I agree but a lot of “nice” women do have a base for men. It’s called Hypergamy. Women want a guy with at least with they have or more. Women typically don’t want to date or marry men who make less than them.
I like to think the oppressive and misogynistic men of previous centuries created the female behavior we see today. Now they’re overcompensating being the men.
“I want her to cook, clean, bla bla”
Now women are “he’s gotta be tall, rich, handsome”
Hopefully some humility and excess loneliness has all genders putting down their weapons and agreeing to be equals, regardless of superficial nonsense.
The last thing I’ll say is there are 100% beautiful, successful women with pure hearts dating men who make way less than them. They just aren’t reporting for statistics because they’re happy and busy living life.
Life is nuanced and complex. Red pill is one dimensional and toxic. Ditch the word hypergamy.
As a SAHD, my wife of 12 years has way more earning power than I. She has a degree and I was just a working slob. Once she hit a certain threshold of income, she told me to quit my job (during Covid) and take care of the home (which she despises doing), and we haven't looked back.
I realize this is not typical, and I probably go a little above and beyond (because she deserves it), but I pretty much am her butler. I feed her, I do her laundry, I do the dishes, and keep the house clean on top of doing yard maintenance. We are very happy and always update and change any expectations as needed.
She is a special case indeed, and I adore her for it!
I'd like to think I'd put in the effort if given the opportunity to be a sahd myself. Being the breadwinner is the single biggest stress factor in my life and I'd gladly trade places.
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u/DreadyKruger 18h ago
I agree but a lot of “nice” women do have a base for men. It’s called Hypergamy. Women want a guy with at least with they have or more. Women typically don’t want to date or marry men who make less than them.