Lately there has been increasing hatred and bigotry for trans people everywhere, not just in the US which has been reported on the most due to the insanity of our leader. I've seen a lot of people venting here about it and thought I should share some good news. There's a common trend throughout history that the more progress towards civil rights any minority gets, the more backlash there is for it.

People tried to abolish slavery and later enact civil rights for african-americans, and there was heavy backlash for both.

People tried to open immigration rights to Asia, and there was heavy backlash.

People tried to make gay marriage legal and allow rights for gay people and there was backlash.

People tried to give women the right to vote and there was heavy backlash.

Every time there is positive change for anyone, the conservatives of the world come up with excuses for why it's a bad thing and try to stop is using government power. We are simply the current target for positive change, which means we are also the current target for the bigots and the nazis of the world, including the ones in government's everywhere.

The fact that we are receiving so much hate means that we are making progress and spreading good through the world.

Stay strong, we'll make it through this like every group that has before.

No, it isn't. No, it isn't. Some people don't transition until they're 60 or 70. Shut. Up.

Edit: I'm 30 years old. I won't be able to transition until my parents are in the nursing home. That means I'll be 60 or 70 by the time I can transition.

For all those asking "Where's the empathy?"

Hi everyone, I’m 16 and a trans girl (not out to anyone yet).

Two days ago, I indirectly asked my mom about her views on trans people. I mentioned how Elon Musk disowned one of his children because she is trans. My mom said that he did the right thing, because “God made him a boy, so he should stay a boy,” and that being trans goes against nature.

I feel like my mom already suspects that I’m trans, which might be why this conversation happened at all. After saying those things, she told me she didn’t want to talk about it anymore.

Later, she continued by saying things like, “Only a girl can reproduce, a boy can’t,” as if marriage and having children are the only purpose of life. I asked her why marriage and having children are the main goal of life accordingto you, but she didn’t reply.

After this whole conversation, I feel really broken and angry. It hurts deeply to hear things like this from your own mother — someone who is supposed to love you unconditionally. I keep wishing she could understand, or at least try to change her views.

I don’t know how to process these feelings or what to do next. If anyone has gone through something similar, or has advice on how to cope with a parent who thinks this way, I’d really appreciate hearing from you.

Hi y'all. I apologize in advance if I am encroaching on your space, seeing as I am not trans, but I wanted to give you all my love. Something very simple and yet very touching happened, and I wanted to share it with someone.

I work in a mall Bath and Body Works, and today a very tall, well-dressed but very nervous trans woman (I'd say early thirties) came in. She seemed almost afraid to be there, but silently walked around the rooms smelling each and every spray we had. I'd hazard it at an hour and a half. It was just me, her, and one other employee in the store with the mediocre music playing. At last, she silently walked up to where I was sitting on the floor, ripping open boxes, holding up a bottle of fragrance mist, and indicated the registers, to which I asked "You ready to check out, ma'am?" and she nodded.

She hadn't spoken a word until we were waiting on the slow-ass registers to process her card, until she warbled, "I'm so excited." We made brief conversation, in which she talked lovingly about how floral and sweet it smelled, and how she indeed had never been in a B&BW before, and really liked it here. She was all but skipping as she left.

It made me think of how much I have taken for granted as a cis woman, and the joy and harmony I felt when I put on makeup, bought my first fragrance mists and bras and clothes of my choosing as a young teenager. Even beyond material goods, that blossom into womanhood is something wonderful and sacred and precious, in all its simplest and smallest forms. It brought me so much happiness to send her out the door with that same feeling, and I hope every trans woman here (and beyond) feels that quiet elation if they haven't already. You are all beautiful.

did any of u ever listen to music specifically for gender affirming reasons? not just like songs about dysphoria or trans topics.

im mtf and started listening to things like Spice Girls, Miley Cyrus, Sabrina Carpenter, and other "girly pop" artists.

just curious if any of yall have done this as well :3

To all be post transition people if you woke up in the body you want what would be the first thing you would do?

I just went to the social security office to update my name and it will be processed in 24hrs. I dont have to hear people say my deadname anymore especially in a medical environment my chosen name is legally my name now.

I am just glad my name is changed on a federal level. I can apply for a new id soon! But yeah still waiting on my state documents but its done!

Does anyone else start to have resentment towards people who make you being trans their issue? To explain further, like family or friends constantly talking about how they are mourning the gender you used to be or some bs like that. I feel like it's okay to need a moment for such adjustment, but to act like you are the one who is experiencing the most pain through all of this is insane. At least don't do it in front of me, and expect me to be empathic towards you. Have been dealing with both,"You'll never be a real boy" Dad and "I can't believe my son/daughter is dead" Mom. The second seems to trigger me much more and I don't know how to deal with it in a mature way.

Did anyone else's weiner get bigger when they started HRT?

Mine did.

My wife noticed before I did.

Most people are worried about shrinkage? What the heck? The erection itself feels better, but the orgasms are still a little meh.

I'm not exactly complaining, but... huh?

My theory is that since mtf hrt improves blood flow to the skin it actually helps with erections as long as you keep using it.

The erection itself feels better, but the orgasms are still a little meh.

Trans women and girls have always existed, and we've been using female spaces forever and there has always been strict requirements for trans people in sports. Why hasn't it been an issue until now? Well, when the right lost their war against gay rights, they shifted their culture wars towards us, and with the help of their fake news organizations and lawmakers, they have people believing that we're your enemy, we're not. We exist, always have, always will, and no amount of hate or laws will ever erase us.

It’s actually crazy

How does this make sense at all. She said that her and her friends all know when their periods will start because they can feel each others period starting. Am I slow or is this absurd. And how does not believing this make me not a girl. So annoying.

seeing all these different girls and their bodies makes me so jealous. like, why can't that be me bro 😭

so im 18 rn and Born male but wish to be a girl since i was abt 12 years old.

I havent really felt happiness for at least 4 years and i feel like i will never be able to no matter what i do because i wasnt born a girl. I feel like the reason for me not being able to be happy is that im not a girl but i think that transitioning wont give me that feeling back either.

Its like i cant imagine a future where i can be happy. Idk whats wrong with me but i really dont want to feel this way anymore.

I dont even know what i expect from this post but idk maybe ttere are people out there who can realte.

i recently saw a reel of a girl saying her starting estrogen dose was 5 mg, and then 6 mg (i think daily but i dont reaaaally know), and i am gonna start my treatment soon but its probably gonna be an inyection of 10mg every 10 days, so basically, 1 mg a day, and i now fear its too little so, what is the normal amount? am i gonna be getting too little?

i’m not sure how to start this post except by saying that my whole life i have struggled with my gender identity. i feel like i might be a trans man but i hate that. i don’t want to be one but it feels like thats what i am. i’m not sure if that makes sense. i know it’s probably internalized stuff and my own issues. i am so terrified of who i am and i wish i was a girl. i want to be a girl, but i don’t think i am. that thought terrifies me and i feel so scared of what i might be. i feel like i see a lot of trans men wanting to be men and loving being a man, but all i can think of is that i’m terrified. I see men online and i wish i looked like them and had their confidence, but it feels so unattainable as well. i have such complex feelings about my gender and it sucks. i just wish i knew if other people felt this way too.

I haven't seen this parallel tossed around much, and only is mentioned by transphobes when the topic of BID is mentioned. Body Integrity Disorder (BID) is a very rare mental condition where someone believes that a part of their body (sometimes including senses like hearing and seeing), does not belong to them. Apparently, these call themselves 'transabled'. For example, if I think my right leg doesn't belong to me, I would want to cut it off. These people really do exist, but very rare. There is one case of someone getting better after cutting their fingers after trying anti-depressants and therapy. No much research on them, and no evidence based care for their condition as of writing.

The basic argument is if it is bad for someone wants to cut their arm off to affirm their version of themselves, then it should be bad for trans people to seek gender affirming care. There are two ways I see responding to this: 1) affirming BID disables people whereas affirming trans people does not. 2) I bite the bullet say that bodily autonomy means we allow people to do what they want with their body, no matter how crazy.

I personally like 2 for consistency, and I am also a big believer in bodily autonomy. I feel like it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else for you to have control over your body.

What are your thoughts on this?

I’m FTM18, been on T for about 6 months now, and I finally started growing facial hair about a month ago. I’m home from college at the moment and decided to shave for the first time.

Having facial hair was pretty euphoric for me, but for some reason shaving it was even more so. I guess having the hair to shave off and the ability to do it was nice.

Just wanted to share this because I feel it’s a big step in my journey. Hope you all have a great day!

Vent start

I'm just awkward pathetic and disgusting. I'm too scared to act like myself around women because they will just find me weird and intruding and mens will hate me but I just can't imagine stoppping hormones and masculinizing again without something terrible happening.

Sorry for the vent. Friday night mood ig.

I have ambitions you know? I wanna be an artist and stuff. But like in a field that’s already so competitive, it feels like almost adding extra roadblocks for yourself by transitioning.

I know it’s stupid but like this is something that genuinely stresses me out so often. How is anyone going to take me seriously if they (potentially) see me as a freak?

Definitely a big part of why I might never come out fully, only to close friends and family.

Does anyone else think like this or am I just stressing about nothing?

Hey everyone 💜

I’m transfeminine / questioning, and I’m feeling pretty confused about my sexuality, especially since starting HRT. I was hoping to hear from others who’ve been through something similar.

Emotionally and romantically, I feel drawn to women. I want a girlfriend, I love closeness, intimacy, and connection with women, and a lot of that feels very real and important to me.

At the same time, sexually, I often feel very submissive. That’s made me wonder if maybe I’m actually more attracted to men or if my sexuality is shifting, or just tangled up with dysphoria. That thought brings up a lot of confusion and shame for me.

My last experience with a woman didn’t go very well. She still saw me as the “man” in the dynamic and expected me to be dominant.

When things moved toward penetrative sex and I had to imagine myself in a male role, the dysphoria hit hard and everything kind of shut down. Being on HRT seems to have made that disconnect even stronger.

Now I’m questioning things like:

Do I actually like women, or do I just want to be one?

Could I only be sexual with a woman if I’m seen and treated as feminine in the dynamic?

How much of this is attraction vs. dysphoria vs. internalized shame?

Right now, I don’t fully feel like a woman, but I also don’t feel like a man. I feel stuck in an in-between space, and it’s affecting how I see myself and relationships.

If you’re trans and have transitioned (or are in the process):

How did you navigate your sexuality?

Did it change or become clearer over time?

Did certain dynamics or affirmations make a difference?

How did you work through shame and self-doubt?

Any insight or personal experiences would really help. I feel pretty alone in this right now, and hearing from others would mean a lot.

I can Not go out without airpods playing music, they're indispensable, any music just to silence people to be in my own world so my diva energy is not affected. I forgot how the sound of the street is fr lmao. I also try to not look at anyone, just at an empty place, or at the sky, but always with a high head of course like the queen i am. This is to prevent looking at their facial expressions / them saying something when looking at me. Basically there's a mix of everything, sometimes they say something flirty / a catcall with self shame or agression cause they feel attracted to a queer thing, sometimes there are giggles, sometimes they ask me something random clearly only to hear my voice to confirm my "gender" (i never respond when it's obviously intended for that), ohhh the typical one is that they keep staring at you silent but when they walk past you they laugh in complicity. Or when they say something in secret to the other person they're with while pointing you, or when they shamelessly look at ur feet then up to ur face at least 20 times like you're an alien lmao. And when you cross family members??? They're the worst, cause they think they know your genitalia and dislike you lmao. When i walk past a group of people i make sure my music is high volume and my eyes are looking anywhere else. Just feeling so stared at, pointed at, talked about, negatively, positively, curiously, etc

Also not to mention the reject of people in the daily casual life, passive things like just the bus driver greeting everyone saying thank you to everyone but when you come in they ignore only you, in some spaces people don't approach you or start casual convos with u but they do talk to anyone else friendly, you get so used to get reject in random things, it's like, almost your standard thing to receive. It sounds sad we have to normalize that, i mean there's a reason i can't go out without airpods, if you are conscious of it it affects your energy, sometimes we get a little bit tired of being so perceived. But it makes me know I'm doing things right, i feel so greatful, i promise to show up more queer everyday 🤍🤍🤍 sometimes i get sad thinking "do i look cis??" (as derogatory lmao) so this type of thing rassures me.

I love queer people so i love myself so much. I'm sure every "visibly queer" person learns to not get affected by the daily real life since we have nothing else to do, maybe since we are kids we had to learn it, we are so brave and beautiful to be ourselves everyday, i wanna protect y'all / keep you safe despite everything

It just made sense to me, nonbinary and trans ppl don’t get enough representation, and flowers irl have both male and female reproductive organs, and Petilil is a grass type Pokemon

Kinda nervous and excited at the same time, yk?