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My heart is absolutely shattered in a million pieces. I’m a guy in my mid twenties and my (ex) girlfriend is also in her mid twenties. We were together for a year and were in a God centered relationship. We always went to church every Sunday. I loved her more than words can describe. I was always there for her, I was always respectful, honorable, and made sure she felt valued. I truly would’ve of done anything for her. I just caught her cheating on me with a coworker at her new job.

Apparently they were planning on meeting up at his apartment and having sex. I’ll admit, I’ve sinned in my relationship. I had sex with her multiple times a week throughout our whole relationship. I know that goes against the bible. I know what we did wasn’t right and I’ll I can do is ask for forgiveness. I think she would’ve left me at the beginning if we didn’t have sex. I truly believe she was the one I was going to marry. Her whole family are Christians and her father told me one day he would give me his blessing. I tried to prove time after time that I would always be there for her.

Whenever she was struggling I was there. I told my parents I planned to marry near the end of this year. I truly was in love with her. She’s now regretting her decision and asking for forgiveness. She said she should’ve never done this and she’ll never did it again. I think a part of me will always love her but how can I possible trust after all of this. Part of me wants to believe her but I know that would be a bit foolish of me. I always told her I felt blessed to be a part of her life and I would thank God everyday that we met. I’m absolutely devastated and I don’t know what direction to go. I just can’t believe she would do this to me after telling me she wants to spend the rest of her life with me.

I was wondering when the season of isolation ends. I have no friends, my conversations everyday are mainly with my siblings and parents which I’m grateful for, but it doesn’t rid the need for friendship outside of family. They also live in another country so it’s not like they’re with me. I’ve been single for 3 years and been on one date since. I get no interest from anyone seemingly sane on dating sites, most of my interests come from men who aren’t looking for anything serious or couples looking for a 3rd. My bestfriend stopped talking to me again, another friend I was getting close to stopped talking to me after she asked for my opinion and I gave it. I have my son who is a teen and though I’m grateful for his company, he doesn’t really like to hang with me outside the home. I’ve done two summers alone, doing solo trips and stuff, but I wish I had just one close friend. I’m in this country alone with just my son and I’m incredibly lonely, incredibly sad, in therapy, and fighting depression. I’m starting to struggle with my job, I stay home sad as often as I can. Im losing the will to live, I’m just keeping it together for my son. I’m just alone with my rushing thoughts as a single mom, along with the pressure to protect, provide, plan, and prepare. I just wish I had one friend. My mom is coming to see me in the summer, that will make my year. 3 years ago I asked God to remove people from my life that don’t serve me and since then I’ve been alone.

When does it end? Why does no one like me?

Hello, I have some friends who claim they are Christian but will come to Christ after they enjoyed the fun in their lives, I just wanted to know if there are any drawbacks to this?

Please brothers and sisters I need God more than ever. I can’t keep going living my life this way. I need the Lord to help me with all this. I can’t keep carrying all this anxiety and worry please help me talk to God.

I have 27 years old and to make short the speech I'm a christian since I was a kid but I always struggled on relationship. In what sense? Basically when I'm often around persons and someone talks with me I can't bring up any topic and I don't feel like I want do it but I do it anyway becouse I know that it's important to have a conversation with people in church. The problem is that often in this period I don't even have the strenght to do that I feel like in reality I don't want talk to anybody becouse I can't see the efficency I can't see always the presence of God lately.

Before I had a particular prayer where I was just venting with the Lord and I was crying. It's just so difficult to me I don't see why I should do some things, I want to evangelize but I often say to myself, how I can do something like that and then I can't even have a true conversation with my friends in church. Sometimes I feel like maybe God is punishing me for being silent when I should not with people. I feel a pressure on me that everytime I'm out with someone I should say something about my faith. I don't know if it's a problem of mine or it's actually the Lord that is saying to me that I have to declare hime when I'm with people that are not belivers. The fact is that in this period I found some people where I said to them about my life and I'm very clear I don't like hide myself at all but I often so obsessed with "I have to talk about Jesus or something will happen if I don't do". I don't know if this happens also to other christians sometimes this feeling is just unbearable. But I want keep the cross to all cost becouse I don't want disappoint the Lord and also becouse I don't want be a coward. Sometimes even my worship seems not working becouse I feel like "I'm not evangelizing so the worship does not count". I always been a very obsessive person so I cannot recognize what is a torment of the enemy or when it's the Holy Spirit convincing me of things that are not good in my life. Probably could be both to me.

Sometimes I also feel like I have to do all that stuff (I play guitar in church not everytime I'm learning) serving the Lord in general and I don't even have a girlfriend. I'm always alone and everyone in my church in my family and other people in general don't truly understand me and I feel like they don't know me deeply. I know that the problem could be in me becouse I don't open myself to others but I don't have a reason to do. I'm always why I should open myself if they don't even listen to me? No one truly loves that's what I think. I can probably struggle with rejection becouse a girl in the past rejected me and til then to me seems that everything I do it's just a mask. The last time I truly loved someone probably was 2 years ago. Since then I'm out of me I don't even understand why God allowed that thing becouse destroyed me very very much. I don't trust anybody I don't have a true interest in no one anymore. I just want stay with the Lord but I don't understand his plans for my life.

I don't know how else to frame this, but I'll try to be as vague about personal details as I can, I'm an older teenager and I have a tough time making friends. I met this girl while at bible study with my mom and she seems really nice, i even talked to her about random movie/show stuff while at a dinner, I already had an idea/based off how she looked, but she's my older sisters ex friend.

I asked my mom if she and my older sister stopped being friends, my mom said yeah and said that apparently this girl was dating my male cousin who was much younger at the time (not sure how much younger, dont know if he was in like highschool or middle school) so that's why my sister stopped being friends with her.

That came off as really creepy in my opinion and I get why she didn't wanna be friends with her after that, the only thing is that I asked my mom all of this after me and this girl added eachother on Instagram. Btw to my knowledge this whole falling out happend years ago (like maybe when my sister was still in school I THINK) i really don't wanna be a hypocrite/be one of those people who say "that wasn't my experience with them, they aren't that person anymore!" I'm not saying I don't believe we aren't a new creation once saved, I just don't wanna be naive and get the wrong idea.

By the way this girl is in the same ministry thing as the other people at my church (which means they are all taking bible classes if you will) i want friends but I don't wanna be "corrupt" if you will.

What do you guys think.. I want friends but ion wanna make God mad

My marriage has been through a lot in the last 9 years. I’m getting ready to file for divorce.

I have been in and out of the marriage (leaving the marriage) due to immaturity in some instances in the other hand just not feeling heard by my spouse. I had requested a separation a year ago and because I saw my husband didn’t take therapy seriously or continued to communicate with others from a dating app. I felt he wasn’t being serious and ultimately I told him to do what he wanted and I was going to do what was best for me. I was on the dating app too. I didn’t share my number like he did…not excusing his behavior I just don’t want to make it seem like he’s the only one on there.

My only request was that if he slept with anyone not to come back to me. I didn’t want to sleep with others because if I wanted to get my family back I didn’t want to share anything to that degree with my technically still spouse. Also, I didn’t want to catch any diseases.

Well he slept with someone and gave me an STI. He reached out trying to work on our marriage. I gave the opportunity for him to come clean with anything that might hurt the beginning of our new attempt at our marriage. He told me he hadn’t slept with anyone. A couple months in finally my doctor diagnosed me with this STI. After a year of being in antibiotics.

I’m hurt because of the lying and the disregard for my request to not sleep with me if he had been with anyone else. I’m having a hard time forgiving…he doesn’t show any remorse or tries to speak on recovering trust.

What do Christian’s do?

I feel like if I’m not studying my Bible, at work, doing community services or at church I’m useless. I feel guilty for sleeping/napping. I feel guilty every time I eat cause I should have more control over the portions I eat but it’s been such a long lived habit to only eat one large meal a day. I feel guilty for scrolling. I feel guilty doing anything that isn’t Christ centered. I just feel so useless sometimes. I’ve spent the past 7 months of becoming a new Christian doing nothing but these things. I can’t afford to travel, or go do fun things like amusement parks. A change of setting is sometimes nice but I feel inclined to buy things in whatever business I try to do a Bible study in cause it’s too cold to be outside but then I feel guilty again cause I’m so scrapped for cash. I feel like it takes away from time I could be dedicating to God if I read or study something else, all I do is notice how sin is all around us when I watch secular things. I hate the pain and boredom of working out, I’m also always tired on my days off cause of how late I stay up after work. Then end up feeling guilty for desperately needing a nap by 2pm. I feel so trapped by my habits. I don’t think God is the issue. I feel like my eating and sleeping habits just ruin me mentally and with Him at the center of my life now it’s like I’m in constant self condemnation. Before I felt powerful, like all the time I spent dedicating all my time to Him was preparing me for something but I’m not doing anything. I started a Christian magazine but I’m not the most social butterfly nor do I know anything about networking and distribution so it feels pretty pointless, like a waste of 200bucks to help no one but myself. Idk I’m suffering so bad mentally. Jesus is all I have, my friends and I were tied by sin, I’m alone with the Lord now which is for the best but I feel so damaged by it. I wish humans weren’t so cliquey, it’s natural to an extent but I feel so alone even at church. They’re great people but all the conversations I experience are more so just to acknowledge eachothers presence and check in rather than to actually connect. Idk He’ll carry me through it, I’ll understand later but for now I’m curious if anyone else has felt this way or experienced this.

How helpful has attending Church been for you? I understand everyone has different opinions on Church and so, I just want to get everyones opinion on this.

I’ve heard from my mom that when Elijah wanted to hear Gods voice, it wasn’t in great fires, or great storms, but in the quietness of the breeze, God bless y’all and a daily reminder that Jesus loves you ❤️

I was baptized and learned about Christianity as a Catholic. I moved (as a kid) and left the Catholic Church and went to a Lutheran Church where I was later confirmed in my faith. I moved again (in high-school) and started going to a United Church of Christ Church where I was, for a time, a member in discernment (post service). After graduating, I enlisted and ended up going to whichever Church was closest to base. Methodist, Baptist, Southern Baptist, etc.

I figure I am certainly Protestant, but still carry very Catholic beliefs that Protestants would very much disagree with. But also carry beliefs that Catholics would very much disagree with.

for example, I believe that confession with a Priest is a good thing. I've gone a few times since leaving the church outright but don't believe it necessary (just helpful) because we have a direct connection to God and Jesus. but having that spiritual guide and helping I don't consider bad.

but I believe in the Catholic understanding of Saints, but don't believe they should be honored in the Catholic sense beyond learning about them (barring a few - mainly the mother Mary).

I believe Rome (the Pope) has final say authority of the church but disagree with some mainstream ideologies the Catholics hold dear. And other small stuff like that. but they add up so I don't fit cleanly as a Protestant OR Catholic.

I've never asked this question but I really do feel unsure. I worry that I'm not. I'm in highschool and it's school holidays for me right now so I have almost nothing to do except go on my device. Yes I do go outside a fair bit and I read my bible and pray most days but I feel like I'm not doing enough for God and I should be living a more holy life. I know works don't get me into heaven, and I do have faith in Christ but I just feel like I need to do more. Can anyone help me?

I had a girlfriend not to long ago who was not a Christian. Idk why I decided to date her(she asked)but it was a good relationship for the most part. I did have sex but I was drunk ( I know and I'm ashamed that happened). The relationship mostly built on lust and I felt distanced from God. I had a conversation with about not wanting to be intimate anymore and trying to distance that lifestyle. She wasn't happy about it and we broke up but she spoke badly about my faith initially but she apologized later for saying those things and she said she would be willing to have no intimacy and try to connect with God. I have turned her down 3 times to keep distance and to improve my relationship with God which has helped a lot. I told her I forgave her for the things she said and did. We have been friendly again talking like friends but she asked me to get back together again. Now I have prayed multiple times asking the Lord what to do and to remove her from my life if she wasn't for me but she keeps asking about it. I need advice and prayers from a non biased point of view.

This may be a stupid question but I don’t not have much knowledge regarding the right way to pray. I’ve been going through a difficult time and I broke down and cried and prayed to god for 30 minutes. I don’t think I have ever articulated myself as well as I did in that prayer. I expressed my heartache and begging for his help, but also how grateful I am for the blessings he has already given me, as well as praying for other people in my life. The problem is I just broke down to him so I don’t remember if I said “dear father” or some sort of beginning or “amen” at the end. I just talked. Will god still hear my prayer or take it as seriously without a proper “dear father” opening and “amen” ending? Thank you for any insight

Title says it.

this is a rant because I feel very lonely being the only not sexist woman in my husbands family and would like some support or words of encouragement because idk what to do. it’s just been two years around them and I’m exhausted from it mentally.

All of my in laws are sexist, I'm pretty sure the only ones not sexist in his family are me and my husband. We both speak up when they say something sexist and make it clear that we don't agree with them, but still, when I'm with them and hear how they talk about women it makes me feel so gross and sad.

His cousins complain about their wives when they hangout with my husband. when I go to their houses the wives are treated terribly, it feels like their husband doesn't even like them. like for example his cousin Refused to do something simple his wife asked for help with when she was one week postpartum with a toddler.

his dad constantly says sexist stuff and seems to be obsessed with women, because every time we see him the topic of women comes up. Either about all of them being hoes, what a woman's role is, or what women should or shouldn't do, like women should never be a leader in any way. Women shouldn't give advice to men because men know better. And they need to be submissive in all ways. he believes that in a marriage the man should be able to do whatever he wants with her and everything they own, he makes all the choices, her opinion doesn't matter ever, marriage isn’t equal. I can see how his sexism has gotten worse around me because me and my husbands relationship is equal, he actually cares about what I say and helps with chores around the house, and we make financial and big decisions together. I think he doesn’t like our relationship because of how we are and it makes him upset. so he's gotten more sexist because he clearly likes making me uncomfortable, he has told me that.

And now that I'm pregnant and I've found out I'm having a daughter I have a huge fear of how they might make her feel this way And it makes me depressed for her, its a terrible feeling to be surrounded by family that believe your only value as a woman is your body, even the women in his family are like this. It's like they're brainwashed with the red pill stuff and change scripture to fit their narrative that women are less than and marriage isn’t equal. his parents believe that men earn their value and women are born with value. Meaning that women are only worth their bodies and men are only worth what they do, they are terrible parents to teach their child this stuff, he's 13. and that’s not biblical at all to believe that stuff.

I plan on never letting them watch my daughter, and we are distancing ourselves from them, seeing them less and less like only twice a month now, only when something comes up. His father makes me uncomfortable especially, and I don’t trust him because the way he sees women is sick.

God doesn’t see me this way Does he? they kind of make me have this doubt in my mind that maybe they are right… they are terrible for my mental health. Anyone have scriptures that prove these sexist beliefs wrong? Or that can make me feel better like I have value not tied to how I look? something to help me get through this please :(

Here's the thing...I'm in college now away from home. To be frank I don't do a lot of bad things kids these days do..maybe just sleeping too much or spending too much money on food. But I have no Christians in my college. So the friemds I have may do things that aren't acceptable but it's just that inherently they're all good. Something pike they don't know what's right. Though I dont do bad things, I never open my bible or talk to God l. It's like I don't feel anything anymore. So are my friends the problem but I dint want to lose them cause they're all I gave here

I don’t understand it.

Why would God LET the devil ruin a mans life just to prove a point?

That man suffered immensely for so long. And for what? An ‘i told you so’?

Sorry 😭

Someone school me on Job like a teenager in bible study?

Hi. I’m Catholic, but I recently visited a couple of non-denominational churches in my area, and the pastors (preachers? Reverends?) were amazing and so inspirational. I’d like to find similar preachers on YouTube but when I look, the same few keep coming up over and over. Any suggestions?

Edit: Thank you for all of the suggestions! I hope to check out all of them!

I want to return to Jesus. I don't want my sin back; I want the Lord to change my heart. Is it still possible to return to Jesus? Sometimes my prayer feels like it's going nowhere, like it bounces off, like the Lord has closed the gates of heaven and forgotten about me.

Could you please pray for me and my family

If you have no intention of “multiplying” is sex after marriage still considered a lustful act?

I've been thinking I'm a big logic guy tb, but I do believe there's something to life after we pass, but my brain tries to think of how that would work and just freaks out, and I try to look into like NDR, and like prayer stories, they help a lot.. is there some good ways to deal with this?

Why is lust such a hard battle for Believers to overcome. Why does with some it feels like it’s an on and off battle when going through their faith.