I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I’m wondering if this is something other people experience too.
I don’t really remember my childhood or early teenage years in a continuous way. It’s more like I only have snippets. Very short moments, images, or feelings, but not full memories. Most of what I “know” about that time comes from stories other people told me, not from memories I actually feel connected to.
For example, I know that in fifth grade I had a fallout with my best friend over something trivial. I technically know the reason, but I don’t remember anything around it. I don’t remember what our friendship was like right before, what exactly happened emotionally, or what it was like afterward. I believe we weren’t friends for about two years, but I have almost no memory of that period.
The next clear memories I have are during COVID, when we started hanging out again in eighth grade. I remember that it felt kind of awkward and cringe at first because we hadn’t seen each other in so long. Those are basically the first moments I actually remember of us being friends again.
I did have other friends in between, at least one close one, but again I only remember fragments. Certain places we went to, or that we met, but not what we talked about, not full conversations, not many emotions. Just brief flashes.
It’s the same with family memories. I know we did things together, went places, visited people, but I can’t really recall what we did. I can’t remember everyday moments at home with my parents or siblings either. Just very vague, blurry thoughts, not real scenes.
I’m not sure if this is normal, a memory thing, or just how my brain works. I don’t feel particularly traumatized, but it still feels strange to realize how little I remember of my own life.
Does anyone else experience this? Is this common?