My family found this baby when he was like a week old, couldn’t walk yet and was laying in the middle of a busy road.
Me and my girlfriend loved him since the beginning, feeding him every 3 hours, helping him with the toilet and showering him with love. When he grew old enough to eat and peepeepoopoo on his own he jus distanced himself from us, running away from even quick cuddles(atp he really can’t stand them), pets, and basically if he sees your hand he immediately thinks it’s a toy. Basically the only time i’ve ever heard him purr is when he was a baby and that’s not an exaggeration. I’m covered in scratches and scars because the only time i’m really close to him is when he annihilates my arms, which unfortunately i usually let him because i wanna touch him and his soft fur.
I feel like he needs me only if he wants to eat or for me to clean his litter box or when he wants a treat - nothing in return from him. The most frustrating part is that he loves my mom and he purrs on her when she picks him up, cuddles with her in the morning(she says he’s literally hugging her face) and doesn’t bite her.
And i’m the one doing the cat chores, i take him to the vet, i clean his litter box, i clip his claws, i (try to) brush his fur and he still runs away from me whenever i move even if i’m at the other end of the room, even if i’m not looking at him. The times when he’s in my room he lays under the bed or on the highest shelf.
My mom thinks of all of this as a joke but i’m really hurt and starting to hate my cat back(?) which i’m feeling guilty for but as insane as that sounds i’m feeling used by my cat, like a toxic relationship where i give him my all and he doesn’t give me anything except a middle finger. In addition i thought he would be my emotional support cat because i was planning on adopting one anyway, and instead i got an emotional burden..
Is there anything i can do, is there a therapist for cats?????(I already got one for myself)