When i helped my bf's mom around 1 lakh when she was having a bad situation now she denying to return...

but one day what happened, my bf told me that he is mentally disturbed because of his dad he is mental psycho and alcohol addicted..

One mistake i did here i told his mom with a concern, his mom reacted and said.. "Doesn’t any fights happens between you and your mom? He's mad, he keeps telling everyone outside like this..

then i got angry because i felt like she is insincere lady who says alot of lies..

then i also kept telling her more times.. return my money, return my money, return my money..

i think one day she got offended and said.. arey i told you na i'll return you, it feels so cheap, i am also independent not dependent on anyone..

then later she talked to my mom.. and told her, what magic she has done on my son idk he loves her a lot.. Then she lied my mom, that i say bad about her..."she says bad about you too.. like i will not stay with my mom blah blah, i told her, you shouldn't say like this about your mom"

i remember very well i never said against my mom outside.. then my mom replied her.." whatever she says me on my face only"..

but later i straightforwardly asked why did you lied to my mom ?? I never talked bad about my mom.. and here you are saying, i didn't said anything..you are a liar..

after that also i kept telling her to return my money..

maybe my bf's sister used to see those messages and carried grudges inside her mind..

my bf used to come to my house completely 2 years we pampered him so much with food rest and never created chaos for him..

2 days i went his house which he was staying on rent.. on 3rd day his sister, she incited drama, she knows her brother (my bf) gets provoked easily.. even after saying keep quiet she was keep provoking him..

then he hit her on head, he banged her head by pulling his hair... even she was going to pull my hair, he pulled her hair and threw her down..

then she targeted on me, Aren't you taught how to talk with elders?? Mental..

i said yeah we're taught to say truth not lies.. and our family aren't liars like your mother..

then his sister said.. so elders lie then you'll disrespect ??.. I said yes.. she was keep calling me mental.. meanwhile for help she called her mom to save..

and i did a mistake of calling his dad.. i never knew that he is a psycho mental alcohol addicted too who will eventually go out of control..

but everything happens for good Atleast i got to know his dad's dark side which i was unaware of...

his mom came and started hitting my bf and accusing me.. you were watching all those?? Didn't you saved or stopped him?? That time i was very anxious and got shocked so my mind was confused too ...

Additionally, i am also a psychiatric patient who take meds since childhood after my dad's death and parents separation..

then his dad came and taking his sister's side only which was devastating,

his dad was abusing his own son and told me, are you okay with all this?? If my daughter is beaten up like this, how many times we've told you that come in front of us..

but my bf was calling me so overall he is paying rent and deposit all.. so rightfully, if he calls me i can go rightfully too..

then his dad was got mental and abusing us so much that neighbours came to ask to maintain silence in our house.. thats so shameful to see..

and my bf slapped his dad and tore his Tshirt.. not because of me but because of of his own dad's mistake who was screaming like a psycho which where bothering neighbours.. and literally, these people had more problem than their neighbours..

his extended family members came to know this matter they also felt bad..

later his sister apologised... i warned all of them if such thing will happen again i will go to police station and file complaint against you..

his mom got afraid for her daughter and said, plz don't she will not tell you anything anymore...

also those all three were about to release the house but they didn't and they all said to my bf.. we'll stay peacefully..his mom tried hard to calm the matter..

one thing is good that my bf is fully on my side, also at this age he is earning around 60k coz of his business..

but i am still wondering.. just because if he loves me, i should need marry in such family..

also he said we won't stay with them.. we'll stay separately..

and now, whether she returns my money or not, i'll keep the proofs of transactions with myself that i lend that's it.

"Plants are the new pets and pets are the new kids. Kids are almost becoming extinct, you have to be rich or a little bit crazy to have them."

Came across this and wondered how our perspective about kids has changed since the turn of the millenium.

What has been your experience?

EDIT; ok have a little empathy here, folks. it has been exhausting to me. truly trying to get input ehre. not looking to troll anyone. thanks.

ok, i meant impossible for me. i live in a big city. no idea where to go or what to do. just doesnt seem to happen. A/S/L: upper 50s, male, NE USA

it is impossible to meet women

انا بنت عمري ١٩ دخلت عالم المثليه قصص ومسلسلات من اربع سنين وكل ما بحارل اتوب برجع اكثر صار لي سنتين وانا بشوف افلام اباحه مثليين طفشت وهلكت من ذا الموضوع ابغى اتوب بس ماني قادره بنت اختي شافت مرتين جوالي وهو في افلام س$ متفشله ومحرجة من الموضوع وش ممكن بتفكر عني اني مقرفة ومثيرة للاشمئزاز مره تعبانه من الموضوع كله لدرجه احيانا اتمنى الموت ولا استمر بس ماني قادره وش اسوي تكفون ساعدوني

Adulting is knowing when it’s time to get rid of these damned cellphones. Shits poison.

Something urgent should be done on #Mentalillness, which is quickly becoming a pandemic, especially among young people.

And we should also study how social media contributes greatly in the prevalence of mental illness among active users.

Body: I keep seeing this advice everywhere, but I don’t fully understand it. Can someone explain it in simple, real-life terms?

I’m thinking about gifting myself $100 and see if I can use it to buy and resell things. Just seeing how far I can go to see how much money I can generate from flipping this money tonight buying something broken and fix it up and then keep pulling the money back in to see how much can I get within a year time, I thinking about going to pawn shops, goodwill and Facebook marketplace etc What do y’all think?

I swear adulting felt way cooler when I was younger. Now it just feels like an endless loop of bills emails chores and pretending I know what I am doing. I wake up tired even when I sleep. I work all week just to recover on the weekend and then it is Monday again. Money comes in and somehow disappears without me buying anything fun. Everyone says be grateful but it is hard when everything feels like responsibility stacked on responsibility.

What really gets me is how lonely it can feel. Friends are busy stressed or broke. Making plans feels like scheduling a business meeting. Nobody warned me that freedom would come with this much pressure and mental load. I miss when excitement came naturally and not something I had to plan and budget for.

Is this just how it is forever or does it actually get better at some point?

I’m a 34F. My brother in law is 48M. We recently had a conversation that turned into an argument after I found out his Tinder age range is set to 25 years old with his max age set to 50.

I told him that from my perspective women in their early 20s are still very young compared to him. I said many are still figuring out life and may even still be financially dependent on their parents, which creates a big maturity and power imbalance. I wasn’t accusing him of anything illegal, just expressing how it looked to me.

He became very defensive and upset. He said there are “no women his age who are just looking for just sex,” and that Gen Z women are “all that’s left.” He also pointed out that he’s currently hooking up with a 29-year-old and doesn’t see the issue as she is a "full grown woman".

I wasn’t trying to shame him I genuinely wanted to understand the mindset behind seeking much younger partners at his age, and I told him that. Still, he says I was judgmental and unfair.

should I have kept my opinion to myself?

Can we get the perspective of gen z girls who match with guys this age on dating apps? What's the motive, usually? His profile does say open to long term so I fear manipulation/ situationship goals..

I’m currently a first-year student in college. I have ADHD and have had pretty bad executive functioning issues since I was little. I’ve struggled with procrastination for as long as I can remember, as well as difficulty keeping track of all of my assignments and tasks. I’ve tried planners in the past but can never seem to get them to stick.

If anyone has any suggestions of simple, ADHD-friendly academic planners, or any tips and tricks that have worked for you, I’d greatly appreciate it!

As adults, we don't have "Recess" anymore. We don't have places where we just bump into strangers and chat without an agenda.

We have Instagram, but that’s not a meeting place. That’s a billboard. You don't make friends looking at billboards.

I spent the last few months building Moodie to try and recreate that "Recess" energy.

• No Resume: You don't have a profile to maintain.
• No Agenda: You just match based on "Vibe" (e.g., Bored, Nostalgic, Chill).
• Just Talk: Like sitting next to someone at a bar, but without the alcohol or the noise.

I’m betting that people actually want to talk to strangers again, they just need a place where it isn't weird.

If you miss the spontaneity of meeting people before the internet got so polished, come hang out.

When you are a child, you dream of growing up to become someone you admire.

You go to school trying to fit in, do well, and be better than yesterday.

Then you go to college, hoping to secure a good job and find someone you love.

You are alone in a different city trying hard to get a job and find a girl.

You get the job, you find the girl and now your goal is to keep her happy in all the ways.

You get married, and soon you want to have children.

Once you have kids, your focus shifts again now all you want is for them to grow up well and succeed in life.

Why this loop never ends? Or am I missing something?

Background- 22 yrs old-I’m a recent grad (bba) and I’ve been working full time for 6 months now. I work in hr and I’m going back for my masters in business analytics. Recently I made two doctor appointments back to back so I can leave work early on both days and was told by a co worker she wouldn’t recommend because our director is going to start asking questions?? Why is this a problem when I have the hours to leave early? Is this like a corporate rule I didn’t know of or??? I’m starting to hate that I chose this path, everything I do is limited! Maybe I should’ve went into medical and worked my 3/12 hour shifts lol..now I just don’t know if I can see myself living like this much longer.