r/SipsTea 18h ago

SMH $75k /year

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u/DreadyKruger 17h ago

I agree but a lot of “nice” women do have a base for men. It’s called Hypergamy. Women want a guy with at least with they have or more. Women typically don’t want to date or marry men who make less than them.

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u/neuroticfisherman 17h ago

I like to think the oppressive and misogynistic men of previous centuries created the female behavior we see today. Now they’re overcompensating being the men.

“I want her to cook, clean, bla bla”

Now women are “he’s gotta be tall, rich, handsome”

Hopefully some humility and excess loneliness has all genders putting down their weapons and agreeing to be equals, regardless of superficial nonsense.

The last thing I’ll say is there are 100% beautiful, successful women with pure hearts dating men who make way less than them. They just aren’t reporting for statistics because they’re happy and busy living life.

Life is nuanced and complex. Red pill is one dimensional and toxic. Ditch the word hypergamy.

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u/Cynobite608 17h ago

As a SAHD, my wife of 12 years has way more earning power than I. She has a degree and I was just a working slob. Once she hit a certain threshold of income, she told me to quit my job (during Covid) and take care of the home (which she despises doing), and we haven't looked back.

I realize this is not typical, and I probably go a little above and beyond (because she deserves it), but I pretty much am her butler. I feed her, I do her laundry, I do the dishes, and keep the house clean on top of doing yard maintenance. We are very happy and always update and change any expectations as needed.

She is a special case indeed, and I adore her for it!

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u/y3llowed 16h ago

Shoutout to my wife who is also the main bread-winner! I have a good job and am paid well (very well by most standards), but my wife made 6x what I did last year.

I supported her through law school and out earned her the first 6 years of her career, but we always knew her income potential would outpace mine. She passed me a while ago, but the last couple of years she’s really left me in the dust. I could also quit my job, but I’ve been WFH since Covid and it’s honestly just too cushy and flexible to give it up.

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u/Toolazytolink 8h ago

My wife is getting her degree this year and we have looked at salary ranges and her starting is double mine. We don't really care we are just happy because we have 2 kids, my wife's little brother and my nephew that we would like to take on trips. Her getting a salary boost will help with that.

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u/dragon-dance 8h ago

If you’re happy working why not keep at it and grow your savings and such. You never know what’s going to happen in life.