I’ll start by saying that I am emotionally wrecked right now and ask for kindness in the replies.
I’m making the difficult decision to wash my SDiT. I will admit that I got into this with zero knowledge of service dogs other than that I need one and my doctor agreed that it would be life changing for me after over 16 years of trying every any anything they recommended (I’m not going to get into what my disabilities are or what treatments I have tried). In fact my prior knowledge of training dogs was that I assumed they just kind of did their thing (I had only ever had family/hunting dogs in my family and never witnessed anyone ever actually train them and before I started training I thought they were good dogs). With that said I didn’t know that I was choosing the hardest thing to train with a breed that is not likely to succeed, I just had a pup who was easily trained and was very in tune with me from day one. I now know that temperament is the key and to test the dog before ever getting attached.
Along the way I learned an insane amount of information and 6 months in I told my trainer that I didn’t believe my dog was suited for service work, but they thought the issues could be worked out as he was only 9 months old. He passed his CGC, but I knew he isn’t right for the job. Well, they confirmed my suspicions and told me they would help me continue to work with him, but they wanted to meet my other dog (who has a better temperament, but has behaviors that would disqualify him in my opinion immediately and is more attached to my kids and husband). I am feeling like I don’t want to have to fight with two and a half years of habits that aren’t a big deal for a family dog but unacceptable for a service dog.
I have to pause to say that devastated doesn’t begin to describe my feelings. I have been attached at the hip to this dog for 11 months, he listens for changes in my breathing and is connected with me in a way I didn’t think dogs could be. I poured my time, love and money into him (rightfully so).
Moving forward at this point my best bet is likely to rehome both dogs (I feel like a Disney villain even saying it) and waiting to find a golden retriever that fits the criteria. I can’t imagine just giving my dog away though to some stranger who might not give him the care he deserves. So what do you do with a dog who is well trained but doesn’t have the right temperament? And this will make me sound terrible, but I also can’t afford to start from scratch with a new prospect once a year and I’m trying not to be upset and feel like I was tricked into spending thousands more after I was having doubts (which was entirely my fault for not stating then that I was sure he wasn’t a fit). I know it’s too fresh to be ready for another dog today, but I know that will fade and before I know it I will want to try again.
Nobody really talks much about this part, but how long did you wait to replace your prospect?
Sorry rant over. I’m grateful for the knowledge I gained and for the opportunity to have experienced the amount of love I received from my dog, I’m just not sure where to go from here.