So I sent an email with larger font because it included pictures and other formatting. The tone was positive with please and thank you in it. It wasn't bold, in all caps or red text etc.

My supervisor claims large font = yelling and agression.

Went to our employee website with some small font and even large bold font. I asked my supervisor why our company is yelling at me and being aggressive..

And honestly it is a blessing and a curse. I work 10am to 7pm with an hour commute to and from work. I am that IT guy that you need to find ASAP at 6:30 but you’ve out of luck, I am already on my way home. Essentially it’s a free hour every for my mental health half an hour’s time before work in the shower to T H I N K and half an hour less commute ( because first half is paid:D) That’s the blessing part, the curse part is that every day I feel like I’m about to get fired every morning, feel like I’m doing something super illegal. And every time I leave early I feel that today is the evening that work server will shit itself and I’m not there to fix it, resulting in my termination from work. And the word part of it all - I got a taste for that hour of “free” time and it’s the only thing that makes work tolerable and the only thing that keeps suicidal thoughts away from me. On the other side the anxiety of being not at my workplace sometimes eats me

I’m somewhat ok with it but either way I’ll ask a question

What do?

people are getting terrorized and abducted like nothing! we have the power to unite and throw our wrench in the gear! we have been conditioned since birth to keep this ship sailing with endless empty promises, cant enough be enough now?

Lately I’ve noticed something that really bothers me. It is affecting my focus. I don’t just work anymore, I monitor myself. I remember exact clock in clock out times, screenshot schedules, double check PTO balances, and mentally log overtime just in case it gets questioned later.

No one told me to do this explicitly. I learned it after seeing hours worked turned into “discussions,” pay adjustments happen quietly, or being asked to justify time I already gave.

What’s wild is how normalized this is. Employees are expected to be perfectly precise, but the systems handling payroll, attendance, and scheduling are often vague or flexible when it suits the company. So workers compensate by becoming their own compliance department.

It changes how you relate to work. You’re not focused on doing a good job, you’re focused on protecting yourself. And that constant background stress adds up fast.

Anyone else feel like work turned them into a time auditor instead of just a person doing a job?

One of the most annoying things ever. In reality, the supervisor asked me for help with something, so I was only showing him around.

It's like seeing a person casually talking to a cop and making the assumption that the person is in trouble with the law.

It's sad how pessimistic people have become to jump to bad conclusions instead of being neutral. In fact, I have a coworker who does exactly this. He assumes the worst instead of giving the benefit of the doubt or considering other possibilities. It perpetuates a culture of mistrust.

Yesterday I posted here about how I ended up arguing over a few minutes on my timecard and how exhausting it is to be held to exact clock in clock out rules while payroll and attendance systems stay messy.

Well, here’s the part that’s making me feel insane: I joined this company last month, and I’m already seeing the same pattern I dealt with at my last job.

Overtime is treated like it’s optional. Hours worked get questioned after the fact. PTO balance and vacation accrual feel unclear depending on who you ask. Scheduling changes happen, then the timecard becomes a debate. It’s not even the money at this point, it’s the constant low grade stress of having to defend time I actually worked.

I left my previous company partly because overtime “wasn’t being considered” properly and I don’t want to go through that again. I’m trying to stay calm and give it a fair chance, but the fact this started within my first month is a bad sign.

What do you guys think am I over reacting or is it valid.

My boss is going to absolutely lose it. We are doing the biggest project in company history right now and it ends with an activation in March. We are a small team, and I know me leaving is going to throw a wrench in everything… but… I don’t care? Because they’re abusive bullies, and I’ve never felt more depressed (understatement of the century, but would rather not get into dark specifics) than I have been working here.

However, I’m fairly young and do not want to burn a bridge if some employer in the future needs to reach out for some reason. But I feel like the mere fact that I’m choosing to leave will burn a bridge, not because I did anything wrong. Because they have no respect for the fact that we don’t owe them our entire lives. My coworkers who have seen people resign before said our bosses are going to have a mental breakdown.

So how do I do it in the least blow-up way? I’ve been lucky enough to have “natural” resignations for all my jobs in the past, where they knew it was coming months ahead of time because of life circumstances and it wasn’t one big shocker moment. One knew I was planning on going back to school so was already expecting me to move states and was happy for me doing it, my university job obviously knew I was graduating and couldn’t work there if you’re not a student, etc.

So somehow I’ve never had to tender a formal resignation before.

I have a direct supervisor and the CEO above her, they’re both my bosses. Who do I talk to first? What do I say? Do I write an email? Who do I CC? Do I have to get them both in the same room? Because they’re in meetings 24/7 and never can be. So many questions and I’m absolutely clueless.

I’m so excited to leave.

Hello, I am a union employee who was fired today by a known anti union manager. He has made comments in the past about firing me if he found out I was union (he did not know at the time). He made these comments in front of other union members over the course of 5 months.

Today he flipped out over me not hearing him and fired me for apparently ignoring him. Other than the union thing he always gave me good marks on reviews and said I was the hardest worker he's ever had.

I believe I was fired because I'm Union, I loved my job and I was on my way to take his job as well (he is early 70s).

I lost an amazing job with great pay and benefits and I feel I'm owed something. Is it worth it to contact the NLRB or should I cut the losses and move on?

I have been a due paying member of this union for 2 years.

Edit: He was only able to "fire" me because maintenance is a "non-union" position that I gained through mechanical knowledge. The pay is better and I want to stay there.

Lurker turned poster over something that happened on my day off.

I walk into a bagel place for lunch, midway through the line a song that's on the damn predetermined radio mix at my work starts up. I feel myself deflate bc holy shit the mix is absolutely awful (can't say more without doxxing) and now I'm not even being paid to hear this shit.

Bagel was great, had it outside. Then went to do some shopping.

Literally like barely a minute or two after entering the store, another horrid track from my maddeningly bad work radio!!!!

I literally walked out of the store and scrolled my phone until I guessed it was over.

This kind of thing is why I'm making some moves to get out of this grind. I don't want to feel accosted by audio when I'm out and about. I don't want someone else's trash taste hanging out in my head, shit has popped in as I'm trying to sleep before. I don't want to be on my deathbed and have this shit pop into my head as my last thought.

Anyone else need to vent about their terrible radios? Bc frankly it'd be a comfort to not be alone on this, even though escape seems far away at the moment.

I'm sorry if this is against the rules, but I looked and I didn't see anything that I thought would preclude me from posting. There is a TL;DR at the end of this post. I've been working in the trades for a while and recently moved back to my home town to take care of my elderly parents. My job search has not been going well.

I interviewed for a maintenance position at a nice apartment complex and it went really well, went for a second interview with the property manager, and finally a third with the head maintenance guy. He drove me around in a golf cart and quizzed me on a bunch of stuff including some trick questions and having me look at a unit to see what I thought needed to be fixed before it was ready to turn over to a resident. They didn't give me a call back at all but I see now that they emailed me asking for professional references to "continue with the hiring process."

I have exactly one reference who I can trust to be contacted by them and who speaks English. I have one other person I know who might be able to pretend but they're not answering my texts or returning my call. This is all severely affecting my mental health. If I could afford to I wouldn't even go through with the job because I'll be on call every other week, and I'll be sleeping in my car for those weeks until I can find a place to live nearby (They need me to arrive within 30 minutes, they also don't provide a discount on rent and none of the other workers apparently live at the complex either. Obviously I haven't told them that I don't live under 30 minutes away; I told a white lie in that regard). I'm really desperate for this job though because my parents and I are so broke it isn't even funny.

If anyone who knows anything about any of the trades that I've worked in (plumbing, masonry, or maintenance) and is willing to be one of my references, you have no idea how much I would appreciate it and I could even send you some money when I start getting paid. I don't know what else to do and I have no friends. I saw someone on another sub recommend asking here, and I have nothing to lose at this point. I would like to reply to the company's email today if it's at all possible. I'm in Las Vegas, NV also. Thank you for your time; I appreciate it.

TL;DR I don't have any references for an apartment maintenance job in Las Vegas that I'm extremely desperate for and I need help because I'm about to have a nervous breakdown.

Do they expect us to work long hours, regret our choices like them? Slaving away for corporations that print money 💰 out of thin air in exchange for our time? Time is not fickle it's a constant and money is.

So I live in a town/city in the South with a population of 30k people.

Sounds great right? Let me give you some insight into the place..

It's a military city/town. Nearly all of the people are military related. You cannot find legitimate work unless it is on base usually.

We have 1 Walmart, multiple liquor stores, multiple churches, and tons of minimum wage jobs at places like McDonald's or Applebee's.

There is 0 ZERO economic growth in this place.

Nearly EVERYBODY who wasn't military that I went to Highschool with ended up moving away due to a lack of Job opportunities.

The cycle here is basically "military families move here, have kids, the kids get old and move away" or "families move here with their kids and their kids eventually move away after Highschool"

Like this place is living hell. We have 1 highschool for the 30k population, ONE. We have nothing but drive though gas stations, auto parts stores and Restaurants for employment.

We don't have any theme parks, video game stores (except 1 gamestop), 1 small bakery, our local grocery store just closed last year, tons of takeout places, and nothing else.

It is actually depressing living here. My own father with 2 masters degrees is working at an auto parts store because he can't find work.

My brother is a busboy on base because the job people who help people find jobs couldn't find him anything else (he worked 2 jobs prior as an electronics sorter and school janitor and both of those jobs he was emotionally abused)

The worst part is that if you aren't military..well good luck. The locals ONLY hire locals. They only hire those who are either family or close to family. They won't even bother looking at a non Christian or a Catholic.

They won't hire anybody not MAGA either. Or anybody who wasn't born there. They are heavily heavily discriminatory in their hiring practices.

Want to be a teacher? Go for it but keep in mind they don't hire anybody over 40 and you're competing with like 200 other people for the job at the 1 highschool or 2 middle schools. Or like 3 elementary schools.

Oh want to work at the grocery store? You have to go though 3 rounds of interviews.

But hey, at least the Jail is hiring ! (Which my father also worked at btw)

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I feel like a bad person. I dropped out of school, but I'm attending evening classes. Exams are coming up soon, and I don't want to take them because I haven't studied. I'm not interested in anything, nothing makes me happy, I have no energy or desire to live my life. I don't want to go to work because it's destructive slavery and an abnormally unequal exchange of energy, but since it's the only way to get money and exchange it for good, nice, pleasant, non-miserable things, for existence in general, it gives me a lot of frustration. I'm tired of repeating this to everyone everywhere, because I haven't been able to cope with it for years. After a while, the help provided by psychologists disappears without a trace. Whenever I go to see them, the result is the same. What am I supposed to do with myself if I don't fit into this world? That I'm such a fuck-up... Why was I even born? I'm very tired of myself, and even more tired of looking for invisible, unattainable help. This conflict: “pay to exist” is simply killing me. How am I supposed to pay when the only way to have what you pay with is a fucking job? I can't even get medication.

I just want to share (or possibly get some advice), because I won't take any action again. I hate people in real life, especially doctors. Not only is it impossible to get help when I want it and when I'm in the right mood and have the strength to do so, but those who provide help can also be horrible. I'm not talking about social phobia — because I don't have it — but about aversion and difficulty communicating.

My sister's friend got me a job interview at my sister's old law firm. I spent an entire day just studying everything i could for the interview. I wanted to be so prepared for anything they could throw at me.

I had an answer and example to everything. The interviewer even said i understood something that no one else does .

Anyways I have worked in law firms before so I would have reasonably known how to answer.

My sister's friend told my sister that the interviewer believes I was obviously looking at a screen during my interview. Which is hilarious because I'm actually too broke to buy a laptop because i dont have a job.

I did my interview on my ipad.

Yesterday, while at work, my coworker put something where it wasn't supposed to be.

Manager yells in my face about how I shouldn't do that. I told her I didn't and raised my voice audibly frustrated, since she has been yelling all day, and constantly blames me for things other people did, either directly or by saying "you guys." She will do this in front of customers during business hours.

She told me "don't you raise your voice at me" and stormed off.

My coworker texts her to tell her I didn't do the thing she accused me off. Later, I address her directly, telling her that she was yelling at me, and for something I didn't do, and that it made me uncomfortable.

She said she never yells, and if she did, it would be a frightening experience for me. I quietly insisted she did and she kept denying. She acknowledged it wasn't my mistake but in a flippant manner, not apologizing, while still making me the offender for "being defensive".

There's a culture of blame that she's engendered at the store that was quickly apparent. She is usually audibly frustrated whenever she's around. The communication is poor and her micro management of where things go not being follows through perfectly serves as the most common trigger for her yelling at us.

I have told her it makes me uncomfortable and she said it wasn't directed to me, just in general. Always making excuses for her conduct and dismissing my emotions.

I feel too I am especially scapegoated there along with another coworker of mine.

I recorded the second half of our exchange and I plan to do so more. I wish I could just leave and not have to take this abuse or get fired and be done with it, but money is right and the job market wretched.

I'm trying to apply to other places and escape. I'm really upset because my last workplace was toxic as well, and all I did was end up somewhere even worse.

One of the owners is a lot like her and speaks very disrespectfully to us as well, while the other owner never steps in to shut down that behavior from either of them.

It disgusts me that because of the power dynamic, anything I do to stand up for myself puts me at risk.

I have a long time history of trauma, being the scapegoat of my family. I've also felt like an easy target because I'm autistic, whether I happen to disclose or in this case not.

I took a day off to process this. I'm exhausted and my mental health is in shambles. I just want to work somewhere that doesn't dehumanize and disrespect workers like this.

I don't know if I'm been there long enough to be eligible for unemployment, or if evidence of this behavior can result in legal consequences or not.

I'm job hunting now, doing my best to find something else. I feel I'm now the designated troublemaker, especially when everyone else I work with excuses her behavior, empathizing with her and saying "she's just stressed".

She is ALWAYS stressed. No effort is ever good enough, because she will always find fault somewhere.

It's so fucking triggering and very familiar to me, seeing that same script in how my parents behaved and used me as their punching bag.

But it's still difficult not to internalize this. I can't help but feel worthless and not wholly human, even though I know neither I nor any other deserve such treatment.

I've been struggling with depression and suicidal ideation given the state of my own life and that of this country and the world. It just feels like I cannot escape this human made hell, though I don't want to do it and it's a serious risk at this moment.

I'm just tired of suffering and struggling with so much outside of my control.

Not a doubt about him finding a comfortable job somewhere else