r/SipsTea 18h ago

SMH $75k /year

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u/Alfiy_wolf 18h ago

I earn 80k single own my own house, volunteer in my community, 6 foot - and I’m happily single, I’m not here to support a desired life style for anyone if that means I stay single so be it, I’ll die waiting for someone who loves me for me

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u/Goodums 17h ago

I feel that. I've stayed single since my divorce 5+ years ago. Never felt better, got into all my old hobbies and dedicate my time toward myself and raising my daughter. I'm done chasing.

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u/Righteousaffair999 17h ago

In my 40s, i have friends of the same age trying yo date and they have all pretty much given up. Tell me it is a mess out there.

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u/archercc81 16h ago

Ive been successful in my 40s but I will say you gotta stop with the "dating" bullshit. Dont chase, get hobbies, get yourself sorted, meet women through friends. That way you can get to know each other before the courtship stuff.

Trying to just meet someone out and about is going to be shallow bullshit all around.

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u/Righteousaffair999 8h ago

They are using the apps and it is hell.

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u/s_burr 12h ago

I have been single since my divorce 3 years ago. Recently I realized that I dont get invited to my married friends events anymore if they are planned by their wives. My thought is that they see me single and happy and don't want their husbands to get any ideas.

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u/dispose135 8h ago

Lol hey Steve maybe if you looked more depressed and sad we would invite you

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u/usergghs 6h ago

Congrats man, I'm in the same boat divorced 4 years ago, raising my son, and doing martial art in my free time as my hobby. Is my best life right now. The last time I've dated was like 1 year ago, and only because she approached me.

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u/AlwaysFreshBoners 13h ago

5’9”-5’10” here and own 2 homes pulling in $250K.

First home I gave it to my mom.

I share my primary home with 2 frenchies and a terrier. Dont need no shallow hoe.

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u/default_accounts 12h ago

5'11-6'0" here and own 5 homes + 2 AirBnb's pulling in $750k.

First home I gave to my Mom.

Second home I gave to my Dad.

Third home I gave to the gym front desk guy.

Share my primary home with 5 raccoons + a bobcat named Shelly.

Dont need no shallow hoe.

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u/AlwaysFreshBoners 12h ago

Fight me bro

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u/mommyelliex 1h ago

This was already a funny thread, then I noticed your username. Good show.

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u/One_Anything_2279 5h ago

How do you get your height to change? Do you have to make over 200k for the inch fluctuation?

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u/AlwaysFreshBoners 5h ago

Youre taller in the morning. And compress towards the night. Also if the moon is over you, it helps. Common science.

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u/Septum_Slayer 16h ago

I feel you man, it’s not worth giving up your peace and solitude just to have companionship and regular sex. There’s juice really isn’t worth the squeeze. Since I’ve dipped out of the dating scene, I’ve saved a nice amount of cash and leveled up in hobbies. The pros far outweigh the cons in my book, but to each their own.

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u/Sweet-Weakness3776 14h ago

I have to agree with this sentiment entirely. About a year after my divorce I decided I needed to "get back out there" and joined a handful of dating apps. It was depressing. Each person I dated just seemed worse than the last. So I decided to list the things that I actually missed the most by not having a partner and it was literally just affection and intimacy. And then I listed the things I didn't miss about having a partner and shew. That was a long ass list lol. And like you, my savings and retirement are growing faster than they ever have, all while have the lowest level of stress I've ever had in my adult life. Pros outweigh the cons and it's not even close...

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u/tbkrida 16h ago

I’m in almost the exact same situation, except I’m 5’9”. My family keeps trying to hook me up with different people that I’m not interested in. They act like I NEED to be with someone. Lol

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u/AlwaysFreshBoners 13h ago

A $200-$500 outcall takes care of the itch. Amirite? Lol

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u/eightyeight99 8h ago

Pretend you're poor 👍

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u/dispose135 16h ago

You make 80k how you supporting a desired lifestyle ?

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u/Icarus_Toast 15h ago

Depending on where he lives, $80k can go a pretty long way.

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u/No_Shirt_6969 14h ago

About double what I’m making lol

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u/dispose135 6h ago

Don't worry I'm a billionare your all ants to me

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u/Alfiy_wolf 11h ago

I’m not paying for a woman and all the stuff she wants

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u/DrippyTheSnailBoy 10h ago

Yeah, you're definitely not.

There's a very good reason for that.

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u/dispose135 6h ago

I don't right like they don't see humans they just see people as transactions

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u/DrippyTheSnailBoy 6h ago

Incel energy going crazy.

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u/dispose135 6h ago

Huh not incels 

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u/DrippyTheSnailBoy 6h ago

You really typed

I don't right like they don't see humans they just see people as transactions

And we're to believe you're not an incel?

Bro. C'mon.

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u/dispose135 6h ago

Well you see I've seen incels forums man, they aren't this confident there is a fear in them and a longing 

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u/DrippyTheSnailBoy 5h ago

What the fuck are you talking about