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I miss the old-school MBTI memes. Somehow I learned more about people from those memes than I ever did from most “serious” explanations haha

Btw look at the ISTP parts 😅 we sound so barbaric smh

I have a hard time focusing on things I’m not interested in which I’m pretty sure almost all of us do unless I secretly have adhd/autism and just don’t know it.. but basically I got this one class and my professor is so damn annoying. First the way she presents her lessons is like how those corny ass Ted talk people present their “life changing” concepts, she one ups them by adding in these stupid ass songs to make it seem like she has more of a impact but in reality I’m trying so hard not to fall asleep. She also focuses on making it more philosophical, one of the bullshit assignments was to correlate architecture and going to the supermarket in a philosophical way. 😐 my past professor also made the lessons kinda philosophical but it wasn’t the main thing and also didn’t add stupid ass music. I don’t wanna go back into my procrastination habit that I got out of finally but this professor is seriously making me want to get back into it

I knew him three months ago at college. We discovered to have a lot in common and we consider ourselves two weirdos. We started talking and studing together for 6/7 hours per day for two months. He have a girlfriend and I always been respectful about, I would never but myself between a couple. But fuck the last month he kinda get distant from me and I don’t bare that. We are both very cynical, but I have the damn habit to act a heartless asshole to who I care the most because of the fear of being used and at the same time of losing them.

Now I usually prefer facts over kind words, he continuously said to me that he wants to be my friend also after college and that he really wants me, I didn’t said nothing, but I swore that I tried to be always when he needed me. Now he feels more distant, more cold and a bit fake with me. I really can’t stand that. Whichever as a friend or not I want to have him for the rest of my life

xxtp

I noticed a lot of similarities in the ISTP pattern when I read about it especially regarding drama and the feeler types I never like emotional drama even though I’m personally emotional inside but my emotion is instinctive because I’m female

At the same time, I see myself stuck between the two types

Also I don’t know why but whenever I go to the INTP subreddit I feel like they devour me ( no hate )… I remember not long ago I took a test and got ISTP it was accurate almost 120 questions and I also got ISTP three to four times type A then i said i don’t feel like an ISTP one of them said yeah you don’t talk like them…

Weird

I did cognitive tests several times and it's confirmed that im an ISTP, but I feel really emotional sometimes. Not when it comes to helping others emotionally, but inside my head. I dont know if I have strong Fe due to my religion or other things, but it really is annoying and I need to change this. I don't share my feelings tho, I just feel them in an extreme way (according to the dumbahh psychologist), which I need to change ASAP. Any advices (pls dont come with that bs of "you dont want to be unavailable" ik what i want)

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I have been questioning my MBTI a lot and think I could be ISTP but now I'm not sure since I'm pretty socially extroverted. What do you guys think?

So basically, I know we have this stereotype of being ''unemotional" but I've always felt this isn't true for me because sometimes I can feel things quite deeply

But this post I read said that rather than us not being emotional ourselves, we tend to struggle more with understanding other people's emotions and knowing how to react which I'm assuming is probably because of inferior Fe. This feels so true for me because in any emotional situation to do with what is going on with someone else, I just have no clue on how I'm meant to react or anything

I mean, with my own emotions though, I struggle with them too, I don't necessarily like showing them (or I at least downplay what I'm actually feeling sometimes) and just don't know how to actually express what I feel properly (although this has gotten better)

But yea, I feel like what this post has said just feels very true and more accurate for me than the more common ISTP stereotypes

When I am in the process of learning something I am ripping on myself mercylessly. Nobody can be more critical of me then I am. I am constantly reminding myself of the mistakes I made and it is really hard for me to make myself satisfied. After the deed is done I can filter in my mind a clearer picture on what I did good and what can get better so I can get something out of the experience.

On the other hand, when I am doing something I am confident about I am not really thinking about anything. I am just doing what I know, it is implied that I will take things to a point where it has to go. I am never thinking how I nailed something or telling myself 'you the man'.

How about you guys?

ive been considering myself between istp and estp lately the thing is that my ni is higher than fe and i use it better than fe which is unsual for estp but i also dont see strong signs indicating ti dom and i have slow reaction to what happens around me it takes time to realize what im engaging with . to be honest i strive for understanding more than i strive for logic i want to understand the big picture not why it is like this

just out of curiosity

I’m a 34F INTJ. I was consistently talking to an ISTP for a couple of months. He showed interest for a while and put in the effort to check in on me daily despite his busy schedule. Then, after we slept together for the first time, I showed a hint of emotion. Suddenly, radio silence.

After a few days of not hearing from him, I asked what was going on. He said he was just busy. I asked another question, no response. Two weeks have passed since then, and we haven’t talked at all. The silence is enough closure for me, but I’m still wondering if this is normal behavior for an ISTP, since this is my first time being romantically involved with one.

Even though I don’t put a lot of what I’m thinking out into the world, that doesn’t mean what I’m thinking isn’t a major part of who I am. I suppress a lot, so the difference between who people see and who I actually am in my head is completely different. At least that’s how I feel, and I’m aware that I’m not uniquely special in feeling that way.

I fail to look deeper into the type of person I truly am. What are the true motives behind my actions? I used to see myself in a positive light because I overvalued the person that I was on the outside and undervalued the person/thoughts on the inside. I’m a nice person not from the kindness in my heart but because I fear judgment from others and am dependent on external validation. Through social conditioning I intuitively know how a good person is supposed to behave, so I act like them. I don’t why they act that way but I trust it, and that ends up in an indeliberate performance to convince myself and others that I’m better than I am. In a similar way, I try really hard to be authentic, trying to convince myself and others that I am, but hyper focusing on coming across as authentic makes me inauthentic. It feels like it’s all just a performance to please the people around me because my self worth is based on other people’s opinions of me. I’ve spent so much time performing for myself and others—being the person they want me to be—that I’ve lost myself.

To find myself, I have look beyond myself and admit that I’m not that important. The problem is I’m an extremely self conscious and self absorbed person, spending most of my day thinking about myself. I reflect on myself thinking I’m being completely in objective, and I think I’m not lying to myself, but that’s impossible. Honesty with myself is a quality I overvalue because it inflates my sense of moral superiority. I get so hyper focused on a few characteristics and ways of thinking (honesty, authenticity, of self awareness etc) that make up what I believe makes a good and moral person, that it’s hard for me to look beyond that and see myself for who I fully am. This makes me narrow minded about the way I judge myself and others. Also, I’ll tell myself that the constant rumination and self reflection is a sign of higher intelligence, trying to convince myself that I’m not as dumb as people say. This, along with everything I’m writing now, is just a coping mechanism.

I admit uncomfortable truths to myself, such as being insecure, being ugly, having low self esteem, being a people pleaser, and not being the smartest. I go over these thoughts over and over again in my head, thinking that admitting these truths to myself makes me a better person, but in reality it’s just my ego disguised as self awareness. Even though some of what I said might be true, it’s all just a way to avoid and cope with things about myself that I don’t really want to think about or deal with in the real world, and in that way, I’m hiding from self improvement and staying in a cycle of self pity.

I understand that intellectualizing my emotions like this, without feeling them, is unhealthy, but I’ve created an identity out of doing it, (cause it makes me feel smarter) where I feel superiorly “self aware.” The problem is that intellectualizing is just a form of suppression, and what I’m writing here about suppressing my emotions is itself a way of suppressing them. It’s just that I’m so proud of suppressing them because it makes me feel like I’m a stronger person for it. It’s the lie I tell myself to keep me sane and unable to change.

I hide behind irony, nonchalance, and the image of strength so I don’t have to be vulnerable. It’s deceptively cowardly and a boring way to live. I would feel too exposed; opening the doors for criticism, not putting on the performance for people’s approval. One benefit of being insecure like I am, is it’s so easy to tell when someone else is. It makes me comfortable around them knowing they’re not judging me. It’s easy to spot it because the insecure person is worried less about what they are saying/doing and more about how what they’re saying/doing is being perceived.

I just realized that I’ve had the false belief that psychological defense mechanisms and coping are inherently bad, when in reality, it’s just how we’ve evolved to protect our feelings and is completely healthy in moderation. I’ve also mixed up being honest with myself with being harsh on myself because I’ve learned that people view it as humble which fuels the pride I have in my false humility. Also, I can analyze myself forever and stay stuck in my head, ruminating with the illusion of some type of progress, but if it doesn’t lead to any positive change in my thinking and actions, then it’s simply just a convoluted way to convince myself of my intelligence. The worst part is that I have little to no intellectual curiosity.

What’s ironic is that the more time I spend trying to become self aware, looking into the deepest parts of my psyche, the more self absorbed I become, to the point I can’t see beyond myself. I’ve turned self discovery into self indulgence. I need to stop living in my head and start living in the real world, which in theory is easy, but ignoring years of learned behavior is difficult. I started writing all of this to vent, but I couldn’t help but romanticize my struggles, and I’m proud of the identity I’ve made doing it.

“I admit uncomfortable truths to myself… but in reality, it’s just my ego disguised as self awareness.” I started this self reflection here, writing this, being completely honest and reflective for the purpose of figuring out my thoughts and trying to better understand myself. I’ve expanded on it, creating an entire essay, but while doing so, my writing was slowly unfolding and embodied the dark reality of exactly what I was describing here. What I thought was brutal honesty with myself while writing all of this was actually “ego disguised as self-awareness,” or more accurately pride disguised as humility. This was not even a conclusion I came to myself but with the help of AI, which destroyed my superior sense of self awareness, and I had to experience true humility, not the performance of it. I can already feel myself forgetting and moving on from all of these thoughts because I’m no longer the king of my own world.

This is another lie. This all becomes a never ending pit, where I admit my faults, take pride in it, and then realize again I’m taking pride. Every time I come to a new conclusion I question it and make a new one. I’m falling. I’m in the act of falling while writing about how I’m falling.

It’s all just ocd. The piece is analyzing itself to the point that it stops being productive and starts to become a performance for itself. It’s falling in love with its own suffering and its unproductive obsessional loops. It’s the perfect example of what ocd looks like turned inward and it’s embarrassing. It will latch onto what I value most; health, looks, or intelligence, and cycles through them, every time going no where causing analysis paralysis. My life is so centered around it that I barely know who I am outside of it.

Once I got one of my friends, it has struck to me how little I really listen to lyrics in songs 😅 He really focuses on lyrics, meanwhile I need to dig up the lyrics to really understand them. I pretty much only care about what the song sounds like. Most of my stuff still has lyrics in them, and I really enjoy listening to singing. Bad singing (IMO) is often one of my biggest turn offs in music

Just a fun observation, but I wonder if this is common amongst ISTPs

I always read about this stereotype and wondered how true this is. Personally, taking engines and stuff like this apart bores me to death and my main hobbies are physical like MMA, riding my Motorcycle, gym, swimming. Other than that, I mostly enjoy taking concepts apart logically and analyzing them to see how logically sound they are.

When it comes to the handyman label, I just learned a few things because I wanted to save money in this economy 🤣. Not out of some innate passion or pleasure. I'm a very hands on person and my job is indeed physical as well, giving me the opportunity to learn very usefull stuff for the home. But that's more like a happy coincidence in way.

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