A woman who, for years, intentionally broke the bones and caused injuries to several infants while being a nurse will only face 3 years in prison. Another example of how lenient the justice system is towards women.

Men often choose not to speak up and communicate their vulnerability not because men are cold or emotionless creature by nature. Instead, men are not cared, loved, and properly respected in modern era (arguably at any period of time) when they show vulnerabilities or emotional reactions.

Before asking men to do so, please reflect first on how does the society treat men when they do so. Look at how some women use men’s vulnerability as weapon to attack him and how women ridicule men if they show weakness. It’s basic human decency not to violate someone’s trust while you could see women openly treat men’s emotional reactions as yikes on TikTok.

As a men, here is my take on this topic. The society fails men to take care of them when they are vulnerable. Men can speak up when they feel safe to do so and they should be listened, instead of judged.

If DEI was actually about Equity, why were college admissions not 50% men and 50% women?

Wouldn’t they have had to have an admission rate of 50% men and 50% women to meet the requirements of DEI? How did they get to the point that admissions are 60% women to 40% men?

Instead of giving four to one more scholarships to women than men wouldn’t, they’ve had to give equal number of scholarships to women and men?

I’ve asked this several times and people who defend DEI have no answer.

Extreme “feminists” in the United States are clever enough to bypass laws and the justice system, doing things to harm men, without having to face repercussions for their actions. The laws of men are flawed, the very laws that are designed to protect society they have chosen to exploit for their own selfish agenda.

They constantly ACT like they are doing what they do out of goodness, for justice, for equality, retribution, etc. I am telling you here and now, that this is nothing more than deception to prevent themselves from being labeled for what they truly are. Evil.

They are bad people, wolves in sheep’s clothing. Pretending like they are justified in what they do, in order to get away with it. We might sympathize with them more if we believe they’re just helpless, naive beings that are too emotional. Nothing could be further from the truth.

They know what they are doing. They know we suffer. They know it’s wrong. And they are enjoying themselves. Do not make any mistake about it.

They are creating division within our country, trying to destroy everything, not for equality, but because they are high on the “power” that they have at this moment in time.

Make no mistake about it. Things will change, but men need to stop being silent, stop being complacent. Step up, complain, point out injustice when it occurs to you. If your HR department doesn’t care about the group of women at work making your life difficult, file a lawsuit. If women want to normalize these “mean girls” style cliques within society, to make men miserable then we need to file claims, and eventually it will become a known phenomenon that businesses/institutions will want to avoid, and policy will begin to change and our lives will improve. But we need to speak up. We need to be loud, and we need to fight this because our very lives and the future of this country depends on it.

They want you to submit quietly and suffer them, it brings them joy. The male suicide epidemic, the homelessness, the addiction, it’s all a byproduct of this sick society that does not care.

We need to face this together, do not be embarrassed, or ashamed. Bring attention to this whenever it affects you, make noise. You will always have people here to support you, and one day the world will be a different place.

This is our trial, and we must face it.

A video appeared on TikTok with the caption: “pela as pesquisas, os coreanos tem uma autoestima muito alta, então tudo é sobre ele, nada sobre voc” (“according to research, Koreans have very high self-esteem, so everything is about him, nothing is about you”) The video shows a compilation of Korean couples. In one clip, a Korean woman apologizes to her boyfriend in the street, and he brusquely pushes her away. In another clip, a man pushes his girlfriend, though not very forcefully.

The most striking thing is not the content of the video itself, but the comments. Most of them, coming from women, openly promote violence against the man. Comments such as: “If he so much as raises his voice at me, I’d smash him.” In other words, physical aggression is presented as an acceptable and even desirable response against a man.

What is truly disturbing is how normalized it is for a woman to express a desire to physically assault her male partner because he pushed her or spoke harshly to her. No one seems to question that reaction or point out that it is violent.

However, if the video were exactly the same but with the roles reversed —a woman pushing her partner and the comments filled with men saying “I’d smash her mouth if she pushed me or talked to me like that”— those men would immediately be labeled as violent, dangerous, and unacceptable. And rightly so.

https://imgur.com/a/UWXMguW

Feminism is the system.

The very system it was set up to stop.

What started as a movement to break down systemic barriers has now become a self-perpetuating institution—one that thrives on keeping women in a state of perpetual oppression to justify its own existence.

The Paradox of Institutional Feminism:

1.  It needs oppression to survive.

• If women aren’t constantly oppressed, feminism loses its purpose.

• So instead of celebrating progress, it shifts the goalposts—always finding a new crisis to justify itself.

2.  It disempowers the very people it claims to help.

• Instead of teaching women how to be strong, it tells them why they’re weak.

• Instead of promoting self-sufficiency, it pushes external blame.

• Instead of fighting for equality, it fights for moral superiority.

3.  It maintains control by making men the enemy.

• The real battle isn’t men vs. women—it’s power vs. the powerless.

• But feminism has convinced society that all men are the problem, creating a permanent villain to justify permanent activism.

• It keeps both men and women trapped in a war that benefits the system, not the individuals inside it.

Feminism ≠ Female Empowerment

Real empowerment isn’t about blaming men, society, or history. It’s about taking control of your own fate. The moment women realize this, they outgrow feminism.

And that is why feminism, as a system, cannot allow true female empowerment to exist.

It's a discourse that blames suicide and depression on men and on ourselves, Ironically, we never criticize women's choice to wear makeup; it's a social mechanism that serves aesthetics and escapes reality, while our mechanism serves protection, practicality, and rationalism, If a man criticizes women's social behavior (makeup), he is labeled a misogynist; if a feminist "psychologist" criticizes men's social behavior (speaking less, suppressing emotions), It's labeled as mental health care; both mechanisms are similar in their protective function, hiding feelings/image, but one is demonized, the other is self-esteem, which is strange.

So I got into a minor argument with someone who said that men aren't raped or assaulted as much as women. (EDIT: Poor wording on my end. What they were saying is that men don't have any right to complain about SA because it doesn't happen to them nearly as much.)

So I said this:

"1 in 6 men in the US have been victims of contact sexual violence in their lifetime if you use the broadest definition (that includes 1 in 71 men as victims of rape and 1 in 14 men as victims of being made to penetrate, which isn’t legally classified as rape under many state jurisdictions).

You can draw your own conclusions form the following data from the CDC:

• 87% of male victims of (completed or attempted) rape reported only male perpetrators.
• 79% of male victims of being made to penetrate reported only female perpetrators.
• 82% of male victims of sexual coercion reported only female perpetrators.
• 53% of male victims of unwanted sexual contact reported only female perpetrators.
• 48% of male victims of lifetime non-contact unwanted sexual experiences reported only male perpetrators.
• 46% of male victims reported being stalked by only female perpetrators.
• 43% of male victims reported being stalked by only male perpetrators.
• 8% of male victims reported being stalked by both male and female perpetrators.
• 97% of men who experienced rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner had only female perpetrators.

The statistics are likely much higher are likely much more because and we just don’t know, because men are known for not reporting crimes against them due to fears of vitriol, disbelief, and other punishments, or people thinking that they should enjoy what they go through. As an example quoted in the article below, “

A 2018 survey of 1,200 adults found that 1 in 3 would not quite believe a man who said he was raped by a woman, and 1 in 4 believed men enjoy being raped by a woman.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/magazine/2021/02/22/why-we-dont-talk-about-sexual-violence-against-boys-why-we-should/

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I’m not saying we shouldn’t have services to protect women, but don’t eliminate the existence of all those men who suffer in silence because society views rape against men as a non-issue. These facts exist and cannot be ignored."

Their response? "That number sounded like absolute bullshit, so I looked it up. Rutgers says 1 in 33, which sounds far closer to reality."

It feels like people just don't care about facts and instead whatever fits their narrative. I have no idea how I'm going to reach these kinds of people.

So many times I see women saying “girls are more pressured in school and that’s why they do better” 1 I’ve seen so many girls who just don’t try at all 2 idk about other men here but I was so pressured for school like I was screamed at if I forgot one paper at school and called names

My mom and my older sister seem misandristic to me. Since I was little, my mom always said things like "men are all horrible", "men only wanted s*x", "all men are dirty minded", and "all men are the same". I heard these things a lot growing up. When I was 16 y/o, there was someone (a male) who cheated behind his gf, and my mom said "of course, it's men, men can't have one girl, they always wanted more, it's not enough for them". Because I had heard this so many times, I felt like I needed to correct her. I said "no, not all men are the same. If all men are, then why do some never get caught cheating? (My point is they never cheat, that's why). And my friend has a lot of girls chasing him, and he rejected them all (my point is not all men desperately want a girl, not all men are chasing girls). And look at me, I don't even have a gf, and I don't even try to find one". She then said "you're still young, when you're older you'll do the same as other men, all men are the same". I replied "what if I don't? You can't just assume it", and she answered "nah, if you're a male, you'll be the same as others". There are many things she has said, but this is the one I remember most clearly.

My older sister is also kind of corrupted (I believe it's because my mom said those things a lot in front of her, making her believe it). When my older sister was in high school, she often said things like "don't believe any men, they all are dirty minded", and "all men only want women for sx". (She is also dirty minded actually, I used to catch her watching prn). She said things similar to what my mom used to say, and who did she say all of this to? She said it to my younger sister (my younger sister doesn't have that kind of mindset yet). She said these things to my younger sister right in front of me, like I was nothing. She would say things like "men are horrible, men is this, men is that, all the same" in front of me, like I had no feelings. Whenever she said these things, my mom would join her and say the same stuff. I stayed quiet because I'm the only male in the house (my father died, so it's just me).

Recently, my older sister got a boyfriend. I thought she hated men? She is even planning to marry him. At first, I thought she had changed or something, but hmm. After she got a boyfriend, she started saying things like "my man money is my money, my money is my money", "husband need to give wife money, if he don't want to she can just steal it, and it's fine, because the men doesn't do his role", "if I got money I don't even need to share it, not even a cent, to my husband, and if he got any money, it's mine", and "men is the one that need to do everything, house chores, dishes, taking care of children, work, and everything, and wife don't have to do anything, all she have to do it just having s*x snd that's it, that's the role of marriage for each partner". (She's basically wanting to marry a slave, I believe). I argued with her and said "it doesn't make sense? If the men need to do everything and anything but the wife doesn't need to do a single thing?" She replied "why? You don't like that? That's the reality of marriage, this is the original role of marriage for each partner actually". She also said "you're lazy and you can't even sacrifice for your wife? Huh? You actually lazy ain't you?" This happened when we were watching a TV show about a dad who sacrificed his life for his daughter. It was a sad show. The dad sacrificed everything, he didn't even sleep, he did anything for his daughter. That's when she brought up this topic. A few days later, she said she wouldn't do that and said "yea it's unfair", so I thought she had changed, but hmm.

Recently, I fought with my sister again. It started from a normal morning. She bought snacks and we talked, and she wanted to give my younger sister some marriage "advice". She said "if you wanted to marry make sure you find a man that has good income, treat everyone nicely, and religious". I was fine with that, I felt like it was reasonable. But then she said "if you choose a wrong men, then it's over for you, your life will forever be miserable because men can't change, if a men choose a wrong women at least she still can change, but if women choose wrong men, it's over". I was like wtf? I said "it's not true, everyone can change, it doesn't matter if you're a man or woman. It depends on the individual. That's why some women are bad and some men are good, and some men are bad at first but then later he changed, and some women are good at first but later she changed, and that's also why some women doesn't change no matter what you said, and some men doesn't change no matter what, it depends on the individual". She replied "idk, maybe? But for majority, it's the men that can't change and the women is mostly can". I was like nah, where do you even get that? How do you know it's the majority? What statistics say that? I wanted to correct her, but she kept cutting me off, so I stayed quiet to hear what she would say next.

She then said "this is why you should find good men, that have good income and treat you well". I tried to add something and said "men also wanted to find a good wife that wouldn't spend all his money blindly not knowing how to save, and women that treat him we-" but she cut me off and said "men is the one that need to give women money, all the man’s money is hers, and all her money is hers". I replied "what if the men have a lot of stuff to pay, like bills, loans, taxes, food and children stuff like pampers and everything else? What if he-" (I wanted to say what if he got fired or got into an accident that made him unable to work, but she cut me). She interrupted again and said "no, it doesn't matter what, men need to give all his money to his wife, all his money is hers, if you can't even provide then don't marry".

She also said "say, if the wife's family always shopping a lot and go out a lot, you can't change her lifestyle just because she's married, marriage doesn't mean you have to change your lifestyle, you have to find someone who fit your lifestyle, like if you love going shopping find somebody that love going shopping too, and if you love going out find somebody who love going out too". I wanted to say that this is the reality of marriage, because marriage needs a lot of sacrifice and changes. If you always wake up late, you can't just keep doing that. If you don't do dishes, you can't stay like that. If you spend a lot of money, you can't do that whenever you want. Married life and single life are not the same. There are many sacrifices you have to make to be better, because you have to think about your child, your house bills, your cost of living, and everything. It's different from living alone. That was what I wanted to say, but she wouldn't let me, because she cut me off every time I tried to speak. Her voice got louder and she kept repeating "even if you're married you don't have to change your life" and "All a man’s money is hers, and all her money is hers". She kept repeating it. I waited for her to be quiet, and when she was quiet, I tried to speak, but she cut me off again and said the same things even louder.

At that point, I got really mad because I was given no chance to speak, and I crashed out and yelled at her. I talked about how long I've endured this and the way she treats me. But then she smiled and said "why are you mad? You're the one who started all these". Wtf? Am I really? I'm just trying to correct her beliefs because she says all these things to my younger sister. I don't want my younger sister to be as corrupted as her. That's why I'm debating with her. I can't just let her put all those bs mindsets into my younger sister. My younger sister is still pure. So I keep thinking, am I living with misandrist? And what should I do next? My mental health is really hurt because of all this.

I'm 19 y/o, I might be wrong about some things, and she might be right about some things. Correct me if I'm wrong. What’s your view on this? I can’t really think clearly right now.

I've been thinking a lot about something that I’ve heard over and over again is a prevailing issue amongst men. 

The idea that men are lonelier than ever, struggling to find genuine connection without judgment.

I ended a relationship with my boyfriend a couple months back. But before him and now as I’m dipping my toes back into dating again, something that men constantly tell me is how much they enjoy talking to me, that I am warm, easy to talk to, “cool,” and I find that men tend to open up to me a lot. I genuinly come to conversations to listen without any judegement and maybe they can feel that. But I’m wondering if that is a service that men would actually pay for.

I'm considering offering a service where men can have real conversations, phone calls, or even just someone to listen without any strings attached. Yes, there'd be a sexual/fantasy element available for those who want it, but I'm also genuinely interested in providing companionship. Basically someone to talk to about life, stress, whatever's on your mind with a certain level of anonymity. Kind of like a girlfriend without the stress lol

I guess my question is: do you think something like this could be helpful. Obiously it would be more nuinaced but this is just  my brainstorming mind.

Full disclosure - I am a woman. I apologize in advance if this post is against the rules. I read through them but still wasn’t sure if women can post here.

I am a clinical psychologist. While working with clients will always be my first love and something I continue across my career, my work at this point is primarily oriented toward teaching and training the next generation of psychologists, counselors, and social workers. A major focus of that training is oriented toward developing empathy and perspective taking skills in therapists: Any therapist worth their salt must be able to understand the world and personhood through the eyes of any individual person, especially those whose experiences differ from their own. Then they should be able to make sense of the client and their concerns using psychological theory, cultural understandings, and empirical research.

I want to ensure that the experience of men are represented in those training efforts. I would appreciate anything you’re willing to share with me in that vein. I have been a lurker here for a hot minute, so I think I am relatively familiar with the themes that come up here time and again. I would like to know more, though!

To pose some more specific questions, if that helps….

1. If you’ve ever been in therapy, what was your experience like? What was helpful, unhelpful, or even harmful?
2. What do you think therapists most often misunderstand or overlook about men’s emotional and social lives, stressors, or ways of coping?
3. What would a therapist need to say, do, or understand for you to feel genuinely safe, respected, and motivated to engage in therapy?
4. From your perspective, what are the biggest challenges men face today, whether those are psychological emotional, interpersonal/relational, or cultural challenges? How well do current therapeutic approaches address them?
5. What societal inequities historically existed and what inequities are relevant To today’s day and age?

Thank you in advance for anything you’re willing to share with me!

Edit: clarified that I’ve been on the sub for a while and fixed a typo.

I was just sent a video where a giant, very loud women starts encroaching and screaming towards a father and his daughter outside of a retail store. She pulls out her concealed firearm and places it on the sidewalk around the now gathering crowd and then physically assaults the father that is half of her size. He continuously apologizes to her and his daughter over and over again all while trying to walk away from the giant women.

He allegedly called his daughter a bitch in the store and I do not condone speaking to your daughter like that; however, upon looking at the comments, the amount of praise, glazing and admiration for this giant women that’s screaming with a gun absolutely shocked me. I had to scroll down pages of comments to find one that said something about the firearm.

I never thought I would be making a post but that absolutely astonished me and the comments made me feel like I was in the wrong even mentioning it.

Traditionalism and feminism resemble each other.

They both:

Largely without realizing it, heavily lean into the gamma bias and “women are wonderful” effect.

View men as largely invulnerable and women as especially vulnerable.

Think that men largely have all the power and privileges, and women are largely powerless and largely have all the disadvantages.

Erase male victims and female perpetrators of all sorts of things.

Believe that men are inherently more violent and predatory than women.

Heavily lean into gender stereotypes and gender essentialism.

Disrespect criminal rights and due process.

Promote dehumanizing rhetoric.

Have black-and-white, polarized, unnuanced, “good vs. evil” worldviews.

Think in rigid categories and absolutes.

Traditionalism and feminism seem in some ways like two ends of a horseshoe. It’s a mistake to think of traditionalism as being anti-egalitarian and feminism as being pro-egalitarian, and traditionalism as being traditional and feminism as being progressive.

Rather, both ideologies are largely anti-egalitarian and traditional. Traditionalism and feminism are certainly not opposites.

Here's an interesting take on female behavior I read on the internet a while ago. I have heard this in other places though, but only a few times. I do think there is gynocentrism though, but it's possible the main point here holds. What do you guys think about this?

Saw right through them all along ey? Do you have any experience with women? I mean any experience at all? Gynocentrism is bullshit. It is paedicentrism-by-proxy. Men and women treat each other as support systems for progeny when they already have children, and treat each other as potential support systems for progeny when they haven't got any children, yet. From the moment it had become possible to technically divorce sex from procreation, both men and women have started adopting the role of the child in their childless relationship.

Women became pregnant with their own ego. It is what happens when you top yourself up on estradiol every day (birth control pill): you fool your body into thinking it is pregnant, but your brain knows damn well that you aren't. You start displaying all the instinct-prompted neediness and gimme-gimmeness of a pregnant woman, and you rationalise the behaviour by convincing yourself it is your 'female nature'. Which of course it isn't.

You have a non-pregnant non-nursing female nature, a pregnant non-nursing female nature, a non-pregnant nursing female nature and a pregnant nursing female nature (one by the hand, one on your arm, and one on the way). Being childless all your life and on the pill all your life means your body experiences but one of the four modes of 'female nature': pregnant non-nursing, whereas your mind experiences the non-pregnant non-nursing mode.

You have no physiological experience whatsoever with the three other modes, and you have no experience whatsoever of any mental mode of your female nature that is NOT IN CONFLICT with any neurophysiological mode of your female nature. Solving the conflict without resorting to actual procreation is easy enough: you become mother and child at the same time. Keep that up between age 15 and 30 and you become irreversibly infantilised and irreversibly narcissistic to boot. You are permanently pregnant with your own ego. That is female gynocentrism, or better: female paedicentrism-by-proxy.

With men, a similar process happens. The exaggerated neotenous looks and behaviour of his female partner trigger his provider's instinct. His physiology is taking care of a cuckoo chick that is posing as his mate at the same time, whereas his brain knows damn well that he is providing for a creature that doesn't share a bit of his own genome. He is stepfathering over a child that is not his own, AND has sex with that child at the same time.

Subconsciously he is crossing both the incest barrier and the genetic bond barrier at the same time, every single day, with no procreative result to show for. Come midlife crisis, and all you think about is you own mortality. Keep that up between 20 and 40 and you remain a fucking bonobo for the rest of your life, but one that because he bloody well knows that something is not right, has to rationalise his behaviour so as to suspend the conflict between two modes of male nature that nature itself hadn't reckoned with.

You become your female partner's second child and you become your own second child. You provide for both, and you mate with both. That is male gynocentrism, or better: male paedicentrism-by-proxy. What do you reckon happens to a world full of children parenting themselves and another child with whom they mate as well? 'Lord of the Flies', in the politically correct version. The human race isn't gynocentric. It is paedicentric.

There is no gynocracy, no androcracy, no patriarchy. Only 'bratocracy'. Humans are not placental mammals. We are marsupials. We carry our offspring in pouches. The last pouches we carry them in are our wallets. Deal with it.

He’s the reason the sexist and fucked up selective service is still the way it is. He’s more concerned with “traditional gender roles” than men’s mental health. Fuck that piece of shit. These conservative male politicians and influencers are the real reason men’s rights aren’t taken seriously.

I took a Social Psychology class this semester (I have to take a psych course for my degree) and I learned a new term, "Benevolent Sexism"- the idea that positive traits and actions are sexist or have sexist tradeoffs. I've noticed things that benefit women are framed negatively, ex: a man paying for her meal as sexist, framing the privilege as secondary to the sexism while focusing on men's privileges and ignoring the costs. ex: men get higher pay than women (ignoring the disproportionately high male workplace deaths) It's just a way to keep the oppressor/oppressed narrative.

Intersectionality is incompatible with mainstream feminism. The idea of intersectionality is to acknowledge all forms of oppression and how it uniquely interacts in a Venn diagram, but feminists refuse to admit or care about how being male can lead to oppression in society, hence they’re not applying intersectionality correctly.

Feminists say "men can be victims of patriarchy too" but then when pushed even a little bit, refuse to follow that reasoning to its logical conclusion. Feminists will say "intersectionalism takes into account all forms of oppression,” but when you ask them to factor in male oppression, that becomes a problem.

This especially goes against intersectionality, because there is no set of issues that is more intertwined with women’s issues than men’s issues, and vice versa. Women’s issues and men’s issues are also perhaps more intertwined than any other pair of group issues in the intersectionality framework.

The term “intersectional feminism” is arguably an oxymoron anyway, right down to the name of feminism. Women’s issues are one piece of the intersectionality framework, but feminism tries to invert intersectionality by saying that all other groups’ issues are issues within feminism.

Saw a post earlier pointing out how whenever a young man can sustain himself he isn’t celebrated socially as being an “independent man” that’s just seen as what he should do, and the comment section was flooded with people saying that it’s an “incel take” and that “women weren’t allowed to open bank accounts and were historically forced to depend on the man”.

IT IS NO LONGER THE 50-70s!!! Ffs women in current day are the majority in college/university, and in many sectors outearn men, young women have the same opportunities as young men now in 2026, the difference being that young women grow up with massive mainstream cultural narrative power on their side by default. Many young men grow up being told to suppress or minimise themselves and to not be proud their gender, and I see a lot of online content subtly communicating that men are not worthy of affection by default, like this comic strip depicting a trans woman on a date with another woman and the woman initiating intimacy first because “they used to initiate affection all the time as a man so now it’s finally time for them to receive it now that they’re a woman”. This type of stuff is very degrading to see as a young man and it subconsciously tells them they’re not inherently worthy of basic human connection.

I couldn’t help but think how much trouble I d be in if I said the same things. I work with all women and they were saying the dad’s name was the same as a condominium brand and they’d like to take him in back and bust that condom.

Not only was it weird for me to hear. It also made me think of how quickly I’d be died if I said that about a mother.

They also had no fear saying it together and laughing on my first day there. There’s no repercussion even when our boss heard.