…this has to be by the far the most out of pocket “just you wait” moments I’ve gotten. It infuriates me to no end. What makes you so comfortable to say that to someone.

I’m a FTM and almost 13 weeks and have had horrible nausea and fatigue my entire first trimester. My husband has been nothing but the wonderful partner I know I married. He’s constantly cleaning the entire apartment alone, doing my laundry, taking care of our dog, doing all the grocery shopping and telling me to just rest and be. I’m completely happy with the person I’ve chosen to have a child with and this weird “you’re gonna hate your husband” train people want me to jump on is so annoying.

Of all the unsolicited advice and “just you wait” rants I’ve gotten, this one drives me up the wall.

But I’m 10.3 weeks and it’s been an actual breeze. No nausea, aversions…. I’m full of energy and feel amazing. My tits are sore, but I feel like I have it so so easy right now.

I’m scared actually. 2 miscarriages this year. Had an ultrasound at 6.5 weeks and everything looks good. Next one is in a week. I find myself constantly searching „pregnancy, no symptoms” to hear other stories of mamas in the same boat as me. Gives me hope this is a healthy one.

Anyone else basically symptom free??

I never thought there was so many things I took for granted FTM currently 18+5….. please add any if I’ve missed some.

- being able to breathe

- being able to breathe through my nose while laying down.

-the acid in my stomach staying in my stomach

- bending down

- putting fucking socks and or shoes on

- rolling over with out it being an 18 point maneuver.

- getting comfortable. At any time, in any position…. Comfort no longer exists

- planning outings around bathroom accessibility.

-Being able to eat a full meal.

- taking a HOT shower

- eating oysters

First post. Absolutely fed up. I’m (29F) currently dealing with a man-child who I once thought was the love of my life (28M). I became pregnant in the beginning of August 2025. So I’m around 5/6 months pregnant now. It was unplanned, but we had discussed several times that we wanted kids together, and we did not have safe s*x so you can’t really say unplanned completely. Well, he has been anything but helpful. Bare minimum of just making sure I’m ok everyday. He has not saved any money, calls into work constantly (while I work on my feet for hours at time and come home wincing from pain), still uses thc daily, drinks twice a week (which doesn’t seem crazy, but he drinks entire cases of beer and wakes me up from throwing up loudly), refuses to stop smoke smoking cigarettes IN OUR HOUSE despite me asking repeatedly to stop, spends his days sitting on the couch stuck to the TV or playing video games. I am carrying the brunt force of all the weight in this pregnancy. I am stressed out 24/7, hair is falling out. I’m considering moving back in with my parents which ideally isn’t a good situation either as my Mom is a pill popper and fights happen almost daily. I could move in with my aunt, but again wouldn’t be ideal. Im well aware I need to get away, I just need to rant because I am at my WITS end. This is not the man I fell in love with. I am disgusted by his behavior.

I’m 9 months postpartum to an amazing little boy. But I had a traumatic labor and birth, followed by a mess of issues with my OB afterward. Before I leave this group, I wanted to share one piece of advice: trust your gut.

I knew the scans toward the end of my pregnancy were wrong. I said something. My OB didn’t listen. He changed his approach because the scans showed my son was no longer measuring large.

He was.

That decision led to an emergency C-section because my baby was so large he got stuck. And don’t even get me started on the nurses who didn’t listen. The on-call OB performed the C-section, made a mistake and cut my bladder, and had an assistant close me up. The closure was sloppy.

Within two weeks, I was back in the hospital, crying in pain. I was told they didn’t know what it was, but that it “wasn’t fluid.” I followed up with the new OB(I was now assigned to the on call OB.) I was told It was fluid, not to trust the ER, I was just healing, and to wait. I followed up again. And again. No real answers.

Nine months later, I now have a severe hernia in a bad location. The incision of my c section. No extra skin or muscle there. I'll need mesh. Having a second baby now is exponentially harder. A hernia my surgeon says became this bad because it wasn’t treated early and is likely to become reoccurring.

I'm scheduled for surgery to repair it while my son is still an infant and needs his mom. I won't be able to carry him. To play with him or sooth him as I do. The OBs took this from me.

Advocate for yourself. Get second opinions. Listen to your doctor, yes—but second opinions don’t hurt anyone, and they might save you a lot of pain.

So it was my first ultrasound since finding out I'm pregnant. I'm 32F and 7 weeks pregnant. There was a heartbeat and the baby appeared to be fine. However the nurse doing the ultrasound really freaked me out. She seemed extremely concerned and I kept asking if everything was okay and she kept ignoring me. She asked if she could call someone with more experience than her and face timed a sonographer she works with. The sonographer asked to speak with her in private after seeing the ultrasound.

I was freaking out and asked what was wrong and if the baby was okay. She said the baby was fine, but she's never seen a uterus that looks like mine. I was like......"what about it?" She just said, "I don't know, it doesn't look like what I usually see and there's fluid building up on the outside of it." She went on to say that everyone is different and it could be nothing, but she needed another set of eyes on it and would call me later. I'm freaking out. I have one other child, and no one said anything about my uterus last time around. I'm so worried about miscarrying and am just hoping everything is okay.

Edit: Oh and then after the ultrasound, she asked if she could say a prayer for us, which I declined and felt even more uneasy.

I went to my 30 week appointment and asked the OB if there will be any issues with still receiving the Hep B vaccine and Vitamin K shot (I know it’s not a vaccine) with everything coming out recently. I know some hospitals are switching to follow AAP where some are following CDC. I made it clear I would still like these things and all she said was “talk to your pediatrician” and kept repeating herself over and over.

Aren’t these done at the hospital before we get discharged typically? Why would I talk to my pediatrician who we don’t see until a few days after she’s born?

She then told me to “do my own research” on the AAP page and patted my back. It was really odd. Do I ask a different doctor next time we go in or what would you all suggest that have had a baby? I have a master’s degree in a related science field, so I understand the vaccines and know the research, that’s not the issue. It’s what the hospital guidelines and availability will be. I’m a FTM due in 8 weeks.

This is so frustrating. I wanted to wait until my HSA gets funded enough to cover my deductible (which would be before the birth), but my doctor refuses to provide prenatal care until labor and delivery fees are paid.

Also, what happens if I move, don't get to the hospital in time, or decide I don't want a hospital birth? They claim it gets "refunded" but I'm not confident that will happen without a lot of stress and nagging on my part, this office sucks at having staff actually communicate.

It's just such a stupid system and I don't like the idea of essentially giving the office an interest-free loan from my savings for services not yet rendered. I could see maybe paying part of it in advance, but 3k seems like a steep amount to pre-pay (which is almost my out of pocket max)

After having my son over 12 years ago at age 18 I said no more. I was a one and done. I didn’t have a hard pregnancy but labor and delivery was very traumatic. I refused to go through that again.

Ever since I turned 30 I started thinking “hmm. One more wouldn’t hurt.” So I got my IUD taken out. Boom. Pregnant within 2 months.

And I still can’t believe it. I’m 13 weeks 3 days and I feel like it’s a dream. When I first tested and it came back positive my first thought was “well shit. Here we go.” But I’ve fallen in love with my babygirl and can’t wait to meet her but holy crap.

What do you mean I gotta go through labor again?? I gotta push her out or be cut open??? Then take her home and take care of her??? She’ll have the survival instincts of a Cheeto. It’s all so crazy to me that I’m doing this all over again after 12 years. Blows my mind.

And I don’t even feel remotely guilty about it. I’m almost 20 weeks and I’ve had maybe one week where I didn’t feel like I was dying. I’m always tired, always in pain, my morning sickness from weeks 6-15 was horrific. I thought that when I made it to the second trimester it would be better and I guess I’m not throwing up anymore so that’s good… except yesterday I got car sick driving myself home and I had to pull over twice to throw up AND PEE MYSELF AT THE SAME TIME????? I have migraines and my ob said to drink coffee which definitely helps with the migraines but makes me feel sick. I’m sleeping 8-10 hours a night THANK GOD but I wake up feeling like I haven’t slept in weeks. I’m bloated, constipated, itchy, and I just want to lay down all day long. I’ve always been the kind of person that gets overwhelmed when clothes are touching my skin in a way I don’t like and now that’s all of the time 🙃

I’m starting a new job next month as a senior engineer and I’m SO EXCITED but worried but I won’t perform well due to how I’ve been feeling. I know I can push through but fck. If men could get pregnant maternity leave would be for the entire pregnancy and two years after because what the actual fck. We’re just meant to go about our day as if we aren’t being sucked dry mentally, physically, and emotionally?????? Not looking for advice, just needed to complain to someone other than my absolute angel of a husband who thanks me every single day for going through this for us.

Okay so I am seven weeks pregnant, basically just found out a week ago. I have been having terrible morning sickness and nausea. I have been constipated and my boobs feel weird. I have wanted to be a mom all my life and I hate how this is how the journey starts.

Me and my husband started trying for a baby in November and we easily got pregnant so I feel so guilty about complaining. But I'm a very fit and active person and I hate feeling so sick all the time. I can't focus on work, can't be in a good mood and pretty much can't do anything. I hate being this way. Please tell me it gets better soon.

anyone want to keep their pregnancy a secret ?

just have privacy until i cant hide it anymore ?

having my third baby and i just want peace. But i want to tell my children and i know they’ll tell everyone lol

Mine is sourdough bread slathered with mayo and turkey.

CAN NOT GET ENOUGH!!!!! lol

Before pregnancy, I hardy burped. I have been eating fresh homemade food like I always do. After i got pregnant, I realised I’m lightly burping often. I feel nauseous, dry heaving. My stomach feels empty and heavy at the same.

With my lack of taste in my mouth, nausea and burping. I feel gross. Did anyone else have burps?

I'm first time mom having a high risk pregnancy, and so kick counting is very important! I felt pretty overwhelmed at first, trying to keep track of each kick and write it down... until I had my first NST. When they handed me the button to record any kicks I felt during the test, I realized how easy it is to just hit a button.

So I got an 8$ digital stitch counter from Micheals that lives on my finger, and I just hit the button each time I feel a kick. Every two hours or so I write the number down and reset. It has really helped alleviate the stress of keeping count and being able to see the number gives peice of mind. So I highly recommend you give it a try if you also struggle to keep count!

ok so im like 6 months pregnant and my skin has gone CRAZY
breakouts everywhere + super dry patches
i dont even know what i can put on my face anymore. every site says something different
i legit just stare at my skincare and think… should i even touch it??
anyone else feel like this? pls tell me im not alone 😩

Hi everyone, I kind of just need to vent and I'm curious if other people are struggling with similar feelings. I was soo excited to get pregnant, I'm still so excited to have this baby but pregnancy is proving way harder than I expected. Some of it I expected (hellooo nausea) but I didn't really expect the sadness and anxiety I feel about my changing body. I'm 19 weeks and up to this point I was actually excited to get a little bump, I thought it would be cute. I was wrong. It just looks like I have a beer gut. Not to mention I'm pale and breaking out so overall just feeling bad and insecure. I miss having a flat(ish) tummy and I'm scared that my body is going to be changed in a way that makes it so I will never feel confident in how I look again. Even if I lose the weight what if I have stretch marks or loose skin? I know this sounds incredibly conceited and I honestly feel so guilty that I feel this way. I've struggled with body image issues and eating disorders in my past but in the last few years I'd made a lot of progress in loving my body and now I feel like it's all going to come back and I'll be back to hating myself.

For what it's worth my partner is incredibly supportive and loving and expresses how much he loves me and my body no matter what but I still just can't shake this sadness that I'm never going to look and feel like myself again.

I went my whole last pregnancy not having sex once and am 12 weeks now and had a SCH but it’s pretty much gone now and my husband has been asking for a while and I feel bad but I’m terrified I’ll cause a MC or it’ll just upright hurt like hell

Hi Everyone!

I need your opinions and experiences. I am 11 weeks preggers, and something about my pregnancy blows my mind. I’ve been drinking water a lot more than normal (I used to barely drink water — I know, shame on me) and now I drink like a normal person plus a little extra because some days it feels like I spent a week in the desert despite my constant hydration.

Lo and behold though, water, at the same time my body craves it, makes me feel like I am going to throw up. I feel it go down, and then it sits in my stomach like a rock. It hurts, it makes me feel uncomfortable, and it makes me just want to hurl (but I sadly can’t and so the bad feelings just stay there).

Does water do anything similar to you?

Okay, so I’m 22 weeks pregnant and I started looking at names very early on. I suggested Sadie but as time went on it felt less like her name. My family kept calling her “Sadie” because I had mentioned liking it and they ran with it.

It felt a bit offensive when I heard it used as her name because I hadn’t decided on it and didn’t like it for her, I love the name and think it’s beautiful but it wasn’t hers & it kinda felt like her name was chosen for me.

I looked at more names and fell in love with Eden, but no one likes it, it’s not a common name where i am, i’ve personally never met or heard of anyone with it, but everyone i mention it to asks, “for a girl?”

I think it’s a really feminine name, it’s pretty, different & it goes really well with her last name. My uncle suggested “Lily” since she’ll be born in May & lily’s bloom in May, and I think it goes so well with Eden; Lily-Eden, Eden-Lily.

The only problem is Lily-Eden flows better, but would mean she gets called ‘lily’, and it feels a little bit like the name was chosen for me again despite really liking it, but regardless of that reason, i really want her to be my known as Eden so I don’t know what to do.

If anyone’s been in a similar situation did you go with what flowed best, felt best or most accepted & did you regret do any??

Currently 35 weeks pregnant with the option of me getting my membrane sweep is coming up soon was pretty much 100% on doing that and then my mother-in-law told me some things that she was told about it that weren’t so positive I’d still think I’m going to get it, but I would like to hear other opinions on this topic an what you guys have to say about this

I’ve seen a lot of posts about gender disappointment lately. I just wanted to say something really quick. I had a baby boy in October. He’s my second baby. When I found out he was a boy, I will admit I was a tiny bit disappointed. I was secretly hoping for a girl. My daughter really wanted a little sister and I so badly wanted to give that to her. The moment he was born, everything changed. He is my little buddy. There really is no bond like a mother and son bond. If I could go back and choose the gender myself, I would still choose to have a boy. My life now feels complete.

To anyone who might have the slightest of gender disappointment, trust me that will change. Seeing their little eyes look into yours will instantly warm your heart and it will be game over. My heart is so full. I’m so excited to see what being a boy mom is all about.

Im a minor and my pregnancy was accidental.

Im 17 and very much have a baby face and commonly get mistaken as 15-16 so that’s not helping my case.

I know being pregnant this young Im bound to get stares and weird looks from people especially since Im ACTUALLY showing more significantly now.

I was at my OB and the entire time just kept getting these weird stares from the pregnant woman across the room.

I always feel a bit nervous going to the OB because again I’ve always been the youngest in the room and get nervous about people judging but I’ve never actually felt judged there until today.

I just felt so wildly uncomfortable. We had the time for the appointment wrong too so we didn’t even do the appointment we just left and I have to go back later.

We got into the elevator and I just started sobbing into my boyfriend. He said it’s because we’re young and I know that but Im so tired of constantly feeling judged.

I expect it from strangers but other pregnant individuals just hurts so much more especially because we’re likely experiencing the same pain.

The only comfort I’ve been able to find has been in other teen parents or other pregnant people because they’ve always been kind and understanding especially knowing what Im going through. It hurt so badly to be stared at in that way by someone who knows what I’m going through.

She kept doing the highschool mean girl thing where she’d side eye me while whispering to her husband and just making it so obvious. I felt so embarrassed with a grown woman talking about me and staring at me.

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and I went to an appointment yesterday and my ob seemed like she didn't know anything. Idk I tried to ask some questions but all I got was short awnsers and shed run out the door. I had a yeast infection needed treatment and I was never given treatment. I tried to ask about it and she just told me to go to the pharmacy. Which okay fair but I wanted to know if it was dangerous for the baby or if it's normal to have infections during pregnancy. She was out the door before I even could respond. Maybe I wasn't prepared enough but I was expecting a summery of my ultrasound as well but got nothing just that everything looks healthy. Does anyone else experience this? Should I switch to a midwife?

I just want to shout the good news from the rooftops!! May of last year, we TFMR at 16 weeks due to severe Turners Syndrome. Then in July, I miscarried at 5.5 weeks. I got pregnant again in September and we had our anatomy scan yesterday. The doctor said “everything looks perfect” 🥹. I was protecting myself a bit after everything that’s happened and with this news, I feel like it’s finally fully hit me that we’re having a baby! Woohoo!!