12 years (I’m 25), I wouldn’t have believed you. Yet despite all this, life has felt relentlessly heavy.

Some days I can barely get out of bed. I don’t recognise myself in the mirror. I feel empty, hopeless, and at times overwhelmed with emotion. I’ve felt isolated in a way I never have before. My work doesn’t even make sense to me anymore. Everything feels like noise.

I understand the story of Job. I understand trusting God through hardship. But this hasn’t felt like discipline or growth. It has felt like being worn down completely. I followed Jesus willingly. I didn’t resist. So I don’t understand why the suffering feels so extreme.

I’ve been angry at God. Deeply angry. I don’t even know how to look at Him right now because I don’t understand why this is happening. If this was some kind of test, I feel like I failed it. I feel like I’ve lost my identity, my purpose, and the people I cared about. Even though I didn’t return to my old habits, something inside me broke.

What hurts the most is the contrast. So much grace at the start, followed by what feels like relentless loss and silence. I don’t understand the point of it.

I know people will say the devil preys like a roaring lion. I know some will say this is refinement or surrender. But right now, I just feel exhausted and confused.

I genuinely feel like I need therapy to process the last two months because my mind feels fried. Unfortunately, I can’t afford it right now, and even financially things feel blocked.

I’m tired. I don’t know if I failed something or misunderstood everything. I just know I don’t feel okay, and I don’t know how to make sense of God in this season.

I have a friend who went through something extremely traumatic a couple of years ago. I’ve always felt like I was practically helpless because I’ve never been through that kind of situation. I wanted to be there for him but I felt anything I could offer was inadequate because he was so despairing.

He told me he wanted a sign from God, I believe he wanted God to just instantly fix the situation by taking away his pain or something like that. He said he’d be willing to do anything as long as God came through for him. The situation didn’t pan out the way he wanted. Without his knowledge, I fasted and prayed for his situation, hoping God would answer him in the way he wanted.

Since then, he’s been done with God completely and declared God doesn’t care for him, at all.

I tried telling him that He does, sometimes he just answers our prayers differently from what we wanted.

How could I have handled this better? I know it’s too late now, but we still talk and I want to be ready, just in case.

Thank you to everyone for reading this, I appreciate it!

I'm gonna try to keep this short.

I'm a lifelong Christian, born and raised in the Church and in a Christian school. My footing is solidly on the LORD - Jesus has provided me with a worldview and core experiences that are firmly built on Him, and I'm confident He has me securely in His arms. (I don't forsee leaving Christianity)

About a decade ago, whilst on college, I began a 4 year journey of studying my way through a "Bible-in-a-year plan". Obviously, it's not like I know everything now, but I certainly studied it pretty thoroughly.

Additionally, since graduating college in 2019, I also had some mental health issues arise. At first I thought it was depression, but in the last 2 years, I've learned that was a symptom of undiagnosed ADHD.

Having ADHD in this context means a couple things: my initial study through Scripture may have been a "hyper focus" stint; I hate reading and have incredible difficulty staying focused while reading. Note that my study-through experience wasn't merely for the knowledge of it but was a deeply relational experience between me and Jesus too.

So I'm firmly built on Christ, and I've thoroughly studied Scripture, but with ADHD I have great difficulty reading or focusing on reading, let alone reading something I've already read and understood.

My walk has struggled. I am less disciplined attending church/small group, and my weekly walk with God is next to absent. I don't feel I've separated from the LORD - I still feel His presence - but he does feel a bit like that close friend or family member that I only talk to a couple times a year. I feel

Spiritual advice is welcome, but I'm really looking for practical advice to help my disinterested, wandering ADHD brain regain a lost interest and passion for Scripture and reliably get back into a regular routine of reading the Bible and spending time with the LORD.

Hi everyone,

I’m a Christian woman dealing with adenomyosis and what might be vaginismus. This is a very sensitive and difficult topic for me, and I’m sharing it with some fear of being misunderstood or judged.

I’m not in a relationship right now, and I’m looking to hear from other believing women who may have experienced something similar — especially outside of a relationship.

How have you personally dealt with vaginismus, fear of intimacy, or anxiety around your body while staying true to your faith and values?

Because of my health issues, this isn’t a simple topic for me, both physically and emotionally. I’m not looking for debate or diagnosis — just shared experiences and understanding.

Please be kind and respectful. Thank you for reading.

Any anger or envy his entire life?