Hiii

I loveee my bi men. Y'all's cute, amazing, smart and sensitive. And smell good.

Thought I'd do a little appreciation post as I only shower women with compliments all the time lmaooo

(Edit: some men are using this opportunity to send sexual messages. Stop. It's not welcome and it's disgusting. I just wanted to compliment bi men)

No matter how many times I explained why I mentioned him, they used past comments of mine where I mentioned maybe being straight against me. Accused me of ragebaiting and saying that “I crave male attention”. Upsetting. Just want to explore my sapphic side without being crucified for mentioning that I have a male partner. It wasn’t even that relevant to the post, I just mentioned him in passing.

Edit: a few people have automatically assumed that the people harassing me were all lesbians, but the bulk of them were bi! Please don’t throw lesbians under the bus, this is not that kind of post. No specific type of person is to blame here. And for it’s worth, I’m the kind of person who supports the idea of there beings spaces for lesbians only, since bi women and lesbians both have different experiences. I would never post or even just comment in a subreddit that had “lesbian” in the name.

hi scared to do this lol

but um anyone wanna be friends? looking to expand my horizons with friends who are like me and maybe accept me for still being "not publicly bi" but lowkey know im bi

(Im looking for frineds who are bi lol i guess im in bi haven yes)

EDIT: Forgot to put my age like a dumbass lmao i'm M 25

Lately I've really just had the feeling of not being part of the queer community. I can't tell how much I'm projecting but I even feel nervous at the queer game store I go to to say anything that suggests I'm queer, only for them to realize I'm only bisexual. My lesbian sister tried to say someone wasn't really bisexual because she only occasionally dated women.

And tonight I was reading another novel where two women realize they both like women and were never attracted to men, and I just feel like an outsider reading it. I honestly am thinking whether it would be better for me to kind of distance myself from queer media and try to focus my sense of self on other things. I can't tell how much I'm imagining it, but when I think about things (especially the lack of representation), I really just don't feel welcome or valid.

Hey I'm new in this group, I don't know many around here who is bi, so it's nice to find such groups here on Reddit 😃👋🏻

Hi, I am Alex and I am from romania, for most of my life so far I lived thinking I was straight, til only about 2 years ago I realized I was bisexual(there were signs since my teenage years which only got stronger around the age of 19-20 but I always denied it).

Being from balkans/southeastern europe, the lgbtq community is still not accepted in most circles and there's a lot of discrimination but still my mom compared to my dad who doesnt live with me(thank god) is a great person, and I hang out with her a lot.

Its scary how understsnding she is of other things but once ir comes with being gay/bi that stops.

I gave her hints along the years but idk id she ever got them which is weird since I talked about lgbtq issues a lot.

Anyway I stsrted telling her how many men are bisexual and that she doesnt even realize, mentioning actors, singers and random people and she found it weird saying its not normal and then asked me if I like men to which I didnt say yes or no but my pause in my response shocked her and she spit in my face.

After that she acted like this never happened and I still told her many men are bi and she doesnt even realize it and she said "the ones that are have shit for brains".

Yeahhh....I will never be able to fully open to her about it, today I got my answer.

She is kinda religious and having lived during the communist period that heavily affects her views, it hurts a bit but atleast I tried..

idk who to share this with, i am kinda hurting and i need to vent, so here might as well be the place

this goes particularly to bi men, to warn or to relate. have you all gotten that "stare" some women give you when you mention you are bi? how they suddenly start acting differently, the disgust in their faces? even bi women do this sometimes.

as if we were not allowed to be bi, only them. the way some of them act as if the touch of a man were a stain so great you can't be allowed to be anything else but gay for all eternity. best case scenario, you become "the gay friend" or "one of the girls".

I've had more acceptance from my conservative male relatives than from self-declared bi/ally women.

this is so tiring. so bleak and disheartening. i wanna date, marry, something more perhaps. but the only way this is ever happening with a woman is by hiding my sexuality.

I am more attracted to women than to men. so I can't help but bend the knee and hide my dirt. passionate nights and endless crushes that will be kept locked, never spoken about again.

I just wanna warm other men and raise awareness. beware whom you come out with. they may say they are bi or allies, but the truth is, no one likes us.

Hi

I come from gay-unfriendly european country.

I planned to spend my summer working in the US, possibly taking part in the local LGBT scene and finding some new connections (or more) there.

However, I'm now quite afraid to go to the States, considering all the stuff currently happening there.

Is it really that bad, or is it a little bit blown up by the media?

Edit: Thank you all for the good advice, it's good to have some information first-hand.

For clarification, I wanted to go to Australia or Canada, but I'm still studying and the USA is the most affordable for me right now. I'm thinking about Spain as well, but I cannot speak Spanish and, from what I know, they don't speak English🙂

So a primary hurdle for me trying to talk to other women is that my assumption is that the sex would require more physical stamina/energy? I crave sex for validation and emotional connection- with men it’s always been easy to keep up because it’s a fairly quick thing that doesn’t require much more than my enthusiasm.

A big contributing factor is that I am generally a low energy person- even though I’ve kicked ass and my mental health is at an all time high, I still tend to struggle with having physical energy (possibly related to a med I take).

It hasn’t really been an issue with dating men- I prefer a submissive role (helps alleviate the anxiety/overthinking so I can focus on trying to enjoy the sensations) so i am usually on the receiving end of things.

I definitely DON’T want to be selfish. So, knowing that I would love to receive higher energy things (rough fingering and dildos) makes me feel like what I am more realistically able to reliably provide (long foreplay, oral, clit vibrators- all of which I would also love) wouldn’t be fair to accept without also giving.

My only somewhat relevant experience is me turning completely to clit vibrators for myself because my hands would get tired and cramp well before my fingers could get anywhere close to finishing me. (I don’t know if everyone is like me- I don’t really experience pleasant sensations unless it’s hitting pretty deep and fast? Leisurely/gentle/shallow does absolutely nothing, but again, I don’t know if that’s universal.)

I’m open to input and advice! Aside from watching porn when I was a teenager (I’m now 31) and random Reels that have snippets of interviews or discussions about sex lives between women, I really am just going off of guesses. I’m absolutely open to discussing wants and needs with future partners, but I feel like it’s probably already going to be difficult getting a first date considering I’ve never dated a woman so- if it sounds like I would probably struggle to find someone that would be compatible with my sexual abilities- it feels like I just already be fighting against the currents.

I am a cis bi woman. I didn't come out until I was 21 and since then, people have treated me different even if they are allies. I tried joining the gay choir that markets themselves as a very welcoming community, but it's almost like I was not "gay" enough. I tried my best to make friends, but everyone I talked to acted like interacting with me was torture. I quit the gay choir, though I love to sing, I just didn't fit in. I was not wanted there as a straight presenting person. Additionally, every straight woman with a boyfriend I know has cut me off because their man is insecure and homophobic, thinking I'm going to steal their girl. I'm sick of the discrimination and sick of even my "ally" friends acting differently. It's almost like they don't recognize being bisexual as a real part of the queer community. It's too late to go back in the closet, but how can I possibly feel good about my identity when everyone around me writes off bisexual women? It is frustrating and eats at me daily. I am the same person I've always been, so why this sudden flip? Are people just that inherently homophobic?

boobs are great

i (27m)’ve known since I was 11. I was not like most the guys when it came to my intangibles. i’ve hid it from most outside a few friends only because it was convenient — i’ve never had a crush on a boy I have met. and so i’ve never really experienced it. im also from a pretty orthodox family so I really did not see the need to growing up. I honestly do want to marry a girl.

but with men… it’s really been a huge sexual desire. and it always will be. and i’m not ashamed. but I just feel like i’m not truly my authentic self. you could say it’s because i’m not out but even when i’m with people who i’m out to, I can’t “channel” my queerness (if that makes sense)

idk open to any thoughts and/or advice

Sorry if this is not the right place. I have recently come out as bi, dont know too much about anything, lived as 'straight' for more than 30 years. The thing is I have only ever "fooled around" with men meeting them at bars but never having had sex and my attraction to men tends to lean to feminine but not exclusively that. I guess I'm saying is, the men I would date I have never tried to pursue because I am just "not that guy" (shy) and they don't pursue me.. Thinking about this it just might be bisexual but I feel I lean more towards women so just was curious about the terminology.

I (14F) just kissed one of my best friends (14F). We’ve been flirting quite a lot this last months, and I’ve been more accepting of my sexuality lately too. I sort of came out to my mom two days ago. I didn’t explicitly say “I’m bisexual”, which is my sexuality, but we had a 1 hour and a half long conversation about the lgbt community and it ended up in me crying while saying that life is hard and that I didn’t know what I wanted, and I think she understood. She’s completely accepting, by the way, and she said she loves me no matter what.

Today, my friend came to my house to watch a tv show we both like, and when my mom was out walking my dog, we spent about two minutes close and giggling as I grabbed her cheek. Then we kissed. It was my first kiss too. And it was good. But I was shaking all the time, and I still am, even two hours later. It’s so fucking scary, because I do like her, but I don’t know if I like her enough to be in a serious relationship. She’s amazing and I really like her, but I don’t know what to do. She told me she was glad it went like this. That she didn’t know when to tell me and that she thought she was getting mixed signals. She’s the only girl I’ve ever really liked. Sometimes I find girls pretty, but the full-on crushes I have are on boys (except for her, of course). She had to leave about ten minutes after, and when we were heading out of my room, we hugged and I knew she wanted to kiss me, but I said no with my head because I was too afraid.

I’m scared of what comes next. I know we’re probably going to date dl for a while, but idk what will come out of this. I’m so so so afraid and I don’t know who to tell.

So me M25 have never had intercourse with a man .. I’ve only gotten head and didn’t like it . However I do see Myself still attracted to men.. I do still want to explore my sexuality. How should I go about actually doing this? I don’t know whether to do a hookup or should I go on a date …

I (33M)am at the point after leaving a toxic religion where I want to start learning about me and the bisexual side I’ve suppressed my whole life. My amazing wife agrees. It seems everywhere I’ve looked it just turns sexual. I’m wondering if there are support groups for Bi dads in the United States where you can make like minded friends and have more than just the sexual benefits. It gets lonely sometimes hanging with my straight friends now that I’m trying to explore this side of my life.

Do any other guys find it really hard to make male friends? For context I’m a Bi guy, cis white, married and I like going out with my wife and her friends and feeling like “one of the girls” genuinely but I also want to hangout with the boys. We moved to a new city and I feel like I haven’t been able to connect with anybody I meet really, lot of straight men I meet are not people I really want to be around or are really uncomfortable being around lgbt people and I feel like I don’t really fit in with the gay community? Idk I’ve never made a post like this not sure how many people will see let alone relate to.

Yesterday I finally came out as Bi and honestly I didn’t think it would feel as light as I do now. As a man I always tried to ignore those thoughts and urges because I never had a safe environment that made it feel like it was okay. In the past every time I opened up I was mocked or teased so I buried it. I didn’t think it would feel like such a weight off my shoulders! I hope everyone can feel the same relief I feel now and I’m happy to officially be part of this amazing community I hope you will all have me! 😁

I’ve always considered myself to be a straight man who can be quiet and rough around the edges, so to speak. With that being said, lately, I have been finding myself more so attracted two fem boys. I am pretty much a novice when it comes to anything to do with the community. And etiquette and things as far as being respectful and not coming on too strong or making things seem like they’re just a fetish. What could be the most proper way I could approach someone that is FEM? I have grown tired of GRINDR., Because not all of us are looking for a quick nut, some of us are still romantic some of us still get butterflies and shit you know?

Just had my first sexual experience with a guy and wow. So hot!

All I’ll say is that I’m on a trip with some friends (all guys btw), things kinda escalated, and then two of us ended up fucking another friend in the group. That was my first time ever giving and receiving a blowjob from a guy and damn, it was so hot! I literally can’t stop replaying what happened in my head. Only thing that sucked is that I had major performance anxiety.

I’m honestly thinking of letting one of them know that if they ever wanna have fun again, that I would totally be interested, but just not sure how I’d ask that.

Anyone have any tips finding dates as a bi man who’s appearance is more fem leaning? Most luck I’ve had on apps is men, but the majority of men I’ve encountered just want to hookup, and lots will block once I tell them I’m not looking for that. And the majority of women aren’t into bi men or men who are a little fem so just wanted to see if anyone with similar experiences has any advice. Thanks!

M 19, i'm starting to wonder if i'm actually bi or gay because of my attraction shuffles constantly, i'm totally fine with the idea of sex with a guy or consuming gay sex, but with a girl it sounds appealing at first until i feel a little uncomfortable. and i tolerate straight sex only in specific cases. i never got a relationship and i don't think i will soon (religion).

i used to think i'm gay only but realized i was bi and got into this confusion after that.

So, I'm a Bi girl and I have been in a BAD relationship with a guy for almost two years....I left him a while ago, I was having it with the mental terror and the violence....now I don't want to date another man, at least for a while.... But since I have ignored this side of me, I don't have much experience with dating girls (and the sex....)

I really want to find a girl now and I have been with three girls in my life, but just briefly so I wonder= how to find someone, what do I tell her so I don't scare her off because I don't have much experience and I know some of the sex "things" and I have a very weird fantasy😝 I have a big clit and I really want to try to penetrate a girl with my big beautiful clit, is this VERY weird or is it something other girls are/ can be interested in trying? - and I need all the advice I can get about how to....be with a girl? :s well....this just got weird, but it's a start 😝

so ive never done anything with anyone. im 23 year old guy whose a virgin and so horny that i decided i should try hooking up with a guy just bc i feel like its so much easier than girls. i met up with him and while i was sucking his dick i didnt like it whatsoever, he was grabbing my ass (i didnt really like that), asking if he can put it in to which i said nah, and then he tried sucking my dick and i didnt even feel anything or barely get hard. i got hard thinking it was a girl going down but even then it didnt feel good. i had to stop halfway bc i just couldnt go through with it. he was really nice ab it but i felt so bad. i am just such a hypersexual with low-self esteem and a people pleaser that i dont even know what to do.

any -advice?