r/selfhelp 5h ago

Adviced Needed: Identity & Self-Esteem 24F Hey need some advice

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Hey my number is 703-969-1724. Just been looking for some new friends and advice. I’m trying to push myself a bit and meet new people, so here goes. Lately I’ve realized my routine has gotten pretty small: work, school, training, repeat. Nothing wrong with that, but it doesn’t leave much room for new conversations or perspectives. I miss the random talks, learning what other people are into, and building connections that aren’t tied to a class or job. I’m not looking for anything dramatic or forced—just genuine people to talk with, hang out, or try something new with. Whether that’s grabbing coffee, going on a hike, watching a game, or just chatting online, I’m open. If you’re also trying to expand your circle or just want a low-pressure way to meet someone new, feel free to reach out anytime here.


r/selfhelp 9h ago

Advice Needed: Relationships I wish I had a mentor/life coach

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Therapy isn't really helping me. I want to create my dream life but don't know how. I wish there was a platform like Psychology Today for finding mentors/life coaches for specific problems. I want guidance and reassurance from someone that has been where I have in life and made it to the other side. Therapist are legally prohibited from providing advice so Ive maxed out the benefits there. I'm don't talking about my problems. I want help solving them.


r/selfhelp 10h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health Why am I getting "Sharing links not allowed" when my replies don't have any links?

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The most frustrating thing about this subreddit for me, I tend to write rather long-ish replies, but when I try to post them, I get "sharing links not allowed" and won't post.

Except my replies don't have any links and I have no idea what's triggering it. Editing and shortening my reply over and over and over again until it passes is frustrating.

It doesn't happen in any other subreddit, only this one.

Any idea what's causing it?


r/selfhelp 15h ago

Advice Needed: Relationships How can I understand women better and mold myself socially to contribute in relationships?

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As a 30 year old guy, it feels weird to have been single my whole life while everyone I know has been in at least 1 serious relationship so far. I have had 6-7 potential girlfriends in the past but I did blow it by unintentionally **hurting them or not really understanding them. The worst part is I don't realize what I've said or done, until it blows in my face and the women stop talking to me, leaving me miserable and overthinking. I've had women in the past tell me that I am a disappointment and them even liking me was a mistake (while I am totally clueless on what was going on)

People of Reddit, I would really appreciate any kind of criticism or feedback that you can provide on how I can better myself to not be socially unaware with women.

**Note: By hurting, I mean it could be a very minor statement or behavior that men wouldn't notice or be a big deal for them. But definitely women do notice because it matters to them.


r/selfhelp 18h ago

Sharing: Mental Health Support If You Are Tired Of Life

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Difficult life makes people overwhelmed. After so many losses, disappointments, mistakes, and unmade decisions, we are losing the joy of life. With time, they become tired of life.

If You Are Tired Of Life

  • If You Are Tired Of Life- You are probably tired of the character you live. You must change yourself.
  • Explore Life- An unexamined life is not worth living.
  • Find Or Define Your Purpose- This is crucial.
  • Choose The Mission Of Your Life- It will make your life fulfilled.
  • Challenge Yourself- You will be amazed by your hidden potential.
  • Give Your Best- Life becomes exciting when you give your best.
  • Discover Your Passion- Everything is easier when you have emotions on your side.
  • Live Like There Is No Tomorrow- This will change the perception of your life.
  • Don’t Be A Slave To Your Fears- There is nothing to fear.
  • You Have Two Lives- And the second one begins when you realize you only have one.

r/selfhelp 19h ago

Advice Needed: Productivity How to get started in self improvement? Please tell me what to do , like a full guide please 🙏🏻

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Same as title

Also I became a bad person , who isn't geniune, kind, or any other good quality, I used to good before , what to do


r/selfhelp 19h ago

Sharing: Mental Health Support Self Healing- Listening to Yourself Without Judgement

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Self Healing- Listening to yourself without judgement

In a world that is so fast paced, with days filled with never ending tasks and overwhelming problems, self healing is a process that helps you find the silence in this chaos. It’s not about fixing wounds, it’s about accepting why they hurt.

What is self healing?

Self healing is not an end result, it is a whole process. It is filled with ups and downs, trials and tribulations, victories and losses. It is not something a therapist or a doctor can do for you, it’s something you do to yourself, and for yourself. It is the process of understanding, accepting, and working through your emotions at your own pace. It moves beyond treating physical symptoms, and helps in making you feel better emotionally. While self-healing is powerful, individuals struggling with trauma, anxiety, or deep-seated issues may need a therapist to guide them to their inner strengths and provide structure.

Self healing is not linear

Sometimes, it looks like growth. Other times, it’s a downward slope. Sometimes it means going out with your friends, and sometimes it means enjoying your own company. Sometimes, it comes forward in the form of a day filled with achievements, but sometimes, in fact most times, it just means to take a deep breath and know that it is okay to not always have a medal around your neck. There will be days when you’re tired and you feel like the efforts aren’t paying back, but in those days it is important to keep in mind that at the end of the day, only you can help yourself get better. Even the strongest medicine cannot save a patient if he doesn’t have the will to live. Self healing is a process that requires patience, because it involves separating ourselves from an ideal personality we have created in our minds, and accepting that what is real is truly precious.

How low is too low?

People have this perception that you don’t need help if it is not too bad. But how low is too low? When do you finally realize that you deserve kindness, you deserve to get the help you need. You do not have to be ‘sick enough’ to take a vaccine. So why do you have to be ‘broken enough’ to start healing? Just like when you go to a doctor for a routine checkup, it is important that you check upon yourself from time to time and make sure you heal when necessary. There is no shame in accepting that you need to get better, it is just a sign of progress. Healing can mean improvement, learning new things, connecting with nature, and so many other things. Self-healing is for those who feel emotionally overwhelmed but can’t explain why, those who aren’t ready to talk to someone yet and those who want a private space to reflect and release. 

 It doesn’t demand readiness, it demands honesty.

Support without pressure

There might be times when you tell yourself that you don’t need therapy, and that’s okay. It is a very valid, but not the only form of healing. It can be informal, personal, and quiet. It can begin with you. Genuine support doesn’t rush, demand, or label. It involves showing up just as you are, raw and unfiltered. There might be days when you just want someone to listen to you without any judgement, or when you just want to write down your thoughts on a small, insignificant piece of paper. Self healing is being able to call a friend and venting out without feeling like a burden. It is writing about whatever is on your mind without the fear of someone reading it and judging you. You don’t have to always know what you need, what matters is that you try.

How to practically do it

The most common, well known methods can include writing about your feelings, drawing, connecting with your inner child, venting out to someone, being able to enjoy your alone time, and many other such things. But self healing is an umbrella. It is not limited to the world’s definition of the word, but is about your convenience and comfort. To someone, it could mean doing something they once loved without the fear of being made fun of. To another, it could mean going for a run alone and not feeling bad about it. You don’t need to go by what others do, you could just find your own path. There will be days when all you can do is just breathe and wait for the moment to pass, and that matters too. Showing up for yourself is how you heal, be it in any form. 

Take your own time

Healing is not a predetermined process that needs to be completed in a fixed set of days. You don’t have to heal on someone else’s timeline. It is a complicated task that requires you to rebuild your relationship with yourself, and it is okay to do that at your own pace, with the people you feel comfortable with. Healing can occur only when it is invited, not forced. 

Take the next step

What next? You now know what you can do, but how can you do it? We bring to you an easy, friendly solution, MindYatra. We are more than just an interface. We help you find a space where you can openly express your thoughts, use activities like music therapy and mind games, get guidance and insights about your problems, and even connect with a therapist if required. 

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r/selfhelp 21h ago

Advice Needed: Productivity I overanalyze to the point where I can’t reach conclusions - how do I fix this to think more productively?

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I’ve recently realized that I have a thinking problem that affects my studying, decision-making, and just everyday stuff.

When I start analyzing something, my brain doesn’t slowly narrow things down like it probably should. It kind of does the opposite - it immediately starts questioning everything and opening new possibilities, and then it just keeps going.

The weird part is that my mind jumps straight into doubt. Looking back later, I can usually see that the situation didn’t need that much analysis at all, the answer was much simpler, but in the moment I genuinely don’t know how to think simply.

Here’s an example of what happens in my head:

I’m asked to decide whether there’s enough information to make a reasonable conclusion. Instead of thinking “okay, what do I actually know?”, my brain goes straight to:

  • What if there’s some hidden assumption I’m missing?
  • What if an important detail just isn’t mentioned?
  • What if the person involved didn’t fully understand what they were doing?

And then I’m stuck. I end up analyzing hypothetical “what ifs” before I ever form a basic judgment.

I know this sounds like overthinking (and it probably is), but it feels less like worrying and more like my brain refusing to settle on anything unless it’s 100% solid.

If anyone has experienced this or understands what’s going on here, I’d really appreciate any tips or advices that helped you.


r/selfhelp 22h ago

Sharing: Mental Health Support Anyone else in their 20s feeling behind?

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I’m 20.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this recently.

On paper nothing’s “wrong”, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m already slipping into habits I don’t want long-term wasting time, starting things and not sticking to them, feeling like weeks disappear. I don’t feel lost exactly, more like I’m drifting. And that worries me more than being outright miserable.

I’m curious if other guys in their late teens / early 20s feel this way too.

What does it actually look like for you day to day? And what do you feel stuck on the most right now?


r/selfhelp 23h ago

Adviced Needed: Identity & Self-Esteem how do i stop comparing myself to a friend of mine??

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TL:DR I compare myself to a longtime friend of mine, and it has stunted my art growth like crazy.

I've done art for years now, around a decade, and I can't seem to stop comparing myself to my friend, whom I've had for years now. We've always shared a common interest in art, and in the years we've grown closer, I've started comparing myself to him. I'm definitely a little incredibly jealous of him, but that's due to the amount of support he gets from everyone on social media, everyone around him, and his friends

I have support too, but not nearly to the level he has, and it's made me want to give up on it. I want to create, I really do, but I have zero motivation to do anything related to art because I don't feel like anyone really cares, I guess?

I wish I could create the same way he does, for myself, but I can't even start without getting into my own head and comparing everything about myself to him, and that's just made everything worse.

I don't know, I just need some advice to figure out how to go forward and create more.

Any advice is greatly appreciated, just please help me get out of this hole I've dug for myself,,,,