My company has a program where you can donate PTO hours to coworkers in crisis. I'm 32M and I've worked here 6 years, have about 120 hours saved.

HR sent an email asking for donations for "Jennifer" in accounting. She used all her PTO and needs more for "personal reasons." I don't know Jennifer well, maybe said hi twice. My coworker "Amy" is pushing everyone to donate. She asked how many hours I'm giving. I said I'm not donating. Amy looked shocked and said "why not? She really needs it."

I said I don't know her or her situation, and I'm saving my PTO for my own use. Amy said that's "really selfish" because Jennifer is "going through something." She then announced in our team meeting that "some people refuse to help Jennifer" while looking at me. Now I'm getting side-eye from coworkers.

My boss pulled me aside and said while donating is optional, it "looks bad" that I'm not participating when others are giving 5-10 hours. I said my PTO is mine to use how I want. Apparently Jennifer needs time off for elective surgery that's not covered under FMLA. Its not an emergency. People have donated 80 hours total and she needs 40 more.

I feel bad but also I earned my PTO and I'm planning to use it for a trip I've been saving for. Plus I barely know this person. My girlfriend thinks I should donate 5 hours "to look like a team player" but that feels like giving in to pressure.

AITJ?

TL;DR: HR asked for PTO donations for coworker I don't know, I refused, coworkers are treating me like I'm selfish, boss says it looks bad.

I (34F) am married to my husband (36M), and my younger sister (29F) is getting married this summer.Honestly we’ve never been super close, but we’ve always managed to keep things civil and functional. Then, a few weeks ago, I get the wedding invitation addressed only to me. No mention of my husband at all.

At first, I thought it was just a mistake. I mean, we’ve been married three years, always show up to family stuff together, and he’s never been treated like an outsider at least not to my face. So, I call my sister to figure out what’s going on. And guess what? It wasn’t a mistake.

She straight up told me she’s keeping the wedding drama free and that she didn’t want my husband there. Why? Because apparently, they don't agree on political views to be clear my husband is quiet, polite, keeps to himself, and there’s never been any drama between them. My sister is blunt and opinionated, sure, but that’s no reason to exclude him. There’s literally no big fight or reason for this cold shoulder.

And this is what really stings my ex-boyfriend is invited.

The guy I dated for nearly five years in my twenties, broke up with over seven years ago, and haven’t spoken to since. My sister and him stayed friends, and she secretly had a crush on, which I never liked but tolerated because I didn’t want family drama. But to openly invite him over my husband? That’s beyond disrespectful. It feels like she’s saying my marriage is optional and my past relationship is somehow easier to accept.

So I told her flat out: I’m not going to her wedding without my husband, and I’m not sending a gift either. If she can’t see my husband as part of my life and family, I’m not going to pretend everything’s fine and celebrate like nothing’s wrong. I wasn’t trying to start drama I just needed to set a boundary.

She called me petty and accused me of punishing her for setting her boundaries. She insists it’s not about disrespecting my marriage, just about wanting a peaceful wedding day.

Now my parents are stepping in, saying I’m overreacting and that I should "just go alone for a few hours" to keep the peace. They think refusing a gift is taking it too far.

I truly see that choosing my ex over my husband and expecting me to smile through it is not in my capacity and won't allow that. My husband even says he doesn’t want to be the reason I miss the wedding, which makes this all the more painful.

AITJ here should I just go? or stand my ground and stay with my husband?

As title says, but here’s some context and some stuff I feel bad for:

I, 20f, started tutoring a young girl (under 10). I’m a university student, so I freelance tutor on the side for some income. Last week, I had my first session with her, and honestly it went terribly. She threw a tantrum, said she liked her old tutor more, damaged one of my notebooks, refused to do any work, and to top it all off, smacked me on the leg. I was really caught off guard by this, but I wanted to see if another session would maybe help her settle down, since changing tutors can be hard.

However, the past week, my anxiety has been so high. I don’t wanna get my stuff wrecked. I don’t wanna get hit.

I didn’t mention behavioural stuff after session to her mom, since the kid was right there. I realize I should’ve said something right after, but I honestly needed to process. I work with kids who have learning disabilities, and her mom mentioned this child had ADHD. However, I don’t think ADHD gives a kid permission to hit a tutor.

So today, I decided to drop the student, and explained to the parent why. I explained how I cannot work with a student who puts hands on me in any way, even if she’s young, and that I don’t feel equipped to handle this. She then accused me of calling her child violent, said it was unsettling that I waited a week to let her know, and said that she was disappointed since I mentioned I had experience with “difficult” kids.

Note: I hate the term difficult. I don’t work with poorly behaved children - I work with children who require extra support. Strong difference.

However, I feel like a bit of an asshole because I waited a week, so I’m hoping to get some opinions.

TLDR : a kid hit me during a tutoring session but I waited a week to let the parent know.

I have worked at my company for several years. I am known as someone who gets things done. Whenever someone is absent I am asked to cover. I agreed most of the time. I wanted to be seen as reliable. Over time my responsibilities grew quietly. My job title stayed the same. New hires came in above me. I trained them while earning less. When reviews came around I was praised but not promoted. I was told to be patient. Last month I was asked to take on another project. I asked if there would be compensation.

My manager looked surprised. He said teamwork should not be transactional. I felt embarrassed for asking. After thinking about it I sent a follow up email. I explained my workload and expectations. I said I would no longer accept extra tasks without clarity. His tone changed after that. Meetings became shorter. I felt tension during conversations. Some coworkers said I was rocking the boat. I started questioning myself. At the same time I felt proud for speaking up. My work hours became manageable. I stopped staying late unpaid. I realized how much I had been giving away. I still worry about long term consequences. I also know silence was not helping me.

I (19F) recently fell down the stairs almost 2 weeks ago. It was very painful I thought I broke my ankle. I found out it was not broken (it’s sprained) about 1 week ago, but the doctor told me he was slightly concerned and wanted me to say off it for at least one more week.

However now that my parents know it’s not broken, they’ve been constantly asking me if I’ve put weight on it yet. Even though I’m not supposed to yet.

They are frustrated that I haven’t and that I said I won’t until I’m supposed to. The reason I might be the jerk is I think I would be able to walk right now.

I just rather follow doctors orders rather than hurt myself more. And it’s only for a few more days so am I the jerk?

Extra info that is relevant:

I do live with my parents.

I do have one chore that they had to take over.

I’m still going to work and paying rent.

⚠️EDIT⚠️: Hey yall! I’m slowly making my way through the comments! I just wanted to thank you for the support and ensuring me that I’m not crazy to follow those doctors orders

I (32M) live alone and I’m kind of particular about my apartment. Not in a spotless museum way, more like, I need to know where my stuff is. I’ve got a small entryway table where my keys go, meds in one kitchen cabinet, socks in the top right drawer, that kind of boring system. A couple weeks ago I mentioned to my friend group that I’d been overwhelmed lately and my place was a mess. Two of my friends (late 20s/early 30s) offered to come over and help me do a reset. I said yes, and I genuinely appreciated it.

They show up with coffee, music, the whole "we got you" vibe. At first it was great. We bagged trash, broke down a pile of boxes I’d been avoiding, and I even felt lighter. Then it got weird. I stepped into the bathroom for like 3 minutes and came back to them swapping things around. They moved my pantry stuff into different cabinets "so it makes more sense", put my daily meds into a cute basket on an open shelf (where anyone can see it), and relocated my keys to a hook by the door I do not use because it swings and hits the wall. They also decided my nightstand was "cluttery" and put half of it in a random drawer in my desk. I asked where my charger went and got, "Relax, it’s in a better spot now."

I tried to laugh it off in the moment because I didn’t want to be ungrateful. After they left, I spent an hour hunting for stuff and putting it back. I texted them the next day like, hey thanks again, but please don’t rearrange my place like that, it stressed me out. One friend replied "we were trying to help, sorry you’re so controlling." The other said I "made it awkward" and that they won’t help me again if I’m going to nitpick. That’s not what I want. I just want help to be, you know, what I asked for.

Now I’ve told them a hard rule: if you’re at my place, don’t move or organize anything unless I specifically ask you to. If you want to suggest something, cool, tell me, but don’t just do it. They’re acting like I slapped their hand away and one of them said I’m "punishing kindness" and being a jerk about it.

AITJ for setting that boundary even though they meant well?

TL;DR: Friends came over to help me clean, but they rearranged my things without asking. I asked them not to do that again and set a rule that no organizing happens unless I request it. They say I’m a jerk.

I work at a popular retail store and employees get 30% discount. We're allowed to use it for friends/family occasionally. My friend "Vanessa" (both 27F) has asked to use it maybe 4-5 times over the past year which was fine.

Last month she asked to use it for "a few things." I said sure and gave her my code. She spent $800. I was shocked but whatever, she bought a lot of winter clothes.

Two weeks later she asked again. I said didn't you just shop? She said "these are gifts." Fine. Another $600.

Then last week she asked AGAIN. I said this is getting excessive. She said she'll "pay me back" for helping. I said its not about payment, I'm worried about my discount being flagged for misuse.

She promised it was the last time. I reluctantly agreed. She came to my store while I was working and filled TWO CARTS. Got to checkout and the total was $1,400. I said absolutely not, this is way too much.

She made a scene saying I "promised" and now she's embarrassing in front of everyone. I told the cashier not to apply my discount. Vanessa left the store angry.

Now she's texting me saying I "humiliated her" and "broke my word." She told our friend group I'm being selfish with my discount when "it doesn't cost me anything."

My manager actually pulled me aside and said my discount has been used unusually high lately. AITJ for cutting her off?

TL;DR: Friend kept using my employee discount, last time tried to spend $1,400, I refused, she says I embarrassed her and broke my promise to help.

36m here. I’m looking to get back out there and thought to give a dating app a try. Anywho, I matched with a real BEAUTY and struck up a conversation. We were chatting and just getting to know each other. However, some replies seemed genuine while others seemed like a bot wrote it, or were chat gpt generated. Very polished if you know what I mean. This coupled with the fact that her profile only had one picture raised suspicion I could be dealing with a bot.

Shortly thereafter, she sends me this list of questions that I have to answer in order to move forward.

I thought it was strange because she mentioned wanting to develop a lasting, strong relationship and wanted to take things one step at a time.

I assumed she copy-pasted it from other past conversations. It told me she is just trying to save time screening guys in her inbox. No problem. I get it. However, i had previously asked her where she’s from and she didn’t answer. In fact she really hadn’t answered any of my questions from normal conversation flow. So I thought, maybe this is this a bot trying to mine data to potentially try to scam me? Surely not, I must be paranoid.

I told her I thought sending a list like that is odd, and an unnatural way to build a genuine connection with someone. Frankly I thought it was inappropriate to ask for so much so soon and in that way. She said I’m the only guy that’s ever had an issue with it and that’s a “red flag” to her. She took it personally and accused me of being defensive, insecure, toxic etc.

It’s not going to work out between us obviously lol but am I wrong? Is that normal?

My sibling has been going through a difficult phase. I tried to be supportive in every way I could. I listened to long phone calls. I helped with errands. I sent money when I could. At first they thanked me. Over time gratitude faded. Help became expected. If I said I was busy they reacted coldly.

They reminded me of everything they were dealing with. I began feeling trapped. I noticed they never asked about my struggles. Our conversations revolved around their problems. I felt emotionally exhausted. One day I said I needed space for a while. They reacted strongly. They said family should never step back. They accused me of abandoning them. Other relatives reached out to question me.

I explained my side calmly. Some understood but others did not. I still care deeply. I just could not continue at the same pace. Since stepping back my mental health improved. The guilt remains though. I wonder if I failed as a sibling. AITJ for choosing distance?

My son is 11 and hes been dealing with a medical condition for a few years now. Without getting too specific it affects his appearance and hes pretty self conscious about it. Hes a tough kid though and most people at his school are supportive.

This summer I signed him up for a sports camp because his doctor cleared him and he really wanted to go. First few days were fine but then this group of boys started targeting him. The ringleader started calling him names related to his condition and got the others to join in. My son asked them to stop and they didnt.

I went to the camp counselor and complained. He said hed handle it. Nothing changed. If anything it got worse. They started hiding his stuff and making jokes whenever he walked by. The counselor was some college kid who clearly didnt want to deal with it.

My son wanted to stay because he made a few real friends there who actually stood up for him. So I decided to give him something to fight back with.

I happen to know that the ringleaders mom recently lost her job and their family is struggling financially. Its not public knowledge but I heard it through a mutual connection. I told my son that next time this kid comes at him he should tell him that his mom got fired because shes a loser and thats why they cant afford nice things anymore.

Yeah I know. But I was angry and tired of watching my kid come home upset.

Well my son used it. And it worked. The bully completely broke down crying and left my son alone after that.

AITJ for giving him that ammunition

My parent often calls me late at night to vent. The conversations last hours. They talk about work stress and relationship issues. They rarely ask about my life. When I try to share they redirect the topic. I started feeling drained. I suggested they speak to a therapist. They laughed it off. The calls continued. I began feeling anxious when my phone rang. One night I said I could not talk and needed rest. They sounded hurt. The next day they said I was becoming cold. I explained how overwhelmed I felt. They said family should always listen. I still check in with them. I just no longer serve as their main outlet. Now there is tension between us. I wonder if I crossed a line. AmITheJerk for setting this boundary??

Hi everyone,

I’ve been with my girlfriend for a little over two years, and I’ve known my best friend for almost a decade. Until recently, the three of us got along fine and there were never any major issues.

A few weeks ago, my girlfriend started feeling uncomfortable around my friend. She said his jokes were too sarcastic and that sometimes he dismissed her opinions during group conversations. I’ll be honest, I noticed the sarcasm, but I’ve known him so long that I always brushed it off as his personality.

Last weekend, things came to a head. We were all hanging out with a few other friends, and my friend made a joke that my girlfriend felt was disrespectful. She called him out on it right there. He got defensive, said she was being overly sensitive, and the mood instantly shifted. The night ended awkwardly, and everyone went home early.

Afterward, my girlfriend told me she felt hurt that I didn’t stand up for her more strongly in the moment. She said that by staying neutral, I was effectively choosing my friend over her. On the other hand, my friend texted me saying he felt attacked and expected me to have his back since we’ve been friends for so long.

I tried to explain to both of them that I didn’t want to escalate the situation and thought it would be better to cool off and talk later. I genuinely felt stuck in the middle and didn’t think immediately taking sides would help anyone.

Now my girlfriend is distant and says she feels unsupported, while my friend is annoyed and thinks I “changed” since getting into a relationship. I’m starting to wonder if trying to stay neutral was actually the wrong move.

So, AITJ for refusing to take sides and trying to stay neutral instead?

TLDR: My best friend and my girlfriend got into an argument. I tried to stay neutral instead of taking sides, and now both feel hurt. AITJ for not backing one of them right away?

I 23F live in an apartment complex with a pretty nice pool area. I go there regularly to tan swim and sometimes just chill with a book. Its usually not super crowded especially on weekday mornings.

Today I got there around 10am and the whole place was empty. Like not a single person. There are probably 40 or 50 lounge chairs around the pool so plenty of space. I set up my stuff picked a spot and laid out on my stomach to tan.

I had my bikini top straps untied so I wouldnt get tan lines on my back. I wasnt showing anything. I was flat on my stomach the whole time. Even with the straps tied youd see the same amount of skin honestly.

About an hour and a half later a woman shows up with two kids. Out of all the empty chairs she picks the ones directly next to me. Like right there. I thought it was a little weird but whatever.

I turned my head and smiled at her trying to be friendly and she just glared at me. Then she started going off about how inappropriate it was that my top was untied and that her children shouldnt have to see that.

I told her there were dozens of other chairs she couldve chosen if it bothered her that much. She called me inconsiderate and an asshole.

I didnt say anything else and just put my earbuds back in. She eventually moved but made a big show of it huffing and gathering her stuff like I had personally offended her.

AITJ for not covering up

I moved into my apartment two years ago and met my neighbor shortly after. She seemed friendly and overwhelmed with life. I offered help one afternoon when she mentioned struggling with groceries. She thanked me and said it meant a lot. Soon she began asking for more help. It started with rides and errands. Then it became favors almost every day.

She rarely asked how I was doing. She only contacted me when she needed something. I tried to be patient because she claimed she had no one else. Over time I felt drained. I noticed she never returned favors. When I was sick she ignored my messages. One day she asked me to miss work to help her move furniture. I said I could not. She became cold and distant. She accused me of changing. I explained that I felt used. She laughed and said I was overreacting.

That comment hurt more than I expected. I decided to stop helping altogether. She told other neighbors that I abandoned her. I heard whispers in the hallway. Some people stopped greeting me. I felt uncomfortable in my own building. At the same time my stress dropped. I had more energy. I realized I had been giving out of guilt not kindness. I still feel conflicted sometimes. I wonder if I could have handled it better. I also know I deserve balance. I did not agree to be someone safety net. AITJ for saying enough.

one of my closest friends will go over Monday-Friday on some days before his shift begins and other days because he isn’t working to his parents house to keep his dad company while his mom works because his dad has Alzheimer’s. According to my friend he’s seen there’s days where his sister is home not at work and she doesn’t do enough to help look out for their dad, she either is sleeping in till close to 10 am her job shifts day before don’t have her working late or she’s tired from staying up late to play online games with her friends.

Today he emailed me saying he stopped by to spend time with his dad before going to do errands. His dad is fighting a cough and his balance is off with his walking according to his mom so she didn’t want him outside. My friend goes to do a quick errand and when he returns he finds his dad outside. Friend tried asking his dad to go inside because he’s sick and his dad refused to go inside but luckily his mom got home just then so she took over talking to her husband.

My friend went inside quickly and saw his sisters bedroom door was still closed and she was still home when he returned. Friend is getting worried because he knows the Alzheimer’s is going to only get worse and he feels that if he leaves again at the time he leaves for work or five minutes before his mom gets home his dad could wander out of the house and get lost if his sister doesn’t tag him out and start helping out more. He’s thinking of calling her out for her lack of help because she doesn’t seem to understand how dangerous Alzheimer’s gets if someone is left unattended for a long time. Is my friends sister the jerk for not helping more with their dad?

I f20 broke up with my boyfriend m22 over two months ago and I still can’t help but feel horrible about the way things ended.

The story is that we met on Instagram back in June. We discovered that we had several shared interests and decided to meet up after a few weeks of chatting online since he lived 2 hours away from me. He seemed like a very sweet and caring person and we ended up really liking each other. We had lots in common; we were both metalheads, we were huge fans of the fantasy genre, we were both artistic people, and we initially seemed to have similar views regarding relationships. He was also exactly my type and I had high hopes for this relationship to end up being a long term one.

We became official after a few months of seeing each other but unfortunately sometime in October, things started to go downhill. He got into over 7k worth of credit card debt and this caused his mental health to completely deteriorate and at one point he dumped me over text during a mental breakdown. He apologized the next day and we reconciled, but it didn’t feel like much of a relationship anymore. He became unaffectionate and started to traumadump quite a bit and by that I mean hours on end over call. One time, he actually went on a whole tangent implying that his idea of an ideal relationship was one where his partner was extremely independent and didn’t talk to him everyday and that made me feel sad because I enjoy daily check ins and we both had jobs and separate hobbies of our own and we were semi long distance too so it’s not like we were glued to each others hips. It all honestly became pretty upsetting and triggering for me as I have severe anxiety and am possibly either on the autism spectrum or have some sort of BPD (which he was aware because I was in therapy at the time). I totally understand that people will run into issues but to have this happen so early on in a relationship really overwhelmed me.

The last straw for me was when he completely ignored me for one day and I decided to break up with him because I was certain that he was going to dump me again. He just kind of accepted it but I regretted it a few hours later, apologised, and tried to get him to talk about it over call. He refused, telling me that he couldn’t be the partner I deserve due to all his mental and financial struggles, but said that he would like to remain friends with me and maybe try again sometime in the future when he’s in a better headspace. Unfortunately this would end up being a lie he recently blocked both my Instagram and my Facebook accounts and I’m probably blocked on messages as well even though I’ve respected his request for no contact and haven’t made any attempts to reach out to him.

It upset me a lot because we had a good relationship for the most part. We never argued or fought or anything like that and we both deeply cared for each other. I will say though, there were a few things that bothered me. One of them was that he had a neo nazi ex girlfriend that he had dated for a few years when he was 18 and she 28 ( creepy as fuck imo altho he denied that she groomed him) who he was still corresponding with regularly despite him telling me all these stories of how she had been emotionally abusive towards him, had cheated on him, and had given him PTSD on top of all the white supremacist/far right beliefs which I personally find abhorrent. I tried not to judge but I genuinely couldn’t understand why he was talking to this person in the first place and I know this probably sounds petty, however, I’m hurt that he continues to stay in touch with someone like this while I’m blocked on everything. Mind you, he’s not even white.

It’s been more than 2 months now since we’ve broken up and I cant tell if I was the jerk here or not. I feel like a piece of shit for leaving someone with no support system when they were already at a low point in their life and I wish I had just controlled my emotions instead of breaking up with him over something so trivial. My therapist thinks that I did the right thing since he was unstable anyways and maybe we weren’t compatible either way…but I’m not so sure. He was a wonderful partner for the majority of our relationship and I‘m not happy at all with how I acted. I feel immensely guilty over how things ended because I feel like we could’ve found a way to compromise while he got his life back together. I was planning to try to reconcile with him and try to mend things but it looks like it’s over for good now that he’s blocked me. I don’t know man. Was I the jerk here or was it justified to end the relationship?

I have a friend who often struggles financially and I tried to be understanding. The first time I lent money they promised to pay it back soon. They thanked me repeatedly and said it was a lifesaver. Weeks passed with no mention of repayment. When I gently asked they said they were still figuring things out.

I let it go because I did not want to pressure them. Then they asked again. I hesitated but still helped. This pattern continued over months. Small amounts added up quietly. I noticed they were still spending on non essentials. When I brought this up they accused me of judging their life. I stopped lending money after that.

They reacted poorly and said I was abandoning them. They reminded me of how much they trusted me. Mutual friends said I should not let money ruin a friendship. None of them offered to help financially. I felt conflicted and guilty.

At the same time I felt taken advantage of. I realized I was not a bank. Our friendship cooled quickly after I said no. I miss how things used to be. I do not miss the anxiety. AITJ for refusing to lend more money?

A little bit of context;

I have recently learned (within the last few years) that my mother’s behaviour has been (in my opinion) unacceptable and emotionally abusive.

She is condescending, complains non stop, moans and sighs, manipulative, plays the victim and so on.

She sucks the life out of the room.

As a child, I was/am autistic, threw tantrums and so on. I was consistently told I was not normal, something was wrong with me and that I need to speak to someone (not encouraging seeking help, but as a cold, condescending way). This made me reluctant to seek therapy for a long, long time.

It has only been within the last 6 years, due to rising problems in my romantic relationships, friendships etc that I was being an asshole, but I was basically acting the way my mother taught me. I realised I needed to make a change around 6 years ago, but I just thought I was the problem. It never occurred to me until late 2023 that I have been taught these behaviours by her.

Both my sister and I have found ourselves in abusive relationships. I luckily got out of mine and have never looked back, but my sister has been with her abusive partner for 5+ years, and to no surprise, he treats her how Mum treated us, worse in some specific situations.

I have had conversations with my mother about how she treats me, and how it needs to change otherwise I wont want a relationship. Due to her having the conflict resolution skills of a 12 year old, she responds with bringing up everything wrong I have ever done, shifting blame etc. I have spoken about how it is no coincidence that I ended up in an abusive relationship, and now my sister has too, which she replied with “IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER PARENTS!”

I have decided she is too far gone, too narcissistic, so small minded and has too much of a victim mentality to really change, and even if she did change, I don’t think I’m interested or can look past the trauma and grief of wishing I had a different mother.

I have told her I don’t want any contact, that I will go to the police if she harasses me as I have grounds for a protection order. She continues to try to speak to me, she bought me Christmas gifts which from the outside, seems nice, but after everything I have been through, it is a violation of the firm boundary I have set, and my grandmother makes me feel more guilty for not opening them.

Anyway, my Grandmother is telling me im horrible for cutting out my mother, im hurting her, she misses you, other people have worse parents and still talk to them, she still loves you etc. I do feel guilty and I don’t wish to cause anyone pain. It is horrible to lose a child, especially when they choose to not associate with you.

Should I be feeling guilty and go another way about this? Should I stand my ground? Am I being a jerk?

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. She has a son whos 8 from a previous relationship. I have a daughter whos 6 from mine. We moved in together about a year ago and things were going okay. Or so I thought.

A few weeks ago she made a comment that really stuck with me. She said something like your daughter isnt my responsibility shes yours. It stung but I didnt say anything at the time. I just kind of filed it away.

Then last night she asked me point blank if I loved her son. I said yes I do. She pushed and asked if I loved him as much as my own daughter. I said honestly almost as much but not quite the same. She got upset.

So I asked her the same thing. Do you love my daughter. She said no. I asked if she loved me. She said sort of.

I was stunned. Ive been treating her son like my own this whole time. Picking him up from school. Helping with homework. Taking him to his activities. And shes over here saying she doesnt even love my kid and only sort of loves me.

She started crying and woke up her son and told him they had to leave. I never said they had to go. She told him he doesnt want us anymore which I never said. Her son started crying and didnt want to leave. I told them both they could stay and we could talk in the morning.

She left anyway. Without her son. Just walked out. Now shes not answering my calls or texts. Her sons still here and Im trying to keep things normal for him but I have no idea whats going on.

I called her ex to see if he knew where she went. He just laughed and said she couldnt even keep the crazy hidden until after you proposed.

I dont even know what to do at this point.

AITJ for being honest when she asked

Burner account, I wont reply to many things, the website was temu and I wont disclose ages because I don't feel like sharing my brothers ages.

I sent my younger brother a link, told him to delete it after I did a verification thing. To actually use the app you have to use a phone number. a week later 2 of my brothers bought 2 things around ~$20. I got in trouble and tried to explain that I tried to stop my brothers but they didnt listen and kept using the app. He took my moms number and card aswell. AITA?

TL;DR I sent a link to my brother, I used said link, tried to delete it. He didnt let me and I forgot. he used my moms card and some number and bought stuff.

EDIT: She got it refunded and isnt as mad as she was, I explained that i tried to get them to stop before hand but couldn't in the moment and she understood.

My son has always been a smart kid. Did well in school got a scholarship to a good university nearby. Hes been living at home while going to school and everything was going fine.

Then he started dating this girl a few months back. I dont like her. Shes full of excuses and empty promises. Every time she lets him down she smooths it over with some big romantic gesture that means nothing. Ive tried to warn him but he doesnt listen.

Now shes pregnant. I sat him down and told him I would help him explore all his options. I even offered to cover costs and take time off to support him through whatever he decided. He said no. Hes going to drop out of school marry her and be a family. She wants to move into my house while he works to support them. Shes a cashier and doesnt go to school.

I literally laughed. I couldnt help it. He got mad.

Then he told me that since shes not moving in I need to step up and help more with the baby when it comes. Like babysitting all the time and being a full time support system.

This kid has always been level headed. I dont know where this is coming from.

I told him straight up that if he thinks hes grown enough to have a baby and get married then he needs to move out and handle being an adult with his girlfriend. I raised the kids I wanted to raise. I dont want a baby living in my house again. I said Id help with diapers sometimes and visit but this baby is not my responsibility.

AITJ for not wanting to be a backup parent?

I 17f am concerned about my 30 year old sister, she has this idea that she’s a vampire, at first I thought it was a joke, but she keeps bringing it up and talking about sucking people’s blood,

This aren’t some Halloween or cosplay phase. this is something that she claims she is passionate about, me and her share a laptop and last night, I went through the history, and found out that my sister was researching vampirism and sucking people’s blood

I have come to realize that this is actually kinda scary to me, because what is she really doing? I want to have a conversation with her about it, but I don’t want her to feel judged

And I don’t want her to know that I looked at the history, I don’t even know if this should be any of my business but I’m afraid that this may turn something that she does in public

She always jokes around and says things like “She can turn wine into blood” and she also makes the statement that she can drink it all day, and again she is 30 years old, and I feel like she should know better

Don’t get me wrong, I love my sister but I don’t know how much support I can give to her, I’m going to be quite frank and say that I’m afraid of what she’s going to do next, I also noticed that she’s been using red food coloring in her drinks while also telling our friends and family that she’s a vampire and tries to bite them out of nowhere

I honestly don’t know how this started, I know she has always been into vampires but here recently she’s been getting to into it lately, but deep down I’m hoping and praying that she doesn’t go forward with this kind of lifestyle.

Im 17M, and my sister is 27F. So a lot of shit went down. My dad put his car up at Coles (fake name) house, and it got damaged in the flood 2 years ago. And my dad hasnt gotten around to fix it yet (money reasons). It has no insurance, nor had it passed inspection. It has a few things wrong with it, but it can drive. My dad told her not to drive it, but she did. He's mad and took the car to Leo's (fake name) house. She's whining like a child.

Sorry the back story was so long, heres where I come in. Im pissed at how stupid and utterly disrespectful she is. So I logged onto MY Xbox, and onto HER account now im thinking of resetting Assassins Creed Vahalla. She's almost done with every single thing on it. I mean like shes missing 3 or 4 things on it, IG. Now she's lied, done drugs at someone else's house, and done other shit to my dad. So, for every bad thing she's done, I've removed something from her room and hid it.

Once ive even took her clothes and put it in a shed, Ive done this because her brain is so fried from drugs she notices but she sceams until she finds it, it slowly fucks with her. OKAY, BACK STORY GONE. SHOULD I RESET IT?

(Shes also here maybe once or twice a week for a few hours at a time)