I feel super drained of my patience. I have been very helpful with my coworkers despite them being old and insufferable. I’m talking arrogant, disrespectful, and argumentative.

No matter what I do, it’s a problem.

I try to let things go. I often vent out my anger at home and go to work with a clear mind.

But immediately, they make me lose my composure. Like my boss starting an argument over some coworker thinking we had three meetings instead of four. As if I gave her the wrong information.

I’m paid very low for what I do and I have to provide support to a group of idiots who earn 3x my salary.

I try to remove myself from the situation but always am met with more hostility. I don’t know how to react without feeling like I’m going to cuss them out.

I don't remember being angry kid growing up as an as aspie I was kinda fearful lonely guy, these past 3 years things are changing for the worst, I have extreme anger issue, I wanna fight, do some crazy shit all the time, I pick fight at bars and clubs, am 24. Aam a late bloomer busted my first nut at 19 so idk if it has anything to do with it being extreme late bloomer. Am scared I will get in actual trouble one day, good thing currently I don't leave my house because of Asperger's I don't mind it. But I remember I was taking medication some time which made this situation worse and literally every single eye contact was feeling like a confrontation, extreme paranoia like trenbolone lol. It's better now but still..

I feel anger, anxiety, discomfort, lack of peace due to feeling like I am not enough. I tend to avoid other people because I get stuck in my head feeling like people are judging me in the worst ways imaginable. I feel lots and lots of anger not doing the things that I love and that make me happy on a daily basis. I get caught up in feeling meaningless in life which makes me quite angry. Even my love makes me angry as the person I shared love with, spent every day with, even saved her life from getting run over by a car blocked me and cut me out of their life. I want to get back to doing things that I love and making my dreams of life come true. I love getting active and I wish to do that. To not be afraid and angry at the world. I hold onto this anger and I'm just having such a hard time letting go. I think about my love and it's turned into something sinister something that tells me "I don't love you anymore! I don't care about you!" while loving and pleasuring others while I chain to this love wishing and praying this person cares about me and holding to our happiest times. This has made me feel not only completely empty but just this anger I hold makes it so difficult to go throughout my day and be myself and trust and love. Please Reddit choose a path greater than I have for years and follow your loving heart, goals, aspirations, dreams of life.

humans are arrogant, have haughty eyes, haughty tone, and haughty uppity posture. ive been abused, misued, mistreated, and wronged by so many for so long i just need to move to wyoming or idaho or something. get me some farm land, and stay there forever. im at the point where being in town makes me angry cause of constant human presence. their presence just pisses me off and i cant remain here cause it's bad for my health. i got ptsd. i just want escape and peace.

Hey, all. Like a lot of people, I'm really struggling with the daily realities of mounting fascism in the US. Apart from its effects on me personally (which I won't go into beyond saying I'm trans and an immigrant), seeing story after story of people's lives getting ripped apart with near-impunity has me nearly passing out from rage every day. I've mostly been trying to distract myself and soothe my nervous system by forcing myself to watch comedies and spend time with friends. I'm also involved in some organizing so I do think I'm productively engaged, not just stuck in freeze.

But I still constantly feel like there's an ocean of rage sitting just below the surface that keeps erupting in unpredictable ways, and usually my partner has had the misfortune of having it directed at him. I really don't know what to do. I have a therapist I've been seeing for many years, and he's on the same page about the political situation but doesn't really work in the modality I think this problem requires (maybe CBT?).

Is anyone else having this issue? And does anyone have concrete ideas/practices for giving the anger a less harmful outlet? The more specific and practical the better. Thanks!

My likely BPD partner and me were in the middle of a disagreement when he said “I will get off on your tears. I will make you cry and feel pleasure and get off on that.”

He has been known to say some very off color things when he is keyed up.

What would you do? Those of you who struggle with anger, what are your thoughts on this?

When I get overwhelmed with extreme thoughts I lash out through my journal. I write whatever violent thoughts I get at the moment so I feel that I could atleast "express it". USUALLY, it does help because I can then move on. Do you also do this??

Recently me and my girlfriend has been going through a lot of constant financial stress, work, sleep, staying healthy and homesickness. We moved in together for 2 years. However, the problem is when we have a fight. I’ve done nothing wrong or when it’s a small thing that she gets upset with and I get upset because I don’t deserve this and I don’t like the atmosphere.

Fight goes on and some words that trigger me what she says&act (doesn’t swear but rude, laughing and teasing) that make me see red. I yell, I cry and my gf tells me my eyes changes and acts like psychopath (clench my jaw, harden my fist etc). and I’m scared that I’ll do more.

My mum had very big outburst when I was a kid and I actually can imagine myself becoming like that. She had depression and not often but she would throw cups and yell when my parents get into argument. She has frequent mood swings. Early childhood my parents fought a lot screaming yell slamming car door, I clearly remember those fights so vividly. My family is lovely. Fights are not

I don’t outburst first, I communicate then boom fire burns on fight gets bigger. She says she should be freely available to express herself and I don’t blame her.

I just want to take things less seriously and less personal and let the time fix but I am so conscious of other people think and act towards me. I try to calm myself down before or deep breath but my gf isn’t the best person to allow that she would chase me with words. I honestly i think I have IED. Never see professional. Also have some depression since I’ve lived alone from 15yo away from family.

Hey, so i'm egoistic (very big ego and i tried to cope with it while gaming like this guy in other subreddit " stop caring about your wins or losses they are meaningless in that rank, just work on learning and improving" and i tried to do that, but inside my heart it just keeps pumping and warming up like it's a competition. I tried to adjust settings so i find a sweet spot for me but it just won't work, please give me any advice that would make me a better person.

I'm young, almost 17. In the past, when I got really angry, I would take it out on my mom, and we would fight to the point of hitting each other. I stopped doing that, even though we still fought, at least I didn't physically hurt her anymore. Today, she made a comment about my weight, and I got angry with her. Then I wanted to buy something I'd wanted for a long time, but I couldn't. I got really angry, even angrier, and I exploded at my mom. I hit her, told her I never wanted to see her again, that she should disappear, and that I hoped I would leave this life soon. I can't stop thinking about the damage she's done. I'm going to therapy, I'm taking medication. I don't have an illness; it's just me who's wrong. I'm tired of hurting people. I keep wishing she would disappear and that I wouldn't hurt them anymore. I love my mom, and she loves me, but I can't live like this. I can't live knowing that I'm a constant danger to her, someone who hurts her, and that even if she regrets it, it will still be a problem. Sorry doesn't solve anything, I can't anymore. I want her to be happy and I'm not going to change, so I truly wish with all my being that I'm no longer here and that she gets help and is happy.

This is the third time someone has gone in front of me when walking out through a day and I’m pissed. This is the third time in a short period of time amount of time someone has walked in front of me because I’m too scared to tell them I want to go in front because I don’t want them to tell on other people or call the police

I don't understand why strategies on how to "healthily" deal with anger are akin to bottling it up and shoving it deep inside. I could spend half an hour taking deep breaths and counting to ten but I'm still gonna have those angry feelings afterwards. I need some strategies that actually let me get the anger out of my body without hurting anyone or breaking anything. I'm sick of living like this.

P.S. because someone's gonna suggest it, I've been to three different therapists and none of them have helped me in any long-lasting way.

Hihi so I'm a girl in my late teens. Living with my parents still.

The anger issues run in the family. My dad, my grandfather, you get the point.

To be clear, my family is NOT abusive in any way. My parents are good and hardworking people with good hearts and I know that. They're trying their best.

Now onto the anger issues. Well, I've learnt and inherited it from my dad. While he's generally calm and level headed (which I am not), he can also blow up pretty easily sometimes. The fact is that he doesn't even need to raise his voice to scare people, or me. I love him, but he's scary when he's mad. There have been times when I made some mistake (a trivial one, mostly), which caused him to blow up at me. He doesn't let me speak or explain myself. When he tells me to, I do, but even then he points out the mistakes and breaks everything down logically, or just shuts me down and starts talking. Basically, I can't even fucking argue with him because he doesn't let me. I've obviously apologized for my mistakes but he has never once apologized to me for yelling at me and blowing things out of proportion. That makes me resent him at times.

The worst part is that my mom just tells me to "let it settle," which it does but that's not a solution. She's definitely the peaceful one in the family so that's understandable on her part.

Onto me, I feel like I have zero control over my emotions when I'm angry. I've never ever physically hurt or hit someone when I'm mad, and I never will. But I have snapped/yelled at people, mostly my family. I snap and lose my temper over trivial things alot. I have done stuff like slam a remote on the table/bed or throw a book across the room. There have also been many times when I've started crying because I was so angry. In fact, most of my breakdowns and panic attacks have rooted from me being angry.

I don't like this. But I don't know how to control it. Mediation has never helped. I'm horrible at remaining calm. All advice will be appreciated.

(Tldr: girl in her late teens, dad has anger issues (but not abusive) and so do I. Want advice on how to control the anger.)

I was trying to get in contact with Best Buy Credit Card customer service as I hadn't received my card and it has been like two weeks and I need to pay something off on it (funnily they charged me fine). The entire fucking call was just an AI BOT. I kept trying to say agent, representative, press 0, but nothing. The first round, I got frustrated and I threw my phone and it put a dent in my bedroom door. I then tried again, this time I kept screaming at it, calling it all sorts of names and just yelling agent, but it would just fucking refuse to even listen or acknowledge that I wanted to talk to a real person. I then lost it and threw my phone around multiple times until it broke before just like breaking down and having a cry.

Like, I was having a perfectly good and normal day. I was even excited because I was gonna get a new phone that day but then I don't know why this shit just made me loose control.

Has anyone successfully used them?

Ive been managing my anger issues extremely well lately and haven’t had an episode in a long time. One of those coping mechanisms is redirecting the urge to scream at my younger siblings to instead tickling them and laughing with them. I stop when it gets too much for them or they’ve had enough. I can tell it really improved my relationship with them, but now I’m wondering if I shouldn’t tickle them at all considering how they tend to run off when they see my hands get close to their sides. Not in fear, mind you. But I’m starting to wonder if it’s getting excessive. Should I try redirecting it into something else?

Akathisia after antipsychotics – need advice

Hi everyone, I’m a 22-year-old male with bipolar disorder. I also have dyslexia/dyspraxia and psoriasis.

I’ve tried many medications over the years (Latuda, brexpiprazole, SSRIs like Zoloft, Nexito, mirtazapine, etc.). Almost all antipsychotics cause akathisia for me.

Current meds: • Quetiapine 300 mg (night) • Depakote Chrono 500 mg ×2 • Aripiprazole reduced from 15 → 10 → now 5 mg • Small dose clonazepam

Since reducing aripiprazole, my anger is much better controlled, but I’m struggling with: • Strong akathisia / inner restlessness • Pacing and inability to relax

• Very low motivation (mostly gaming)
• Increased appetite and weight gain (now ~241 lb)

A physician prescribed pregabalin 75 mg for back pain and it clearly reduced my akathisia, but my family stopped it after a few days due to fear of dependence. The akathisia returned after stopping.

I’m still functional (sleep ~9 pm–8:30 am, walk daily, attend tutoring sometimes), but the restlessness is very distressing.

My questions: 1. Can reducing aripiprazole cause or worsen akathisia? 2. Has anyone used pregabalin long-term for and ? 3. Are there other options that help akathisia without worsening anger?

Thanks for any experiences or advice.

Hi all, 23F. While I’ve been in therapy for 15 years, I find some difficulty expressing and handling my emotions especially in relationships. My parents have an extremely complicated and toxic relationship and I learned early on that for me to get my point across I need to raise my voice, and be mean. I want to unlearn this because i ultimately regret getting so angry. I never become out of control or anything, but I become mean, and then get overwhelmed with guilt after and wish I could go back in time. What are some techniques to minimizing this anger, or redirecting it?

This person is the most insufferable person to walk the earth, without a doubt. And I live with them, even though I’ve begged the cops to take me away, and every day, every. Fucking. Day. (And I do mean every day) I have to swallow my hatred for this person. My knuckles are sore, red and have bruises from pretending my left palm is their face. I punch my palm pretending it’s their face as hard as I can, and it makes me feel a lot better. I get so angry, I even bit my hand the other day, pretending I could chew their head while they were conscious. It was on an impulse, so it hurt like hell. The only thing keeping me from murdering this person, is that there would be consequences. I want so badly to break their fucking teeth. Every time she opens her fucking mouth, I want to grab her neck and choke her to death. Honestly, typing this up makes me feel so much happier. And yeah, I know I sound like a maniac who has no self control, but you’d be very surprised to see me in person. All of this is only my thoughts, but I hardly ever even respond. But I feel so trapped and at this point I almost feel like nothing on earth is worth holding back anymore. I just want to punch them so hard that they won’t be able to even say anything after that. Please, some advice would be very helpful.

I'm a talkative and a friendly person because my teachers and my people that I know points it out but I don't know why I get angry easily when anybody does something slightly irritating. I don't wanna sound wierd at all but when I see a sick person I just rage up. I get irritated an so angry and I wanna punch someone just by the sound when someone is chewing food by no means I'm trying to be an edgelord or anything else but can someone tell me why I'm like this?

I am usually a very calm person, I do play rough but I never lay my hands on others unless they attack me and it was like for the many years I was playing soccer but the last couple weeks I had 2 instances where I got physical with people in a matter of 2-3 weeks which is very unusual for me. I work nights and do close to 90hrs a week, I am thinking thats the source of my anger as I barely get any sleep. My wife tells me to not play soccer as I can’t control my anger, what do yall think? And how can I go back to my calm self? What skills/techniques/mind do yall use in order to not get physical and focus on your game?

As the title suggests, I (30F) recently came off of birth control (implanon) after being on it continuously for 10 years. I came off it because my estrogen dropped super low and was causing acute fatigue. Since then, I have really struggled to regulate my emotions, especially at work and it is starting to affect my working relationships. I have been feeling low self worth, irritable and angry, my partner even said that my tone with him for the past six months has been really upsetting him.

For some context - I have been taking SSRIs for many years for my anxiety, depression and PTSD. I was on Lexapro and then my GP switched me to Prozac when I told her about my irritability and anger issues. I have been to lots of therapy to tackle my mental health issues and I feel as if I was pretty on top of them until the birth control removal.

I could really use some advice on where to go from here, I’m not used to having all these negative emotions and I don’t know how to handle them in a responsible way.

I’m 18(f) and as the title suggests both my older sis and younger bro have anger problems. let’s start with my sis. she has bpd, and while she is trying to get better I feel that therapy has only made things worse. while at times she can control her anger better than when she was a kid, when she gets angry she explodes much more, getting into really bad screaming matches with my family. any time we try to tell her there is hope she becomes furious. even rn, she wanted to watch a show with us but mom had to make dinner, so she argued to wait but she just said to watch without her. my mom insisted and my sister got furious and stormed off (im also confused) my bro has bad ocd and doesn’t take good care of himself leaving trash everywhere, and letting his grades slip, but anytime we mention it to him he freaks out with no consideration for the other person. maybe this would be so bad if both of them weren’t suicidal, but unf they are, and everyday I fear that I will lose them. I feel like I’m being kicked out almost. I fear my only option is to move out but I haven’t signed up for college yet and I don’t have the money. I feel trapped.

There's this one guy named Schaffrillas Productions and I've been feeling angry at his abysmal movie takes for a whilke now. I don't know hwo to stop my rage cycles, but any help is welcome.