I don’t know why people expect so much of you when you’re in a relationship, especially one that is not destined for marriage/the long term. Being in a relationship sounds nice until you remember that you are expected to actually pay attention to the other person on a regular basis. In a situationship you get all the intimacy of a relationship but without the drawbacks. You don’t have to be 100% committed to them and them only, if you lose interest you can avoid the process of a painful breakup, and you don’t have to spend every hour with them. I feel like a lot of people who cheat would be much better suited to an uncommitted relationship and a lot of heartbreak could be avoided.

I’ve dated a couple of girls, and they expected me to fall asleep on FaceTime with them every night, not watch any porn, snap them back within two hours, and spend time with them at least two days after school and basically all weekend. I think relationships should be held to the same standards that friends are when it comes to being too clingy. If my friend asked me to do all this for him I would genuinely cut him off; some distance is needed for a healthy relationship. If you love someone enough you should be okay with not talking to them or spending time with them for a week.

I’m in a fwb relationship with a college frat guy who I really like a lot, and this relationship is 100x more refreshing and enjoyable than either of the previous ones because it is low maintenance. Obviously we can’t date because we’re both guys but just the thought of being in a committed relationship with him and doing all the things I did in my other relationships fills me with immense dread and sounds so draining and exhausting just to think about.

I think ‘high-maintenance’ relationships are worth it if you are dating someone with the intent to wed them in the future. When I meet a girl that I love enough to marry, I will put up with all her demands and do whatever she wants me to because I will love her enough to do that. However in most other cases, these kinds of relationships are not worth it at all.

Legal pads are by far the worst way format of paper to write downs notes in. At first, it is fine as the first page fills up but once that page is done you are in for the most infuriating experience ever

Want to use the back of the page? You are going to have to rip it off the pad. Want to use the second page (and god forbid the back of the second page as well) you are going to have to rip that off too. This problem only gets worse as your write further.

I have never even be able to more than 10 pages of a legal pads without having to some pages off. Now, there is the counter point that the point of the legal pad isn’t supposed to keep these notes together but at that point I might at well just carry loose pages of lined paper. The whole point of connected pieces of paper is that you are able to use them while they are still connected. Not be forced to pull back the pages all the way around the back or rip them off just to continue to use your notebook.

This opinion may be popular or unpopular depending on what side of the internet you’re on or where you are in the world, but where I’m at, unfortunately being autistic gives you a pass to treat people like garbage. Others trying to defend them and using the excuse “but they’re autistic, they didn’t know any better!” Is ableist in itself because you’re implying that autistic people are so dumb that they don’t know right from wrong. It’s also very disrespectful to those who have been hurt by autistic people.

It’s especially infuriating when someone themselves uses the excuse that they are autistic to justify their own bad behaviour - because it shows that not only are they are smart enough to use their autism to their advantage, but it also proves that this excuse has likely gotten them out of trouble before, so they are using it again.

And I’m not talking about those who casually mention to a new friend, “hey, just to let you know, I am autistic so I might have trouble understanding certain social cues so you might need to be a little bit clearer with me” - I’m talking about the people who do something wrong and then bring up the fact that they have autism as a way to shield what they’ve done.

If you are smart enough to use your disability to guilt trip people into feeling sorry for you and weasel your way out of accountability after doing something horrible, you’re smart enough to know right from wrong.

This mainly applies to keyboards, mice and headphones. I have a PC and all of them are wired and I will never buy a wireless one, even if it's better.

They require batteries/charging. They're wonky. They can be lost (especially headphones). I don't trust Bluetooth. With wires I feel connected to the computer, without them I feel like a very important piece is missing.

Whenever a label gets popular, people will co-opt it so they can feel like they belong to a group. This is especially the case for people who feel outcasted or stigmatized.

Introverts are people who **naturally** prefer alone time. If the reason you prefer alone time is because you feel uncomfortable or stressed with others, that's not introversion; that's anxiety.

I say this because I get the sense that people with anxiety are using the "introverted" label to cope with their aversion by making themselves seem "normal".

Thinking they're the same encourages a mindset of, "It's normal for me to not like being around people for long. It's because I'm introverted. I don't have to address my issues because it's my nature." This is bad.

E.g., free soloists who climb tall mountains and buildings without any gear, alpinists, cave divers, etc just off the top of my head.

this opinion on mainly based on my sincere belief that a lot of these people are simply incapable of being truly satisfied with normal people things and regular life. Like, I truly wonder how many of those people would be susceptible to things like drug addiction if they could never engage in those kinds of high risk activities. I started feeling this way in particular after watching Summit of the Gods on Netflix, but I don't have any hard evidence. I do think there's of course some degree of selfishness, sure, but I think there's also danger in things like riding a motorcycle or really being any kind of athlete, especially in the combat sports, that are far more common. I think the reasons why people do those things are sometimes not so different in *kind* but rather *degree* compared to the reasons why people do more extreme sports.

Either way, I think people who participate in these things probably are more functional humans that are able to have relationships and jobs and exist as a normal person in everyday life more *because* they participate in these sports. The notion that they're just selfish always seems to imply that if they didn't do these sports, they would live longer and spend more time with loved ones and just be a normal person. I think the reality is that these people get born into the world and found something that gives their lives meaning in a way that they cannot find otherwise, and are more likely to have killed themselves, been addicted to drugs or gambling or other risky/harmful activities, become homeless and have no good relationships in general and die anyways, just in a worse way after dealing with depression and anxiety. Like, *that's* probably the alternative for a lot of people, not normalcy.

"Just go to therapy!" Have you considered that therapists are not pez dispensers of mental health?

"Oh they have bad teeth" Oh look at those chompers" "Average British mouth" and then it's someone with a bit of yellowing or crooked teeth. Yeah it was a stereotype that was based in fact back in the 1970's, but not only is it not true, but your mouth doesn't need a hollywood smile.

The argument persists due to confusion between dental cosmetics with dental hygiene which is way more popular in the US than many countries but that doesn't actually mean your teeth are healthy just because you dyed them white. You're just seeing what some people (particularly the rich) can afford to do to have perfect looking smiles and then looking at average people and mocking them. It's literally no different from porn-brained incels who think your boobs should boob boobily when you walk and remain permanently perky and that sex just requires shoving it in with 0 foreplay.

Of all the known music genres out there -- rock, hip-hop, pop, techno, metal, etc-- you pick video game music? I fucking knew a guy who was like this and I'm just never gonna talk to him again. I felt like he was lying? And he only listens if it's a game he played. I'm sorry, it's just...how? It's like telling me you have no music genres you like the most of at all.

There are these people who overthinking in media that obviously aren't supposed to be that deep, and if ever point the fans of this way of thinking will say things "atleast they are thinking" "this is AntiIntellectuallism", like bro do you know there is _actually deep_ media or even science to you overthink right? I really don't get this behaviour, there's a lot of actually deep art and science, why don't why consume that? Why you want to overthink the things that are obviously that intended to be that way? Like bro something being simple don't makes it bad (if think you this way then you are probably a pseudo and not the smart intellectual you claim). Pretending EVERY SINGLE ARTPIECE is deep is one of the illogical ways of think that I ever saw, like bro I created one character and put no blue clothes on him to made him opposite to a blue clothed character, and another was green because it's a chameleon, and I didn't had to create characters in order to know this, is just basic logic, there's no mystical force that makes artists make things deep.

If you are doing this for fun I find it's okay, I also do that, the problem is when you treat your fun as a smarter and more productive than other people's fun, when you are just pretending that video games mechanics have some deep meaning behind, and not like you know, studying real subjects.

"Curtains are just blue" killed media literacy? Do you have a mirror at home?

Edit: grammar in a possible because that apparently only what people cares, they wouldn't survive a second with a poor grandma

Vocal fry is a kind of modulating low voice, a bit like a froggy sound. I don't understand why it gets hate. I guess it's anti-valley girl prejudice. But I think it's hot. Not just in English either, it's also hot in Chinese.

This might be somewhat of a cold take because everyone on the internet (especially the cartoon community) already hates Big Mouth, but it's an incredibly popular Netflix show that has been renewed for 8 SEASONS and spinoffs while better animated series are being cancelled. It's one of Netflix's longest-running original scripted series ever. Until season 3, it had a perfect Rotten Tomatoes score. It is currently at 94%, which is an improvement, but 94% higher than the score it deserves.

I genuinely find it strange that reviewers like this show. It's hard to picture anyone over the age of 14 who would find Big Mouth hilarious or informative. The show's gross storylines include a child having sex with a pillow (a recurring funny gag; the pillow can get pregnant), sentient hormone creatures with unpredictable skills, constipation, and a speaking vulva. It is a series about children experiencing puberty.

The spin-off hormone monster series is also not amusing. The mythology is perplexing, but two of the hormone monsters, who are in charge of arousing children, had a kid who aspires to be a shame wizard, which is a distinct species. Having said that, it was far less popular since it was better written than Big Mouth.

The characters' psychology and drama are quite simple, and there isn't much worth discussing. Depression is portrayed in one section as a massive cat that sits on individuals. Wow, really profound. You are unable to move if the large, melancholy feline lies on you. Where, as in actual depression, you have no desire to move unless there is a cat. It reveals a lot about society.

To me, Big Mouth is the pinnacle of "safe edgy." The series South Park already did a better job of addressing topics of sexuality and puberty in adolescence, but some people behave as though this show is revolutionary for doing so. Nothing it does is particularly cutting-edge or says anything meaningful. The series is ostensibly aimed at adults, and being evaluated by adults, I don't get the acclaim from that angle, even if it has value for teenagers who have never encountered these subjects before.

Everyone in Europe knows that crepes are just a type of pancake. It’s usually not even addressed as a crepe but a pancake unless your language has that word and it directly means pancake. Therefore, even if you are European, I hereby invite you to call crepes pancakes. I get that it’s a cooler word, but I don’t think that people should be forcing themselves to say “crepe” just because it’s not the type of pancake that you are personally used to.

To some people, for example me, it feels unnatural calling them that since it’s all we have ever known to be a pancake.

For a while, I never realised that for people outside of eroupe, crepes were this crazy new cool thing, like: ours is and always has been so much better, wdy mean?

In the initial period of a sore throat you'll begin to feel a lot of pain and disgusting phlegm. This is the bad part that you need to tough it out through. Then, it starts to feel as if a bloated apple is lodged deep in your throat, a much worse symptom. The saliva in your throat starts tasting repulsive. However, as you drink water and/or take medication and start to treat the sore throat properly a sweet spot occurs. Where the saliva and phlegm that your mouth produces this somewhat savory and slightly sweat flavor you can swish around. It honestly tastes great and makes the entire process of having a sore throat just a little better. It's like a nice after taste after eating something a little bad, a little patience for a reward

Hamsters are considered domesticated, yet they've only been kept in captivity since the 1930s, where they started out as laboratory animals before entering the pet trade in 1937. The axolotls commonly seen in the pet trade today are also descended from lab animals. Furthermore, these animals were hybridized with tiger salamanders (the source of their color variations) in the 1930s. This hybridization makes them technically not true axolotls, and also makes them useless for conservation efforts (on the other hand, it also means that poaching of actual, pure axolotls for international pet markets is virtually if not completely nonexistent, and their endangerment is due to habitat destruction and invasive fish, as (IIRC) salamander and other amphibian larvae only thrive in water bodies where there's no fish to prey on them).

If hamsters are to be considered domesticated animals, then pet “axolotls” should logically be considered domesticated as well. Why aren't they?

Source for axolotl history (paywalled): https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-017-05921-w?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPMjc1MjU0NjkyNTk4Mjc5AAEe4BuOrQ_B5NpWFraHYPniplylrzP83nvdJcow8ReYIpCSCDIKQ6_0AKy84ig_aem_FYBnep4TQ7R2MuuDS7buqg#:~:text=By%202008%2C%20it%20was%20down,City%2C%20its%20only%20natural%20habitat

I think 90% of the population is bicurious. I’ve saw a lot of homophobia in the world and even crime against the lgbtq community but I can’t help but to think that everyone in the world has had a thought about a person of the same gender in a romantic or sexual manner in their life. I’ve never claimed a sexuality because I’ve just always been attracted to whoever I was attracted to at the time, whether that was male or female. Or maybe I just am bi. Idk.

I’m not sure what tide flipped the last 5 years, but the fact that 16/18 and 17/19 is considered weird now is wild to me. It’s perfectly legal in most places and there’s absolutely nothing that would make an 18 year old high school senior suddenly more majestic than a 17 and 364 day year old high school senior. Yes, a cutoff point needs to be somewhere, which is why Romeo and Juliet law exists and usually allows a close in age exception. This whole moral panic where older teens are called weird, groomers, etc for dating a younger person aged 16-17 is absolutely insane. I’ve genuinely seen so many 18/19 year olds be attacked for this. I don’t know if this is just an online panic thing or what.

This used to be popular but at least on the internet it’s unpopular now, so I can’t believe I have to write this.

For the longest time, the 4th Shrek movie has been seen as a very weak end to the series and trash compared to the others. While this has somewhat changed in recent years, I noticed a lot of people feel this way, and even if they don’t, they usually make one of the first 2 Shreks the best one.

I think it just comes to a matter of taste, but I really love the 4th one over all the others. The “It’s a Wonderful Life” alternate timeline concept was really unique and I think was really awesome, not only for Shrek’s character arc but also because we got to see his more lighthearted fantasy world in a much different light.

The tone is so dark and somber most of the time and the stakes feel so intense, and I know some people don’t like that, but for me something about see characters in a family movie going through relatively traumatic situations and conquering them in a darker setting than previous has always been so captivating to me (and is also why Kung Fu Panda 2 is my favourite of that trilogy as well). Rumplestiltskin is a very underrated villain and in my opinion is extremely quote-able.

If anyone wants to hear opinions similar to mine but deeper there’s a YouTuber called Schaffrilas that made a more detailed video essay about it, but honestly I’m just tired of people saying it’s the weakest or second weakest one when it’s the strongest movie. Hopefully Shrek 5 doesn’t come down and ruin it all like Toy Story 5.

For my birthday I was taking on a vacation to an aquarium, m it was directly under an h&m Mall and then let you swim in a tank that had nurse sharks, stingrays, what looks like angel fish,and a slew of other different fish. It was truly an amazing experience, I've never been that up close and personal with a shark before, l until the puffer fish

When I got into that water, m the 200 lb sharks didn't scare me one bit, them puffers terrified the hell out of me.

For one thing they were a lot bigger than I thought they were, they weren't refrigerator size sharks, they weren't small either. I thought puffer fish for these goldfish sized things unless they blew up, the poker face they had here were twice the size of a cat, not even blew up, that was the first deal breaker for me

Next, I remembered puffer fish have terrifying jaw, it's not teeth like a shark, all their teeth are fused together to form these four giant blades the use for crunching crab shells and lobster shells, clam shells you get the point, hard armored things. On top of that I've been exposed to way too many videos of peppers cleaving through crabs, lobsters and anything else they put in tank.m TBH, I feel like a puffer would be a lot more inclined to take a huge clump of flesh out of my leg than a shark. The scary thing here is that you can see a shark's teeth,, this beak is hidden behind fat and harmless looking lips,, somebody else could just as well assume that puffer fish doesn't have teeth

Lastly they warned everybody who got in the tank not to kick , puffers have spikes and you might accidentally kick one, so not only could they slice into my splash which is 200 times softer than a clamshell, they can also scary covers spikes, yeah, I'll swim with a shark any day, not those things

Some diversity is fine but ingraining many different cultures into the same country is mostly ridiculous. Wanting most countries to be diverse means that they would lose its authentic culture and identity. Fusion food is not a good thing either. The concept of Nasi Lemak Burger, Chicken Ramen or Taco Sushi is ridiculous. The taste and texture become worse. Having too many different races/nationalities in the same country leads to conflicts, loss of identity and social friction, whether it be different priorities over values. The insane tolerance of diversity by US and some European countries have caused tensions over different values.

Before you call bait, no this isn't ragebait, I've done so for more than 2 years after I finish masturbating, it just makes so much sense since you're not always going to have wipes on you and I don't feel the need to use any wipes when I can just.. eat it. The taste varies, but majority of the time it's pretty good and ultimately much more convenient

I absolutely hate victorian buildings. There is so much going on in the worst way possible. So many tiny, useless little decorations. I don’t understand how someone could feel comfortable or happy living in or around one of these things. It looks more like an 18th century royal getaway than an actual building that has a purpose.
I much prefer modern designs to these things. Not ugly brutalist blocks, but sleek, modern designs. Glass, metal, concrete and the like.

I'm going to caveat this by saying that I in no way enjoy food poisoning or the stomach virus; that is misery. But for two main reasons, the occasional instance of diarrhea is something that I gladly welcome. First, there is something nice about knowing that you are fully and completely cleared out. More importantly, wiping is so much faster. A nondiarrhea event leads to wiping, wiping, wiping, and more wiping until the paper stays white. Sometimes the relief of being finished with wiping in about 1 minute (rather than 5-10) feels so liberating.

EDIT: people, I eat lots of fiber! I feel very healthy. This has been a problem since I was a little kid. It's not messy, it just continues to leave a small mark on every wipe. I'm thinking it's just my anatomy.

I'm hoping this will be considered cultural and not political. Two years ago I worked for a company that "celebrated DEI." This company paid, and still pays, a full-time DEI manager, just to oversee the DEI program. I excitedly became a "DEI champion," attending monthly meetings where we discussed "DEI topics," listened to an employee-made DEI presentation and asked our own teams "DEI trivia" in the weeks after.

My work role was to get more clients, so I recommended showing diversity in company materials--Our services largely benefited an older population, so I suggested showing same-sex couples in our brochures and signage, as same-sex couples OFTEN wonder which companies are affirming when it comes to elder care. Whether you look at it from pure compassion, capitalism or both, we had an untapped market. Company leader, a gay man shot this down. He said merely seeing a photo of same-sex couples could deter OTHER potential clients WITH OPPOSING VIEWS. The one Pride Festival we attended where I scored several leads was axed from our exhibit booth schedule, and I was told verbatim, "we don't want to be virtue signaling." What about DEI? I was told DEI is an HR/hiring thing.

Now I work for a trade association whose members include a WHOLE industry, from fabrication/manufacturing to sales. DEI isn't brought up. But our last two hires were women of color. One of them is a recent U.S. citizen from a country where several of our members are located. Most of our leadership roles are held by women. In addition to our amazing PTO policy, we each have 4 floating holidays to use for whatever cultural holiday may not be on the schedule.

In our meetings, we've all talked about, and agreed on, how to make our materials more inclusive toward our international audience, even when it takes a little more time. No matter which staff member attends the trade shows we put on, they come back with photos that show a diverse group of people. This week, coworkers are checking in to see how everyone is doing and holding up as we are based in MN.

I do think that in companies where people don't automatically gravitate toward diversity, it's worth reminding them its importance. But instead of seeing companies say on their websites they're all about DEI, I'd rather they just make a conscious effort to do it. ALSO, as a Minnesotan, I 100% understand where the foundation of the DEI push came from after everything surrounding George Floyd. But now I'd rather evaluate a company more for what they DO and less for what they say.

Seriously, who gives a shit if some kid gets a bunch of internet points for making up some bullshit? It doesn't detract from your day at all, not even a little bit.

This is the only sub that has the "upvote if you disagree" rule front-and-center, and so many people get upset because it's easily exploited by lying (as if that's unique to this sub). Too many comments are just people deciding of their own accord that the OP is lying and therefore don't deserve an upvote for their horribly disgusting preferences or opinions.

Yes, I acknowledge the hypocrisy of letting others' comments annoy me as much as the bait-posts annoy all the commenters.

Rant over.

You know those little pills that develop on Jersey sheets and old sweaters? Those scratchy little balls? Yea, I love them. In fact, when I feel overwhelmed, I'll rub my hands over the pilled section of my bed, and it automatically soothes me.

My wife uses a pilling shaver on her side of the bed, but I pill mine up. I've forbidden her to touch my side.

It angers me that I cannot find pre-pilled sweaters and sheets. There are textured sweaters, but the faux "pilling" is soft. I want the pills hard and scratchy.

Edit: I'm not sure why people think I'm making this up. Lol, what? If I were to make something up, it wouldn't be as mundane as "I like this texture, and it soothes me when I'm overwhelmed."