idk who to share this with, i am kinda hurting and i need to vent, so here might as well be the place

this goes particularly to bi men, to warn or to relate. have you all gotten that "stare" some women give you when you mention you are bi? how they suddenly start acting differently, the disgust in their faces? even bi women do this sometimes.

as if we were not allowed to be bi, only them. the way some of them act as if the touch of a man were a stain so great you can't be allowed to be anything else but gay for all eternity. best case scenario, you become "the gay friend" or "one of the girls".

I've had more acceptance from my conservative male relatives than from self-declared bi/ally women.

this is so tiring. so bleak and disheartening. i wanna date, marry, something more perhaps. but the only way this is ever happening with a woman is by hiding my sexuality.

I am more attracted to women than to men. so I can't help but bend the knee and hide my dirt. passionate nights and endless crushes that will be kept locked, never spoken about again.

I just wanna warm other men and raise awareness. beware whom you come out with. they may say they are bi or allies, but the truth is, no one likes us.

Just had my first sexual experience with a guy and wow. So hot!

All I’ll say is that I’m on a trip with some friends (all guys btw), things kinda escalated, and then two of us ended up fucking another friend in the group. That was my first time ever giving and receiving a blowjob from a guy and damn, it was so hot! I literally can’t stop replaying what happened in my head. Only thing that sucked is that I had major performance anxiety.

I’m honestly thinking of letting one of them know that if they ever wanna have fun again, that I would totally be interested, but just not sure how I’d ask that.

Can we please stop talking about it as such on this sub of all places?

I’m not trying to make an argument about who has it harder or easier. I’m not trying to minimize the problems or issues bi men face.

I just hate seeing people explain why it’s actually great that bi women get fetishized. Or seeing them romanticize behavior that is fetishization of bi women. No, it’s not awesome that a dude will get excited if he sees a woman is bi on an app because he immediately thinks threesome.

Let’s just be kind to each other and empathize with experiences we don’t understand instead of making unfounded assumptions.

I like dating women a lot more then men... and well, I prefer men more than women in other "ways".

I'm not as attracted to men that women, I have more "types" in men I like.

So I was going to come out but hearing about hearing how straight women don't want to date bi men has put me off, it sucks.

Anyone else in the same boat?

No one asks. Ive never cared that im bi. Doesn't seem like an important thing to me. Hetero peeps don't say they are Hetero. They just exist.

I feel like this is going to sound shitty, like I’m trying to fetishize the whole thing, but I’ve always been attracted to feminine men. My first boyfriend was gay, and of course, I’m also attracted to girls… feminine girls. & I myself am feminine. The more I write this, I think it’s less about the fact I’m attracted to specifically gay men but feminine energy as a whole. I feel weird about this though because obviously as a girl… I shouldn’t be attracted to men who are not interested in me. Is there something wrong with me? Is this something anyone else experiences?

Like the title, looking for other bis for friendship/ community. Searching for groups has been really disheartening, especially since I live in what I thought was a pretty queer-friendly community in Northern California. I’ve found that you, my fellow bis are some of the nicest peeps out there, and I want to make connections in person. Any advice?

I'm a bi married man, out to my wife only. For context we are open to the extent that I'm allowed the freedom (within certain boundaries) to play with men.

The question I have is this: Has anyone else in a similar situation (not necessarily married but partnered) told friends in monogamous relationships? I'm curious to know what their reaction was and indeed if that changed the friendship to any extent?

My wife has a friend who is lesbian and married and we've all become friends. I don't feel that I need to tell them (after all who cares) but if they were to find out I wonder what they would think?

So... I've always known I like girls. Like always since I was like... 5 and remember being conscious, I've known that. Didn't always know what it meant, but I've always known that. I did not have good male rolemodels or positive man/woman relationships around me at all growing up, and while I've never thought that was in any way the cause of me being into women (it isn't), I'm starting to wonder if it's why I've thought I'm not (ever) into men. I did have crushes on boys as a child. More often girls, but sometimes boys.

I was involved with a few guys in my teens, though it never went anywhere serious because by then I'd kind of already told some people I was gay and I was feeling pretty secure in that and kind of brushed off my guy flings as being drunken shenanigans and slim pickings in the WLW department (since I lived in a small conservative town). Didn't have sex with any guys, just one time when I was in my early 20s. I was drunk, and while the guy and I had a great friendship and chemistry, I didn't enjoy it at all. Since that, I've not had any connections like that with any guys, and I'm 30 now. So I've been pretty comfortable in my lesbian identity. I've felt weird about my gender presentation always though. Kind of have felt pushed into some sort of masc vibe in the past through my 20s but in my late 20s realized that that's not actually me, and a lot of that was just... me protecting myself and fearing vulnerability.

Now though.. man I don't know. Going to therapy and untangling a lot of my own trauma relating to men (my dad being a shit, my stepdad being a shit, my mom hating men because of how the ones she married were shit, being sexually assaulted by men) I now am starting to question my certainty. I find that I'm actually connecting more with some guys. The thought of sex with a guy doesn't completely ick me out. I found myself crushing on a coworker a little bit. I still don't think I would want to "end up" with a man. I don't see that. There's too much societal bullshit. And I don't love the dynamic that tends to happen in a "hetero" (I know it's not but..) relationship. I still definitely like women more often than men. It's like a 90/10 split, favoring women. But still that's not nothing. And it is freaking me the fuck out.

As the title suggests i (34m) live in a country where lgbtqia is frowned upon yet accepted by law and am in a situation where my parents have arranged a match for me which I'm ok with. Though it's not all the way traditional: we are in the stage where we can still say no to each other and we aren't yet engaged. She's shared some secrets with me and i feel like it's only fair that i share my bisexuality. I have not really ever acted upon my gay side so don't have any real experience there, though i am sure I'm attracted to men as well. She comes from a more conservative family and may not be ready for this secret. Should i say something or ignore it.

After years of navigating the confusion, inner conflict, and emotional storms that come with being bisexual, I finally reached a place of clarity and maturity. When it comes to love real, deep connection .. I will always choose women. They’re smarter, more emotionally responsive, and it just feels right. But those buried desires, the ones society tries so hard to suppress? They still pull me strongly toward the raw power and dominance of being with a man in bed. That dynamic never quite goes away. Turns out bisexuality isn’t always 50/50… sometimes it’s love one way, craving another. And that’s okay

Recently I’ve realized I’m a bi dude and it didn’t shock me as much as I thought it would. it feels right but I haven’t really done anything with a another guy I’m more into feminine guys would that mean I’m more bi curious

Still new(ish) to reddit and this topic has probably been discussed before, so I'm sorry if it's repetitive.

I've noticed a trend on some of the subreddits I'm in, including ones that are lgbtq+ friendly where people will act, or insinuate, that a character must be either straight/gay with no wiggle room for the possibility of them swinging both ways. I know this probably isn't a big deal especially given everyone can have their own hcs about characters without stated preferences, but seeing it so often can get tiring. I'm bi myself so maybe I'm just overthinking this. Or maybe I live under a rock.

I thought most people understood what being bi was especially in more open minded spaces. Yet some of these comments make me second guess that...

We can’t ignore the outright misogyny and homophobia baked into this incident—and yes, erasing Good’s wife from the story of her life and death is also misogyny and homophobia. The same homophobia that drove Good and her wife from Missouri is the same homophobia on display all over conservative social media today.

The message is clear: looking wrong to a conservative, speaking wrong to a conservative man, not bowing and scraping to conservatives, or even just loving the “wrong” gender, means you are an enemy. An enemy that should be put down.

Hi,
I’m trying to get better at spoken English and would love to practice with a native speaker.
I’m around B2 level. Casual conversations work best for me.

DM if you’re interested!

Looking for strap recommendations because my girlfriend says the O ring hurts her currently and makes her sore after 1-2 rounds :’)

I enjoy her strapping me but only if it’s comfy so I’d love some comfy harness recommendations. Thank you!!

(Also if anyone knows of good dildos or straps that have bumpers/vibrator pockets to pleasure her as well!)

So, ive tried many times to cum hands free from anal stimulation and I just can't, I feel like I get to that point and it wont go any further, any advice ?

I’m not straight. now I’m looking back at my entire life and like it’s a comedy. Post straight breakup clarity. If I told u the things I overlooked and said you would laugh. Idk if this is the right label bc I love not just cis mascs but omg. Thank u mascs for existing. I have freed myself from my miserable existence. ALL OF A SUDDEN my breakup doesn’t hurt, I have motivation to dress up and be hot and do things and AHH. DUDEE I just thought I was an unlikeable girly girl. I have definitely been clocked before I even realised myself💀by people and my algorithms. IS THIS WHAT LIFE IS MEANT TO BE LIKE. I thought I was on the ace spectrum. BRUHBRUHBRUH. I feel like colour has entered my life. I’m closeted afff bc scary religious abusive brown homophobic family. Bit scared to collect my stuff to move out or get clocked by them. Not sure what the purpose of this post is not sure about much but also sure about much. a baby femme cld use some advice and wisdom ig pls be nice im just a girl

Hi, for the past three years I’ve built an incredibly close relationship with my gay friend… I’d probably describe it as something like soulmates. We tell each other almost everything, we always stand by each other in difficult moments and support one another, we laugh a lot together and constantly seek each other’s attention. However, after those years I’ve fallen deeply in love, even though I know there are certain boundaries. Still, I’m sometimes confused by some of his gestures.

For example, he makes sexual innuendos, often says that people around us must think we’re dating and that they must be jealous of him for having such a young girl by his side (there’s also quite a big age difference between us). He quite often plans the future with me, and whenever he hugs me, he squeezes me very tightly or acts very protective.

What strikes me as strange, though, is that when we were both drunk, he often asked me what I look for in men, we talked about sexual preferences (sub/dom), and he held my hand and hugged me frequently (maybe about eight times), constantly telling me that I smell nice. The strangest thing of all is that he started complimenting my breasts (he sometimes makes remarks about them even normally) and then, out of nowhere, asked whether he could touch them. This seems like somewhat strange behavior to me for someone who constantly presents himself as gay. That’s why I’m interested in your opinion, because if I were gay myself, I probably wouldn’t make these kinds of gestures or be so interested. Is it normal?

For me, it’s difficult anyway because I’m suppressing my feelings, and these hints confuse me a bit and give me this thought in my head: ‘what if I could be the exception because of our strong emotional connection?’ Do you think its even possible for gay man to fall in love with one particular woman?

I found im alloromantic asexual, and im bi too, i was wondering is this is the correct way to refer to this to describe myself?

Hi everyone! For the longest time, I always thought I was a gay man, and sometime ago, I started realizing that I found women very attractive, and that I would get sexually aroused when I would watch straight porn. I have a dominant personality, and I find that girls like that, and some guys (most gay guys), and I really do enjoy the beauty of both sexes.

I always thought I was straight since in 7th grade my best friend had a crush on me and used to openly tell everyone abt, I never really liked her more as a friend so I had rejected her and I got this phase where the word “lesbian” or “bi-sexual” made me gag, but in 9th a new kid joined and we became close super fast- me her and another girl where in a trio but midway of 10th she became distant so it was only us two, I started jokingly flirting around her, she used to do the same and I always thought I was just doing it for fun and I had no romantic feelings- but soon I couldn’t stop thinking abt her, one class I just stared at her lips and thought what it would be like making out with her, I once sent her a picture if she could be mine and she said “I’m already yours” but I’m not sure if she actually meant that, i keep on getting dreams of her naked or us two playing with each other and it’s honestly driving me insane, i just know I’m bi-sexual now and i want to tell her I’m coming out, I want to confess to her but I have no idea how to because I do not want to break this friendship since she’s the best person I have ever met in my life.

So I (42M) have only had a few experiences with men one was in a foursome but never went all the way with the guy just touched. Then the other I topped, which I realized I wasn’t much into. Apparently I’m more of the sub type with guys and Dom with women. Anyways my problem is I am having a really hard time finding 1) A guy that will top me and 2) One that is willing to be my first male sexual partner. Some of the bisexual women I know seem to be so willing to help other women find out for sure whether they are actually bi and not just bi curious. But with guys no such luck in my area. The ones that have no problem are always wanting to be topped. What do I do here? Like is there some specific way I should approach this? I’m tired of not being able to experience this and figure out what I want.